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What is the age difference of your lady and you?

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Posted by: searcher

I wanted to poll the posters here to see what the most common age difference was between men and the lady/ladies they are involved with.

Please take the poll, thanks!!!


Posted by: searcher

Ok, I went first.

I selected "She is the same age as I am".


Posted by: Jill

Can I vote? Or is this only for AM?


Posted by: searcher

Hi Jill,

Not to exclude you...... but I started this poll in response to what Mila said in another thread. She said the majority on men seeking FSU women are looking for women much younger than they are.

I'm not certain what the result will be, perhaps this is true, but I thought it would be interesting to find out.

....but you could always just post your answer in this thread.

Enquiring minds want to know!


Posted by: Jill

No problem--I was just kidding

I agree that it will be quite interesting to see the results

(BTW, we have 2 years' difference).


Posted by: mila

I did it as well. We have 15 years of difference


Posted by: Michael Blue

Well, Olya is 12 years younger than I am, but I did not set out to find someone this young. Truth be known, once she is here, I expect this to be difficult for some people in the US to swallow, until we are both a little older. I am told she likely had no major age preference, because this age gap is fairly common in Ukraine. She has never commented either way, but I will ask.


Posted by: mistermopar

Hi Searcher,

I think this is a good idea for a poll,I know I am interested to see the out come of this poll.

Myself I have no lady at this time, but I am looking.
I am looking for someone around my age (36) or older.I say older because I do not want to have any more children of my own and the majority of younger ladies want to have children.

I thought I would add this as not having a lady I feel it would not be right to take the poll.

Thanks,

Randy


Posted by: David N.

16 yrs , and it is working for us .
I will have to follow this thread , but for now it is keep packing and get ready for the big bird , see ya in a couple weeks .


Posted by: sidney

When I voted I thought I would be the exception but it appears that I'm the rule. We have a 25 year and two week age difference which placed us in the 37 percentile. We have known each other for four years and been married for three. It seems to be working good for us and this summer we both celebrate big birthdays. Hopefully we will have her family visit to help celebrate.
Sidney


Posted by: ConnerVT

Well, I'm 87 (but look young for my age), and she'll be turning 14 next month. I don't think it will make too much of a problem for us...

Seriously -- 6 1/2 years for us. But then, my parents (both 2nd generation Americans) had a ten year age difference between them, and were very happy together.


Posted by: searcher

Quote:
Originally posted by ConnerVT
Well, I'm 87 (but look young for my age), and she'll be turning 14 next month.


Gee,

You don't look a day over 86









Of course i'm kidding!


Posted by: ErikinSeattle

I am 36 and Tatiana is 25, soon to be 26. One comment: the 12 Kievan single women over age 29 I met did not seem at all interested about life in the United States, let alone finding an American husband or pursuing it. They seemed to want to test the waters and have a multicultural experience over dinner and wine.


Posted by: Khashyar

As many of you know, Lena and I have a 13 1/2 year age difference....




(Perhaps this will give us some semi-scientific information about age differences in relationships of people who are in this forum... Good idea, Mark (and Mila) ).


Posted by: ConnerVT

Quote:
Originally posted by SMc
Is that all ,my grandather from the old country fleeing for his life at 37. met my grandmother 15 without any shoes on her feet , on the upper east side of manhatten and they had 14 kids.

Wow, that's pretty good. To have 14 kids, people usually need to take off more than their shoes.


Posted by: Michael Blue

Quote:
Originally posted by ConnerVT
Wow, that's pretty good. To have 14 kids, people usually need to take off more than their shoes.



Oh my!


Posted by: Charles

My young lady is four years younger than myself and this works for us. She wants a family and neither of us has children yet. I am 32, she is 28.
I have trouble convincing her she is not an old maid.


Posted by: Jutman

Well, I am 34, so it would'nt look good if she was more than 16 years younger.

Beside our government decide to. The law says she must be over 24 to optain permit residence.

At the personal note: My dad was 40 when ge got married to my mom, which was 25. They got 41 years together and 7 kids.

So now my mom is 'head' of a family with more than 40. My lady really can't understand this.


Posted by: gator70

Age difference is the wrong issue. It is about how you match up and what each person had as their life dreams before they even met each other. And when theses life dreams are not met with a given person, watch out!

On the other hand when there is a good chance to see your lifes dreams met with this person you just met, well there you have a real chance.

And about age, well 20-29 year old ladies look at this very differently than 30-39 year old ladies.

