Meeting Dad

Originally Posted by jeffs

I'd love to hear about your experiences in meeting you Russian (FSU State) Father-in law. How many of you asked him for permission?

Originally Posted by Jill

Oh, inlove, you don't know anything about Russian women

Originally Posted by heychuck

With all due respect InLove, you don't know what you are talking about !!

Granted no matter what the parents say you are free to do whatever you want. However, in Russian culture the Russian woman looks highly on you asking for permission, and a parents blessing will save you trouble down the road.

I HIGHLY recommend doing it... from my experience and the experience of others.

Originally Posted by inlove

As I said, it is very individual. It might have been important for your gf, but it does not mean it is important for everybody else. How old was your gf?
A 30 year old woman with a child will probably find it laughable if you take this "custom" seriously..It helps if you have good relations with the parents, but a formal parental blessing will not save you trouble down the road, only your own efforts will. Sorry to burst the bubble.

Originally Posted by jeffs

InLove...

It's a gesture purely out of respect for the father. She's 24, a while back he had some real concerns about who this crazy American was that she was always on the phone or computer with. (She lives at home, and are fairly well off by Russian standards in that region)I ended up sending him a letter that seemed to take some of the mystery out of it, but her running off to Kiev with me for a long weekend went over like a fart in an elevator. To her family is very important and marrying in Russia is very important as well.

She also told me it was not expected, but thought it was a nice gesture. My primary goal is to ensure that I don’t create problems with that relationship, and ensure to him that there is a level of respect there for his position and desire for his daughters well being.

I primarily posted this to get feedback on other peoples experiences.

Originally Posted by heychuck

She was 30 years old with a child right on the button.

Originally Posted by inlove

Well.. If a grownup woman with a child is still under her father's rule, there is, how russians say, "something wrong in a conservatory". Women, generally, become quite independent early on in Russia, even if they live together with their parents, but each case is different, I assume.

Originally Posted by hdtmed

He introduced me to Vodka and told Natasha after three shots of Vodka he understood me without a translator.

Originally Posted by heychuck

Good luck with her dad Jeffs. I removed my opinion from this thread as it only brought insults to me and my wife.