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SABOTAGE: Trip Reports, Jealous men, women, etc.
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Posted by: searcher

Hi,

Well I suppose I hadn't realized some things...

I guess I have been a bit guilty of not asking my lady's permission before posting some detail about her and us.

I was reading some things on the internet and I realized that we all should be careful of what we write.

I MENTION THIS BECAUSE I HAD THE SAME THING HAPPEN TO ME!!!!!!!!!!

IT CAN CAUSE SOME SERIOUS DAMAGE AND COULD POSSIBLY DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!!!!

We should also try to be considerate of the feelings and privacy of the other people involved. THat was my mistake but it was NOT intentional.

Sometimes other people will read what you write and try to determine who you are writing about.....

at other times you may encounter jealous men (or women) who may want to sabotage your relationship.

Possibly the "If I can't have her then he (you) can't either" thinking or perhaps this person thinks if you are no longer involved with your lady they will have an opportunity with her.

Just some things to be aware of and something to think about!!!!

Be careful!

Posted by: Jerico

Roger that searcher,

My fiancee does not know about this forum.
I have told her i talk to others on the internet in similar situations but thats it.
She might be mad I posted pictures of her on this forum so I removed them a while ago. Among other reasons for this.
If we do get married though i probably will post a pic or two.
It will be simple Lake Tahoe wedding or Reno special

I cant afford a big wedding

jerry

Posted by: searcher

Same here! Simple wedding....... for now

In addition to the photos....

my problems also included wrong/false info being told!

She was being convinced that I wasn't true or serious....

Fortunately, things are great now!

Posted by: Jerico

Glad to hear everythings going good for you.
I have passed all the hurdles

Now I wait for her to arrive just before Christmas.
The only present I need

Hopefully shes not a no show at the airport

She should be there
Jerry

Posted by: Jim_FL

This is pretty much common sense, but sometimes gets overlooked. I have always tried to temper my storytelling by assuming "she" was going to read it. If you write in this manner, you can avoid a lot of needless arguments

Posted by: Jill

I have sometimes wondered what my husband would think if he could read this forum (which he can't because he doesn't know English

). I don't think any of my posts would anger or upset him. I think he would just

Although I think he would be quite amused by what some people have posted about Ukraine and FSU culture in general

Searcher, I'm really glad to hear that things are back on track with you.

And Jerico: well, Merry Christmas!

Posted by: Vyesna

Show him the bum on the park bench with commentary. He should find that plenty amusing.

Posted by: neil277

Hello Searcher.

I find you are a nice and very beautiful man, but please have faith in yourself i have been hurt before but i carry on in search of my soul mate.

I feel 95% of ladies are not looking for a husband from the west, but you have to find the 5% who are.

If you send a lady money or flowers a thank you will be nice, not tomorrow but today because this is what i would do.

I feel the form is the best and we are all friends on this site and sometimes you cannot talk to mum but to your friends only.

If you book flight and the lady lets you down don't worry the internet has apartments and your visa is always safe even if your lady sent you invitation.

The biggest problem is the Russian lady becomes selfish and greedy and becomes to big for her boots, a relationship you have to keep working all the time not just for one day but everyday, even in old age.

If a lady talked about myself on a website it would not worry me.
Regards.

Neil

Posted by: neil277

Hello Panel.

I feel Searcher has a valid point in what he tells us, i understand relationships are very hard but being so far away makes it more difficult, and the best advice is not always the right advice.

I feel 95% of men are genuinely looking for a wife but i feel American men will accept more games from a lady, more so than the English man.

Is it right to dump a lady because she has made a mistake? i feel if a lady does silly mistakes in a relationship this is acceptable.

From my point of view, culture and personality i am much different for an American man the English have no sense of humour compared to an American man our cultures are much different in many ways.

Is it right to talk about a lady on the website, i feel its right and why is www.russianmeetingplace.com on the web because they want to help others meet their soul mate, if life was so simple the above website would not be around today.

But also you must talk to your lady and never be shy to ask questions and if they ask for money and you have been with them for a long time, then sending money will be the right thing to do, is their a right way to meet a lady in Russia, i would have to answer no.

I feel most men from this site want to meet a nice lady and talking to your lady will help you a lot in life, don't just listen to your instincts but also follow your heart.

Regards.

Neil

Posted by: parasionok

I think Searcher is making a very good point here. I was just trying to put myself in the situation when let's say I have been corresponding with a guy for some time and everything is nice and I am constantly using an electronic translation service to write my letters, my intentions are totally honest and what I read from his letters (he is also using an electronic traslator) convinces me that he is the right one for me. We are talking about anything and everything and he is planning to visit me, but then alas, my girlfriend is telling me that he posted on one of the forums quoting my letter and my real name and was asking people if I was a scammer? If something like this ever happened to me, I would have dumped him....

