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Death in the family
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Posted by: sidney

We received some bad news. My wife's father was in a work related accident last Friday. He was working in a pit by the road. A big truck hit a small parked car that hit their construction trailer that fell in the pit on him. He had a headset on to listen to the wires and probably never heard it coming. He is a supervisor for the electric company and works mostly on the underground cable portion. Sunday they amputated his legs and part of his hip. Tuesday he was still in a coma and on a respirator. Wednesday he died. We had asked her mother to postpone the funeral until Sunday since that was as soon as we were able to get there. I guess they use less embalming and refrigeration then we do because today is the funeral. There is a three and nine day series of events for after the funeral. We decided that it best if just my wife goes.
There never is a good time for something like this but things are pretty hectic at this time. My wife will miss the final two weeks of this college semester.
Her father was a good man that will be much missed.
Sid

Posted by: OzGuyLooking

I am sorry to read such sad news. I hope your wife, her family, and you also, can find peace at such a sad time. Your all in my thoughts.

Posted by: Pin Boy

sidney,

my condolences to you and your wife.

pin boy

Posted by: Khashyar

I'm really sorry, Sid.

I know that it is a sad time for your wife, you and her family.

Even though what happened was tragic, I hope that you, your wife and her family become closer and strengthen the love that you have for one another as a result of what happened.

Khashyar

Posted by: Cheburashka

Our prayers will be with you and your family.

Posted by: AkMike

We're sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and yours in this time of sorrow.
Mike and Tanya

Posted by: Jill

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Posted by: Chrismc

Sorry to hear of your loss Sid.

Posted by: firemansam

Very sad news Sid.

Posted by: Texas Proud

It is a tragedy.. nobody wants to loose their parents before they are old...

Hope everything will be OK with you MIL...

Posted by: sidney

Iniatially all three of us were going to attend the funeral. She thought it a bad idea to take our son. He is four and constantly talking in english. My wife felt this may put us in danger on the street. When I realized that we couldn't make the funeral I decided it best for my wife to go alone. I was only able to get tickets thru lot, polish airlines. Everyone else was booked. I took her to Newark International for check-in when they informed us that the plane would be four hours late. This meant that the Newark/ Warsaw leg wouldn't arrive in time to catch the Warsaw/ Kiev leg. They said the only option was Newark/ Warsaw/ Frankford/ Kiev. The bad news was that she would arrive at Kiev at 11 PM instead of 1 PM as originally booked. We figured there were no other options so we took it. I explained that I felt she may be in danger arriving at that time. They went to get tickets and came back with good news. They were able to get her on a plane to Paris and then to Kiev arriving at 2 PM. We always seem to have problems with lot airlines but in the end are treated fairly.
We do thank you for your prayers and concerns. This is much appreciated.
I am glad that my wife is able to take part in the after funeral programs. From what I've learned there is a service for the deceased three days after the funeral. They believe the soul is still close to the body during this period. A final service is 12 days after the funeral for the souls assent to heaven.
Sid

Posted by: BradIL

sidney... truly heart-breaking that you can't join her...

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Originally Posted by sidney

She thought it a bad idea to take our son. He is four and constantly talking in english. My wife felt this may put us in danger on the street.

It is that serious??? I always thought this was half folklore.

Posted by: sidney

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It is that serious??? I always thought this was half folklore.

I don't even attemp to argue against her folklore or superstitions. What was ironic was before her fathers death her feet itched and she felt like they had to be scratched. This means that you will go on a long trip. She was thinking that maybe I was surprising her with a vacation. Even on the way to the airport she was saying see my feet are itching again. I guess sometimes even these half folklores can be correct.
Sid

Posted by: searcher

My condolences. What a truly tragic event!

Posted by: sidney

I received a phone call at 2 AM. She got there OK but her luggage didn't. She was glad I insisted she carry a change of clothes in her carry-on. The remainder is to arrive in two days.
She is excited to be there for pasha. Her brothers wife is due in two weeks so if it's early she may be there for the birth.Very little has changed in Nikolaev since we were there two plus years ago. There will be much that I'll learn about funerals and such before this is over.
Two weeks apart will be some kind of record for us. It seems we are always doing everything together. I did notice that she lost some weight on the way to the airport. I believe this is a very difficult time for her. I've been there. Like her I was also 26 when I lost my mother in an accident. Both accidents invovled a big truck, trailer and a small car. The trailer being what caused the fatality.
Sid

Posted by: neil277

We are really sorry, Sid.

It is a sad time for your wife, you and her family.

Soon everything will be better.
Natallie and Neil

Posted by: JamesB

Very sorry to hear of your loss.My thoughts are with you both.