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age difference?? (important to a Russian woman)?
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Posted by: organicos

Hi to all the ladies,

My question to you is age difference important. For example, could a 19 year old Ukranian girl date a 39 year old man ???

Thanks.
Organicos.

Posted by: AkMike

How many times are you going to post this?

Posted by: inlove

Age difference is important in the majority of cases.. Having said that, I'm madly in love with a man 19 years my senior..But it is rather an exception to the rule.. And I'm not a 19 year old girl either.

Posted by: Jill

Yes, as I posted in one of your other threads....I don't think the age difference is as big a factor as the actual ages of the people involved.

Posted by: Junior

Quote:

Originally posted by AkMike
How many times are you going to post this?

What's wrong, don't you like reruns?

Maybe you would prefer to have Hyperon give us an exposition on "membrane theory"?

I can't believe I just said that!

Posted by: Skinman569

Isnt it difficult enough to be with a woman from another country, culture, language? I could not imagine being with a woman 20 yrs younger than me, not to mention it would be illegal, I'm 35. With AW it seems more than 5 yrs difference leaves you with almost no common ground. That being said, my fiancee is 10 yrs younger than me, but it was her heart and not her body that I fell in love with. She seems very mature for a 25 yr old, AW that age are all about themselves, in my opinion. Make sure you are in the relationship for the right reasons and age doesnt matter as much as long as you are both looking for the same things.

Posted by: organicos

I think if you are going into something like this for, as they say, obvious reasons, ahmm, then it would be wrong, I agree.
If we meet someone without this in mind, and are attracted to them because of the beautiful energy they emit ( Aura ) then the age difference becomes irrelevent, as long as the two involved are of legal age, so to speak.

What I find today is that younger couples date mostly for one reason or two. Mainly for the !!!!, but as we get older, we are really looking for a complice, someone who we can enjoy our time with, and for this reason, I believe now that age does play a key factor in this equation, but depending on the level of maturity of the two individuals involved, the gap between the two becomes less important.

The key element here is that the parties make eachother happy and respect eachother, everything else is, well, gravy on the potatoes...

Posted by: Skinman569

I couldnt agree more

Posted by: dakotaridge

I hope I can offer something to this thread, even though my experience isn't directly the same thing as what's being discussed. In 1989 I started working for an investigation agency in California. At the time I was 27; my boss was 44. For 6 very long weeks I fought and I fought everything I was feeling for her. Finally, some time into week 7, I realized this wasn't going away so I just told her how I felt. We were married 3 months later - which for American with American is very fast. Yep, we separated in '96, but we still remain the closest of friends - more like a very close brother and sister. So even though the "who's younger and who's older" roles were reversed here, I can say from experience that the age gap never became a factor. I just didn't think about it.

I think people will get out of a relationship what they put into it. I'm going to be brave and be completely honest about looks - they are VERY important to me. If nobody but me would ever see my wife and I knew it, nothing would change. I'm very deeply affected by what I consider beautiful and that's something I want in my marriage. I know it won't last forever, but I want some time to enjoy it. I'm currently 43; to marry a woman who's 28 (currently my most likely prospect) certainly has its appeal. If the looks are not there, I won't marry her. But if the looks are all there is, it isn't going to happen either.

GAWD listen to this, I sound like I have delusions of being Brad Pitt... I really don't mean it to sound that way ... trust me, I get my share of rejections and I don't have women (Russian or otherwise) chasing me down the street.... just pointing out that I'm at least semi-cognisant of the situation...

I think a huge factor in this is that RW at any age tend to be eons more mature, grounded and balanced than AW. This is comparing averages - there will be exceptions both ways in both cultures. But it's all a question of how you relate to a woman, given who and what she is today on all levels. I think with any guy, there's always going to be some part of him that's quite excited at the thought of walking into a party with a stunning young trophy on his arm. We're men, we can't escape that. Because that factor is present doesn't mean it's the controlling factor. I think a man should have some sense of pride in displaying his wife! Anything is healthy in moderation. But the real controlling factor is simply how you relate to each other. Age is purely incidental to that. We're trained to attach all kinds of stigma to the issue of age, and barring any extremes like a 35 year old guy marrying a 15 year old girl (who isn't even an adult yet), it really is just a side issue. We make so much out of it only because of conditioning.