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Posted by: estguy

A Ukraine female aquaintence had the bad experience of broken condom, now she is pregnant, she does not want an abortion nor marry the father. I would think that adoption is a real alternative to trying to raise this child in poverty without a father all its life. Any one have any direction I can point this girl?

Posted by: rtking

Um... can she receive support from the child's father? Is the father a Ukrainian man or a Western man? If it's a Western man, maybe he can find a couple in his country (America, UK, etc.) that can't have a child and may be willing to adopt this child. Just a few thoughts...

Bob

Posted by: merryhofmann

We have been trying to adopt a child from Russia, and recently learned the child was not free for adoption (her father's parental rights were never terminated.) We are looking for another child, and of course would be willing to adopt this child if that is what the birth mother wants to do. My husband and I have one son and are unable to have another biological child, so this could be the answer to our prayers. Thanks! --Merry Hofmann

Posted by: James Riske

First thing, it is very loving of your woman friend to want to give her child for adoption. It takes courage and lots of love on her part to do the right thing for her child. Please help her any way you can and be there for her emotional support. My thoughts are with her and I admire her unconditional love.

There are so many families looking to adopt babies that her child will have no problem finding a home as a baby, even if she simply turns him/her over to an orphanage. Or, as evidenced by the last message, there are many families that will start making arrangements right now to adopt her unborn child. Just google search 'adoption forums' post a message, and you'll get hundreds of replies. Just be sure she is represented by a lawyer and make the adopting family pay for everything, including her lawyer.

Children without a home just break my heart. I just can't get over why we, as human beings, even allow one child to go without a family or home, it's just horrible. I plan on adopting a child from Russia too, but an older child, one who has been passed over for adoption. Everyone wants babies and once children reach 4 or 5 their chances for adoption go way down. They face a future of being thrown out at age 16, with no safety net, no family, no friends, and into a depressed economy. Needless to say, the girls suffer the most and usually turn toward drugs or are shipped overseas to dance in clubs or prostitution. (these are the ones 'forced' into prostitution as mentioned in another post, something I'm totally against). And if I may speak about Russia's dirty little secret, many of the young orphan girls are the ones being photographed nude for the 'lolita model sites'. How can we allow this to happen to children? Little children who entrust us with their care? It just makes me sick.

I will visit St. Petersburg this November and give what I can to an orphanage there. It just breaks my heart when I go there, knowing that I can't take them all home. My life's goal is to adopt a couple to them as I know that for whatever sacrifices I make to raise them and care for them, I will be paid back a thousand times over.

Sorry to lay such a downer on everyone, but there are so many kids there without a home due to the economic problems in Russia. If you can find it in your heart to donate, please do so. Better to do it in person so you know what you donate gets to them as , sadly to say, so much of the money sent is taken by others. Winter is coming and they need money for heating and jackets and hats for the kids.

If you're going to Russia soon and I know many of you are, please consider taking just a little bit extra and visiting an orphanage to donate while you're there. Believe me, the smiles on the kid's faces when they see you are priceless and you'll have a memory of doing something good for the rest of your life.

Posted by: anna

"If you're going to Russia soon and I know many of you are, please consider taking just a little bit extra and visiting an orphanage to donate while you're there. Believe me, the smiles on the kid's faces when they see you are priceless and you'll have a memory of doing something good for the rest of your life."

Three cheers for the good idea!!! Takes so little and does so much.
Even posting a parcel for a friend to deliver.

Posted by: neil277

Hello Panel.

I feel this lady needs time to think about what she wants i feel adoption is the wrong way to do things, for me if i was the father i would want to know my child and at least be given a chance.

If this lady has made her mind up then adoption will be the right thing to do i feel this lady should not give this child away because all through this ladies life she will be thinking about this child and what happened to this child.

I think Bob mentioned is this childs father from Russia or the West and who has the right to not tell the father he will be a dad soon Russian father or Western Father.

The main thing in this very bad situation is the child and whats best for the child, the two people who have made this child need to sit down and decide what is best for the child.

A child is not a gift and is not sold to people who can afford the money and give this child a better standard of life, a child is special and money can never buy this special gift.

Regards,

Neil