Younger women accept age difference until they see their own age in the mirror changing radically.

When a woman worries about her own age often she does not want a older man by her side. Since this makes her feel even older.

Not every woman worries about her aging, but most do.


Posted by: don4

Hold your hats people I am a young 67 and she has been here two months and so far ok she is 27.
Was to see her four times in Bishkek for a month at a time and tried to tell her many times was too old for her and she would just cry that i was not serious and the age was no problem so now will be married in the next two weeks here in L. A.
AT the interview in Alamity the lady ask her "don't you know he is old enough to be your grandfather" her answer was "and so, I love him"


Posted by: mistermopar


WOW Don4,if you got it,you really got it,right.

Good luck!
Randy


Posted by: Jutman

Well

Let me say, I hope you be happy for her.

But is her reason love. Hmm. I don't think so. Let put some cross cultural comprehension, history and statistic into it.

What is the expected ligespan of a man in Kazakstan today?? I doubt its longer than Russia (57 ears). If we look at history there is maá´ny examples, even from rich western countries that the girls marry a man who is substantial older. But it has ALWAYS been for wealth.

In her book, you are already older than what its normal. She expect you to let the shoes walk alone soon as as your wife she will get what you have.

What she perhaps does not know that a normal lifespan in USA is around 75 and a lot of men gets older.

Anyway, Again I hope you will be happy and her to.


Posted by: searcher

Quote:
Originally posted by mistermopar

WOW Don4,if you got it,you really got it,right.

Good luck!
Randy


I think, if he's got it, he may need a truck load of Viagra


Posted by: don4

finding out i might need that truck load of viagra so send it if you have extra. so far am keeping up without, but might need soon .Find out its really not nessacery if she is young and beautiful.
and does she love only time will tell that but in the mean time don't you all think we are both using each other .again us this both using is working


Posted by: searcher

Quote:
Originally posted by don4
finding out i might need that truck load of viagra so send it if you have extra. so far am keeping up without, but might need soon .Find out its really not nessacery if she is young and beautiful.
and does she love only time will tell that but in the mean time don't you all think we are both using each other .again us this both using is working


LOL,

I suppose that may be true... as you said only time will tell.

If both involved with this are alright with it and understand then I guess its acceptable......

Its also possible she may be sincere but may later change her mind. Again, its hard to say and it also depends upon a persons state of mind and level of comittment.


Posted by: Khashyar

Very interesting thread, and interesting results...

I did not think that the poll would show the amount of age differecnes that it does.

I don't have anything against people of different ages marrying, but I do think that other issues arise that the couple must be aware of and that are characteristic of people with an age difference of 7 years or more...

People with significant age differences have different energy levels, often approach liufe differently, have different philosophical and spiritual ideas in life, have different levels of life experience, may want different things in regards to family and children, as well as the judgement and pressures of society that often judge a married couple with a "significant" age difference.

Again, I am not discouraging two people with an age difference who love one another from marrying, but I think that it is important to look at the issues that come into play.

Khashyar


Posted by: Michael Blue

Actually Khashyar, you hit on something very important here, I hope you don't mind my quoting it to use it for a new view on this thread...

What are some issues your age difference has caused in your relation ship, and what others can you think of that could occur?

Khashyar mentioned these, and I think they're all very important...

Quote:
* Different energy levels
* Different Approach to life
* Different philosophical/spiritual ideas in life
* Different levels of life experience
* Different desires/plans in regards to family and children
* The judgement and pressures of society that often judge a married couple with a "significant" age difference.


What others can other people think of? This may even make an excellent topic for my next letter to Olya, these are all things that really should be discussed between all Russian/Western couples.

Thanks!


Posted by: mria

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Michael Blue
[B]Well, Olya is 12 years younger than I am, but I did not set out to find someone this young. QUOTE]

It is a pretty normal age gap as far as I'm concerned. Men too close to my age just remind me of my younger brothers.


Posted by: mria

Quote:
Originally posted by Michael Blue

What others can other people think of? This may even make an excellent topic for my next letter to Olya, these are all things that really should be discussed between all Russian/Western couples.

Thanks! [/B]


I honestly don't think there will be a problem regarding age. The most succesful marriages in my family are the ones that have an age gap of about 10-15 years. There will be some energy differences, but I think there is a lot of scope for creating an understanding. It might not be true for adults, but at least for children, girls learn to walk and talk quicker than boys, and perhaps the level of maturity for girls stays slightly ahead of boys their own age (of course there are exceptions). I always assumed that this was one of the reasons women went for men who were older than them.