Another scenario: I am writing to a guy and I am wondering if he is being serious or I am just one of the women he is planning to meet whilst in Moscow... I am giving the complete story of how our relationship has been so far on the forum and ask for people's opinion whether he intended to scam me or not... He by chance finds my posts... What do you think will happen to the relationship?

I think when we are writing about our experiences we should really avoid mentioning real names and we should not give any details. If Searcher had this problem it was because he published the photoes of his fiance without her permission and he was writing too many personal details....

Neil,

you say: the English have no sense of humour compared to an American man

I don't know where in England you were born but I cannot agree with your statement. English sense of humor is wonderful. Think about The League of Gentlemen, Faulty Tours, Monty Python, etc, etc... When I am going out with my english friends, I find them so funny... American sense of humor is very great indeed, its more diverse and enriched with all tints of multicultural humor... but I strongly disagree that the English have no sense of humour at all

Sorry for this off-topic remark

Posted by: neil277

Hello Panel.

Please don't listen to television, but please meet a real English man and you will see what an English man is like, we have know sense of humour and take things very much to heart.

We are very reserved people in life.

Hi i would like to say you can lock up from a thief but you can not lock up from a liar

Regards.

Neil

Posted by: Jim_FL

Quote:

Originally posted by neil277
we have know sense of humour and take things very much to heart.

We are very reserved people in life.

Sounds like you need to meet my buddy Mark out in Taunton (near Swindon). He is exactly the opposite of what you describe.

Perhaps just another example of why it's not always a good idea to adhere so strickly to stereotypes..............

Posted by: Rennie

Quote:

Originally posted by neil277
Hello Panel.

Please don't listen to television, but please meet a real English man and you will see what an English man is like, we have know sense of humour and take things very much to heart.

We are very reserved people in life.

Hi i would like to say you can lock up from a thief but you can not lock up from a liar

Regards.

Neil

Neil, are you English? 'cos no offence, but your posts don't sound like you're a native English speaker.

I don't think the English are that reserved - you only have to go on a night out in Manchester, or Newcastle or even that latest part of the British Empire - Ibiza, to see parties like there's no tomorrow.

As for the English having no sense of humour...you must be joking!

Posted by: Jill

Quote:

Show him the bum on the park bench with commentary. He should find that plenty amusing.

Actually I think he would see the humor in that--at least more than I do (if it was meant as a joke, I find it disappointing and mean spirited--like if I were to post a picture of a prostitute and label it "A typical Russian woman on her way to work"). But I think my husband would laugh. He likes dark humor. Although I can imagine what his come back would be

As for the English having no sense of humor--I also disagree. I love British wit!

Posted by: Juggler

Quote:

From the responses to your posts I would say that your opinion is in the minority.
.....but I need to know if it you that does not find English humour funny or is it that Englishmen do not find your humour funny???

Posted by: wavetossed

I don't understand. I live in the UK an I see funny things on TV all the time.

Like Mr Shaky Hand Man. He's a Japanese comedian in the UK who interviews English celebrities and shakes their hands and shakes, and shakes and shakes until, after several minutes they manage to gracefully let go.

Like Derren Brown talking to some guy in a train station and removing his tie without him even noticing.

Like the beginning shows of Pop Stars, Pop Idol or the X-Factor. Does anyone remember that one girl who sang just horribly with a big smile on her face on the first Pop Stars who ended up doing Pizza Hut commercials with the 4 judges and then got a career singing horribly of-key in holiday camps. Reserved? When someone takes the mick like that how can you call them reserved?

What about Ant and Dec? Are they reserved? And speaking of Geordies, did you see the last two series of Auf Wiedersehen, Pet? This is a good example of British humour done with a straight face and blended in seamlessly with drama.

Another example of this is the Hollyoaks soap opera on channel 4 every evening or catch the omnibus edition on every Sunday morning. This show manages to address serious life issues of young people and still take the mick out of the soap opera genre at the same time.

Posted by: RUSS439

Er !!!!!!!! Brits have no humour and are reserved ??????

NOT THIS BRIT !!!!!!!!!!

I work on the continent and speaking for myself and the other expats with me, the mainland Europeans think we have terrific humour and generally wish they could emulate us.

Your average Brit is very resilient and doesn't take stuff to heart so easily .................

Just a few thoughts from a "Jolly Brit"