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Posted by: SMc

Posted by: Khashyar

I hear what you're saying, Sean....

There are "bad" and "good" people everywhere...

I can tell you that Lena's Russian women friends (who live here in L.A.) are definitely good people who a person can trust, adn who have polite and warm characters.

Of course there are dishonest and rude Russian men and women in the world

(and who want to come to the West).

The key is to get to know a prospective Russian partner as well as you can, and take as much time as you need (with as many visits to their country as you need) to feel confident that they are good people. (If you would like, check out the "tips for communicating with a Russian women....." in the "About Russian Women" section of this website for my perspective about how to pursue an overseas relationship with a Russian women in a wise way.

I know it is a scary thing to pursue a Russian women (or man, if you are a woman) overseas... It is also scary for the Russian woman, who is going to leave everything she knows behind for a new life in a new country.

Feel free to ask any other specific questions that you might have.

Khashyar

Posted by: ConnerVT

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Originally posted by sean mcgann
I’m learning look for brains, women like that are less likely to lie, and degrade them self by scamming somebody. They are also more likely to be in tuned with my moderate life style and practices...

Your looking at the wrong part of the woman, Sean. You don't need to look at the brain. You need to look at the heart...

Posted by: Khashyar

I personally would actually look for a few aspects of a woman who I am considering developing a relationship with:

1) her heart (her capacity to love)
2) her brains (how mentally and psychologically compatible she is with you)
3) her actions (I think that observing someone's actions over time tells us SO much about a person)
4) her family (a person's family says a lot about them)
5) her friends (for the same reason as #4)
6) although it is not saintly, and perhaps not spiritual, I believe that it is o.k. to lastly consider your feelings of physical attraction for a potential spouse. I know that many people believe that it is PERFECTLY o.k. to place some importance on physical attraction. However, I think that so many people place TOO MUCH importance on this (I have done this at different times of my life)...

Good luck with your search (and thinks for your feedback, Conner)...

Khashyar

Posted by: Woody

Well said Khashyar. The bottom line says it all. For all of us are human and each is different in so many ways. How it is that we find true love is truly amazing.

Clive

Posted by: Khashyar

Thanks, Clive...

Yes, true love is amazing...

I think one of the things that makes a marriage survive is the dedication of both parties to work hard and resolve difficult times that come in most (if not all) marriages.... Treating your partner with kindness and respect is also very important (this seems obvious, but at times when a couple feels anger and are in conflict, then sometimes we forget)..

But, most of all I would truly just be patient in getting to know someone overseas, and take even MORE time that you think is necessary to get to know that person. Because as much as a most people believe that they know their foreign girlfriend (or boyfriend), there are so many things about a person that you cannot learn until you spend time with that person. I really recommend spending as much time with a potential spouse as you can...

Khashyar