Posted by: ulughbek

* Different philosophical/spiritual ideas in life
* Different desires/plans in regards to family and children

I don't think these two are strongly linked to age (although people's ideas and plans change through life, it is not predictable.) And they should be addressed by anyone contemplating marriage.

Another one to add would be career choice. Someone young and new to this country faces both challenges and new possibilities about what to do with their lives, whereas the older partner may have already settled into something.


Posted by: Missouri

M-blue and others- Another aspect is that the man will die before the woman.

I'm interested in the discussion of putting the man in the grave when he dies. I'm sure others have discussed this with their wife, or future wife- when there is an age difference. I am 50, I just wrote a lady that is 35, I am just starting my search, and I'm sure there will be an age difference of at least 15 years, if not more. I believe everything should be out in the open in a marriage. I will discuss this with the lady that I marry. But my question is, for those of you that have discussed this with your "young" wife- What was her response?

I see myself saying something like this- "My grandfather died whe he was 76, so maybe I'll live until I'm 80. In 30 years you will be 65, have you considered that you will be putting me in the grave? Have you thought about what you will then do, when I am gone? Of course, I will be very tactful, and very sensitive- I could see a lady not even wanting to discuss this. But I see it as important, so one way or another we'll talk about it.

-Scott


Posted by: ConnerVT

Quote:
Originally posted by Missouri
Have you thought about what you will then do, when I am gone?

Spending the check from your life insurance company?


Posted by: searcher

Quote:
Originally posted by ConnerVT
Spending the check from your life insurance company?


LMFAO

So true!


Posted by: don4

She has been here since March and we are still doing good and now married
Every time i bring up that she will bury me she desn't want to talk on this subject and seems to think i will live forevere,
I did offer her to go bck to her family and try now to get a youger man now that her english is good and sill has her good looks and she said "are you crazy"


Posted by: Missouri

Conner... wrote- Spending the check from your life insurance company?

Thanks Con.. I needed that

Is there a list of slang abbreviations someplace? LMFAO?


Posted by: Jim_FL

Quote:
Originally posted by Missouri
LMFAO?

Laughing My Fg A$$ Off


Posted by: searcher

Quote:
Originally posted by Missouri

Is there a list of slang abbreviations someplace? LMFAO?


LMFAO = Laughing My F**king A** Off


Posted by: postcaptain

Tanya is 16 1/2 years younger than I. She feels that are ages are very compatible.


Posted by: Pawel_PL.USA

Of all the women I've dated in my life some were younger and some were older - i'm not a dogmatic ... the lady I'm dating now is actually older, and we don't mind the difference. I admit that is generally kind of "unorthodox", since most guys are too insecure to date a woman that is older (or for that matter: smarter, taller etc. etc.) than they are. Similarly, most of the Russian and Ukrainian women I've met do have qualms and hesitations about dating younger men. The poor things still live in a medieval mindset and feel more comfortable with older men (10, 15 years older) as a rule. The ones that don't mind are generally more sophisticated and modern.


Posted by: povlhp

I am currently corresponding with the youngest of the many I wrote. She is almost 10 years younger than me. Has been married and divorced, and has a little life experience.

I am 37, and was initially looking for someone around the age of my last russian GF, which is around 32 i.e. around 5 year younger. But destiny would it different. I still have the thought in the back of my head that she might be just a tad too young. But we will see when I meet her.

BTW: If the age difference is > 10 years, the immigration authorities do not like it, as the risk of a failed marriage very soon is too large.


Posted by: Alonka

My husband & I have 29 years difference. It doesn't bother us at all. We were dating for 2.5 years and now married for almost 2, so 4.5 years are working out well for us. We do love each other and understand without words. Everything is perfect and we have a lot of similarities except that he is becoming less energetic and I am more. He used to like doing many things; going out, doing something at home, etc, but now prefer to spend weekend on the sofa watching TV.

I have a question to the couples with age difference. If any couple has a similar situation? What would you think might change this situation and any other advises.
Thanks...


Posted by: BradIL

Quote:
Originally posted by mria: Men too close to my age just remind me of my younger brothers.




Very witty Mria, well done!


Posted by: Missouri

Alonka- EXCELLENT QUESTION- You wrote: "he is becoming less energetic and I am more. He used to like doing many things; going out, doing something at home, etc, but now prefer to spend weekend on the sofa watching TV.

