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First Meeting (kissing or hugging your Russian girlfriend/ fiance when first meet?)
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Posted by: Laters

All right guys... say it's your first time meeting your girl at the airport. Do you go in for the full on kiss or keep it simple with a hug and kiss on cheek?

What have others done in the past?

Is there any social etiquette here?

Posted by: ConnerVT

It depends. The situation is different for every two people.

Although RW are typically more reserved when it comes to public displays of attention, this reserve can manytimes be forgotten in the excitement of finally meeting someone special.

So it depends. On how excited she is, and how special she thinks you are.

My suggestion? Don't try to choreograph the details. Just follow her lead. Paying attention to physical clues, you will learn more about her than you did in all of your letters and phone calls.

Posted by: golek

I agree. Don't plan, just do what feels natural. What I love most about my relationship with my fiancee is that from the day we first met in person, I never once wondered what I should do or say next. We cliqued so well, that everything with her is so natural. I have never in my life felt so in step with someone.

Posted by: Khashyar

Yes... I agree with Conner and Gole to play it by ear and do what feels natural, and pay attention to the nonverbal clues from your girlfriend....

If you're not sure what seems appropriate, a hug definitely seems like a safe bet, and a kiss on the cheek is probably safe (since Russians have a custo of kissing on the cheek to say goodbye or hello to close friends and family)...

But, I think that since Russians are more conservative than Westerners about public displays of affection, it would be safer to start expressing intimate physical affection slowly, after the two of you have spent a bit of time with one another, and until you understand what she feels comfortable with....

If you meet and are unsure as to what feels comfortable, then play it safer...

Khashyar

Posted by: j_c

Hi Laters

Have just been through the same situation myself a couple of weeks ago , and I pondered about this and what we would say when we first met at the airport .

I agree with the other guys , for me when we met it was all just natural , and the awkwardness and the worry just dissapeared as soon as we met , and to quote golek "what I love most about my relationship with my fiancee is that from the day we met in person , I never once wondered what I shold say or do next. We cliqued so well , that everything is so natural. I have never in my life felt so in step with someone" . I think this just hits the nail on the head! Could not have put it better myself!

I hope that this is how you feel when you meet your lady later!

regards

John

Posted by: golek

Try to think about the situation from her perspective. Assuming you've had quite a bit of correspondence up to this point, she will probably be feeling quite a bit of anxiety when she meets you at the airport for the first time. She'll be having thoughts like, "What if he doesn't like me" or "What if he thinks I am ugly?" I think it is a safe bet that she won't be having thoughts like, "I hope he slides me the tougue!" Try to reassure her a little to cure her of these anxieties when you first meet and BE RESPECTFUL. Then let the rest take care of itself.

Posted by: Laters

Quote:

"I hope he slides me the tougue!"

LMAO!!!!!! Thanks for the feedback. It's obvious that I'm way over thinking this.

Posted by: Khashyar

That's ok...

Just enjoy the new experience of meeting her for the first time

I actually filmed (myself) when Lena and I first met at the airport.... In the next few weeks, I will try to post that (and some other video clips) on this website once I have transferred them to MPEG format from DV)...

I am sure that things will be fine at your first meeting... You can experience the joy and excitement of meeting for the first time...

Khashyar

Posted by: klawsite

Geesh Gole!!

So much for Plan A!! I guess Plan B is ok:-)))

I was sure hoping she would be thinking 'Slide me the tongue big boy!!!' Oh well.. Plan B it is!

Kevin

Posted by: Laters

Well I'm exactly one week away from being in Minsk. Over the last two months, my girl and I have gotten to know each other so much better, which has led to us having much stronger feelings for each other.

I know we haven't met and you never are quite sure if the chemistry from the phone and the letters will be the same in person but I'm afraid I've let my feelings get the best of me in the last 2 1/2 weeks. The same has also happened to her.

Anybody else get these intense feelings right before meeting their girl for the first time and find it hard to keep a rational head??

Posted by: klawsite

Laters,

Just be yourself. That is what I'm sure she likes about you. Everything else will take its course. Just relax and enjoy the trip!!
Got the chocolates??;-)

Kevin

Posted by: Aaron Chase

My fiance has made up her mind she wants me to kiss her when I step off the plane. Who am I to say no? It will be our first meeting, so there's really no reason not to for us....

Posted by: Khashyar

Hi Laters....

I think it is normal for both of you to feel a rush of excitement before you meet in person...

That is part of the excitement of having a long-distance relationship.

Before I met Lena for the first time, I had rode a train for about 25 hours, and then flew about 4 hours by plane

I was jet-lagged and a bit out of it, but it was still nice to meet for the first time...

After Lena and I had me at the airport and then got into taxi and were driven about half-way to Lena's great aunt's house in Moscow, I realized that I hadn't picked up my checked-in bags and we had to tell the taxi driver to turn around and go back to the airport....

When we arrived at the airport, there was another many from Texas who had lost his bags (and airport officials had no luck in locating them), but fortunately, my bags were there and untampered with

All of this was caused by the excitement of meeting Lena for the first time....

Khashyar

Posted by: Khashyar

(p.s... welcome to the RMP forums, Aaron.... and Klawsite.... I grew up in Oxford, Ohio... )

Posted by: klawsite

Thanks Khashyar!

Memo for trip to Mogilev!!
Another note for the check list. Don't forget bags at baggage pickup in Minsk!! Easy to remember now, but much more difficult to remember then. I have two months plus before my trip and I am already getting excited!!!

-Kevin!!

Posted by: spamer

wow, I'm glad this question got asked. I keep reminding myself to think Russian not American while in Russia.

( I guess grabbing a butt cheek is out of the question too).

Posted by: klawsite

If you come back with a broken jaw, we will know why!! Butt cheek!! Ok.. forget Plan C. We are back to Plan B again!!!;-)

Just kidding everyone!!