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Wedding in 10 days -- Need ideas
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Posted by: mikeT

My fiancee has her K-1 Visa, but I wasn't expecting her for another 4 - 6 weeks. I was surprised and pleased to learn that she will enter the US next week. I very much wanted to marry her before Christmas, for personal reasons mostly, but also because of the huge tax savings, so I am very happy (of course making me happy is the main reason she did it).

Now however I am faced with planning a wedding that will take place in only 10 days, and I don't know diddly about how to do it. She says she doesn't care what I do, as long as she can have a second ceremony in Russia next year; and besides it's her third marriage; but nevertheless I want it to be special, because it's our marriage, and not just 'the third'.

What I'm thinking is 1) have the wedding at my house (not as farfetched as it sounds -- i live in a restored 1891 Victorian, filled with antiques, really quite romantic); 2) invite no more than 5 or 10 of my friends 3) use a non-denominational minister, one of the ones who make a business of marrying people 4) put lots of flowers out 5) have some good champagne and a professionally-decorated wedding cake 6) put a video camera on a tripod to record the ceremony 7) put a WebCam somewhere in case her parents are able to watch (a lot depends on when I can get a minister -- 12 noon is 2 am Siberia time) 8) find someone who can sit in the front parlor and play Mendelssohn and Wagner on my 1880 pipe organ.

I've got all the bases covered, I think; but it's not 'special', and there's nothing 'Russian' about it. The entire Russian ceremony takes three days, and requires family members, of which neither of us have any in this country, but we could at least recite vows in Russian, if I could find any.

Given my constraints -- one week to plan everything and clean the house as well -- does anyone have any ideas that they would be williing to share

Posted by: joelunchbox

Well, this could be your wedding for her. It should reflect your personality. Quick, think what flowers she likes, anything that reflects what you know about her--throw that in and voila'. It is a wedding. Just have a bouquet for her to throw at the end. I think the "real" wedding will be in Russia. Don't stress, it will kind of be like a freebie, right? Anything that goes wrong this time you get to do over! Can't lose.

Posted by: compucowboy

Just a thought... I'm not sure where you live Mike, or if this is still required, but do you live in a state where blood tests are required, or do you need the license 30 days in advance?
Of course if you were in Nevada, none of that would apply...

Good Luck with it all. Planning a wedding is a lot of work.

Posted by: RobOhioGuy

Quote:

Originally Posted by mikeT

My fiancee has her K-1 Visa, but I wasn't expecting her for another 4 - 6 weeks. I was surprised and pleased to learn that she will enter the US next week. I very much wanted to marry her before Christmas, for personal reasons mostly, but also because of the huge tax savings, so I am very happy (of course making me happy is the main reason she did it).

Now however I am faced with planning a wedding that will take place in only 10 days, and I don't know diddly about how to do it. She says she doesn't care what I do, as long as she can have a second ceremony in Russia next year; and besides it's her third marriage; but nevertheless I want it to be special, because it's our marriage, and not just 'the third'.

What I'm thinking is 1) have the wedding at my house (not as farfetched as it sounds -- i live in a restored 1891 Victorian, filled with antiques, really quite romantic); 2) invite no more than 5 or 10 of my friends 3) use a non-denominational minister, one of the ones who make a business of marrying people 4) put lots of flowers out 5) have some good champagne and a professionally-decorated wedding cake 6) put a video camera on a tripod to record the ceremony 7) put a WebCam somewhere in case her parents are able to watch (a lot depends on when I can get a minister -- 12 noon is 2 am Siberia time) 8) find someone who can sit in the front parlor and play Mendelssohn and Wagner on my 1880 pipe organ.

I've got all the bases covered, I think; but it's not 'special', and there's nothing 'Russian' about it. The entire Russian ceremony takes three days, and requires family members, of which neither of us have any in this country, but we could at least recite vows in Russian, if I could find any.

Given my constraints -- one week to plan everything and clean the house as well -- does anyone have any ideas that they would be williing to share

MAKE SURE that one of the 1st things you do BEFORE you get married is obtain her Social Security Number. If you wait until AFTER you are married you will have to file for Employment Authoriztion through the USCIS and pay the $180.00 fee.

I didnt do this and am not having to file that form along with all of the other for advance parole, ect...

Posted by: mikeT

I live in Oregon, in Multnomah County, home of the same-sex marriage license, which is not what I'm applying for. It's almost as easy here as in Nevada to get married. There is a 3-day waitiing period, which the Clerk can waive; no blood test; and SSN# is required on the application, so no question of her not applying for it.

I've hired a minister and ordered a really nice cake. I haven't got the organist yet. I thought about playing a CD with Orthodox wedding chants on it, and in fact I went ahead and ordered it; but if the rest of the wedding is traditional American, I think that the chants might seem out of place.

Maybe a traditional American wedding would please her.

Posted by: bobjf

g/day mike.
can,t help you with preperations but mate you have or are getting the best xmas presant possible & i,m sure she will appreciate all your efforts.
congratulations from australia
may you find joy,happiness & a long life together.
bob & natasha

Posted by: Leprechaun

Photographer, believe me she will want to show these pictures to everyone and will cherish them. Get someone to video it so the parents can watch. , you can find good pointers online. classical wedding classics will do it, the wedding march etc. air on a g-string etc etc.

Party music for later, have a few CDs premade, Dont forget a wedding speech
DONT GET PISSED DRUNK (big no-no)

I guess youll think of more,,, run a few websearches on "home weddings" thatll help

oh and GOOD LUCK!!!!!

Another 2005 RMP Wedding!!!!!

Posted by: mistermopar

I wonder how mikeT's wedding went,has anyone heard?

Randy

Posted by: mikeT

Quote:

Originally Posted by mistermopar

I wonder how mikeT's wedding went,has anyone heard?

Randy

I abandoned the idea of a 'Russian theme' wedding when I learned that traditional Russian weddings last for three days and include mock fights in the street.

Instead, I held the wedding in my house (restored 1891 Victorian) and hired an independent minister with a big white beard who mainly does Santa Claus gigs at Christmas time. In his surplice, with a long beard, surrounded by antiques and Christmas decorations, he looked enough like an Orthodox priest in a church to fool some of Irina's friends when they saw the pictures. I also hired professional muscians from a local orchestra to give a pre-wedding concert of Mozart, Haydn, and Telemann; and I bought a big three-tier cake and a lot of champagne. Finally, I rented an expensive video camera, set it up on a tripod, and filmed the whole thing,

We've watched the movie three or four times, and Irina still cries when she watches it. The movie also has a first-rate soundtrack of Baroque and classical music, and there are some great laughs at the end of the movie when several of my friends gathered discreetly in a corner of the room and quietly debated what the likelihood was that the marriage would work, not realizing that the video camera was still recording.

It certainly was the best wedding I have ever attended. It was memorable, lots of fun, and Irina was thoroughly delighted.

Posted by: mistermopar

mikeT,good to hear the wedding went well.I wish you and Irina many happy years together.

Good Luck
Randy

Posted by: mistermopar

Oh..and congratulations

Posted by: bobjf

i,ll second that
mike & irina, congratulations & have a wonderfull life together
bob & natasha
happy it all went well

Posted by: yodaamnot

Congratulations and all the best for the future.

Posted by: yodaamnot

Congratulations and all the best for the future...

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