I have a question to the couples with age difference. If any couple has a similar situation? What would you think might change this situation and any other advises."

There's alot to your question and I have a few suggestions- But first- Looks like you've got a very very good marriage, looks like you're about 28 and he's about 57.

For myself- I am 50, in the past I was in great shape, and I have a sedentary job. I am making an effort to lose weight- I weigh 216 lbs. And I am eating healthier and getting exercise. So...
Suggestions...

1 Are you involved in aerobics? Take him with you. Or- I just heard about a cyclying class on a stationary bicycle- for 1 hour- I talked to a 22 year old American lady who teaches this class- she has the people sing with her while they cycle.
2 How about walking- Take him with you.
3 I got involved in aerobics- there were from 10 to 40 women, and me and another man. I am now taking Tae Kwon Do.
4 And food is another important factor- I'm not going to get into that.

I think your question would make a great thread.

Another way to look at it is- you might have to learn to live with it, because of his age.

Looking forward to your response and to others.


Posted by: lester

Ever thought of taking on a pet?

A dog will provide excellent therapy,
long walks, always affectionate, Hey, sounds like
what were all seeking!
both 2 and 4 legged friends!

joking apart, may be "food for thought"


Posted by: Alonka

Thank you, Missouri, lester, BradIL for your advices.
I realized that I need to be more creative in a way to offer him to do something together. The main thing is to make him excited.
He was a very active before and used to go to a fitness club very often, but after an open heart surgery, he find it much harder. Well, I've already started planning some things on weekends; like going to a part, zoo, shopping (although he hates it), etc.

I wish everybody to have a very Happy New Year!!!


Posted by: postcaptain

Alonka
I'm not a couple, but I work closely with a guy who found himself in the same situation some years ago. My thought for you is to remember or find something that he was, is or will be, passionate about, something that will electrify him into action, with the most subtle of suggestions. Something to remind him he's still alive.
Good luck,
Mike


Posted by: Leprechaun

8 years, although out of my 2 (homebased) long term relationships one was 9 years and the other 4 years.

One even had the aged changed on her birthday cake to fool me into thinking she was older!!!

Is this a forum for dirty auld men?
hehehe


Posted by: Pawel_PL.USA

Not really - quite often I do prefer older women, actually, just because they are more elegant and eloquent and represent a higer level or sophistication that younger women do.


Posted by: Tex

With 69 votes cast it looks like the majority of marriages fall between the 11-15 years age difference.

Next most popular age difference's is a tie between marriages with over 16 years age difference and the group between 6 and 10 years age difference, both at about 23% of the voters.

On the Russian Women Discussion.com board I see their is a current debate and am surprised on the great number of apparently happy marriages over 16 years age difference.

My own opinion is pretty much reflected by the results of this poll in that I think it is not a problem to find many good relationships up to 15 years age difference.


Posted by: Pawel_PL.USA

Well, Tex, such relationships are not always that happy and successfull, but the truth is that most guys go mostly for younger women - for many reasons. I personally think that it's not all about age - if you love somebody you're willing to overlook an age difference - even in the case of younger men and older women ... given that the man is not looking strictly for masculine aggradizement. And besides, there are some women around 40 that are smoking, even compared to their 25 year-old counterparts. As the French say "there are no ugly women, there can only be not enough wine".


Posted by: Tex

Howdy Pawel,

I think the current poll is probably a pretty good reflection of the overall preferences of men and the ages of women they are comfortable with. I would not disagree that probably 5% of men seek older women, 5% the same age and 90% seek younger women.


Posted by: Pawel_PL.USA

I personally can't say that I "seek" women that are older or younger. It's all about who you run into really.


Posted by: povlhp

I have also had girlfriends both younger and older than myself. SoI agree, it is not really a preference.

My Russian Girlfriend (RG?) is almost 10 years younger, and that is the biggest age difference ever. Have not met her yet, but I am a little bit afraid she willnot be mature enough. That is oe of my biggest fears. She was the youngest I wrote - after som hesitation.


Posted by: GreenBarb

My Russian GF is ten years younger and I will admit that at the start it worried me. She on the otherhand had not problem with the age differance. After a time I forgot about it. We just get on so well. We use WebCams and Instant Messaging. In just over a week I will meet her in Moscow and then on to her home town.


Posted by: rams

Well this site makes me feel better!

161/2 years difference in Yuliya and myself (53,37) . However we both have teenage children about the same age (her's are a year older than mine), both our fathers died of natural causes, her mother is 60, mine is 81 (I'm the youngest of four children), but I'd have to say my mom is in better shape (her mom is now in the hospital, diabetes, high blood pressure). My grandmother lived to 99. I am probably every bit as active as Yuliya (I still cut flips on a trampoline, stand on my head, walk on my hands, run, jump, swim)
My only concern was she's a whole lot prettier than me!!!! But physically I don't have any problems keeping up with her. She is also taller! and yes, this bothers me a little.
One thing I know is that people don't age the same, her mom is only six years older than me, but she is probably in her last years (going blind and can barely walk), My grandma was riding a bycicle in her 80's.


Posted by: rams

OOPs, I mean bicycle!


Posted by: BradIL

Quote:
Originally posted by Leprechaun: Is this a forum for dirty auld men? hehehe


Best comment in the thread. Leprechaun... I did NOT need this! I'm in the midst of intense letter-writing with a divine angel in Russia. She's 23, I'm 44. Yeah... I dream about her allright, and everytime we meet I hear a shotgun rack-up behind my head.

Quote:
Leprechaun also writes: One even had the aged changed on her birthday cake to fool me into thinking she was older!!!


One of the best stories I heard about John & Cindy McCain was how they handled their age difference. (John McCain is a US Senator from Arizona who ran for the Republican nomination for President in 2000)

While dating John shaved a few years off his age, and to appear more mature Cindy added a few years to hers. When they went to get a marriage license, as they stood in the clerk's office, both realized they would have to come clean about their birthdates. Apparently they both kept mumbling their birthdates, until the clerk demanded they speak more clearly.



Posted by: rams

While I think a 20, or 16 like mine, age difference is alot, I do agree that marriages with about a 10 year age difference actually work better than same age marriages.


Posted by: sidney

rams, my wife is amazed that many of my relatives drive and function @ 80+ YO. Her mother and grandmother haven't aged to well. Granny @ 70 fears leaving her apartment because she can't remember how to open the door among other things. I write much of this off to lack of nutrition as well as having to not exercising your brain. My wife has been sending vitamins to family but I wonder if they take them or perhaps it's to late at this stage for some of them.
Sidney


Posted by: rams

My fiancee's mom has diabetes, when I was in Russia this lady would eat ice cream, sweets like a child. We had a celebration and she ate cake, ice cream, and drank wine. I was a visitor so I tried not to say too much, but everytime I would comment that sweets are not good for her, the mom would simply say, "not often I do this".
The night we had the celebration Yuliya's (my fiancee') mom kept her up all night complaining that she felt bad! The next day we are having our coffee, and Yuliya commented that she was out of cream for the coffee (she likes cream in her coffe) , I made the suggestion, "Put a spoonful of ice cream in your coffee, cream and sugar at the same time." She said good idea, and then her mom wanted some. Well at first Yuliya and I thought she also want a spoonful in her coffee, no..... her mom wanted a bowl full of ice cream!! This was her breakfast?! Again she commented, "not often". I had a long talk with Yuliya, and we have since put her mom on the right path, but I am afraid it is too late. Most russians just don't seem to be into fitness.


Posted by: Pawel_PL.USA

He he, rams jumps on a trampoline and my beloved's father is a retired Russian army officer of Polish origin in his late 50's and still goes mountain climbing in the Urals and Caucasus and ice-water diving. I guess its in his blood - if your family survived forced deportation to Kazakhstan, I guess you can do anything.


Posted by: oddsock

Near enough 15 years for us , which is about the ame age difference of my last 2 uk girlfriends


Posted by: Alinka

I would guess that the final result will confirm that most AM did look for RW much younger than themselves. But there is nothing wrong with it. A factor of mutual attraction, probably. Many women feel happier with older men.









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Posted by: RickGI

I tend to agree with Pawel on this. I prefer women a little older than I but I am finding that the majority of RW don't tend to be interested in younger men So now I am focusing on 6-10 age range. I am 38 and my last lady friend was 45. She was left by her husband for a younger lady and never could get past the thought that I might do the same. I enjoy the maturity of an older lady but on the flipside the RW's I am corresponding with that are 6-10 younger seem to have that same level of maturity that I like. My unscientific and completely unqualified opinion is that it is out of necessity more than any other reason.


Posted by: Alinka

Interesting point.
I thought that men prefering older women seek more the "mother"feeling in that relationship. Also, an older women is less likely to leave a younger man, whereas the old companion of a much younger girlfriend will always have to be on the alert if he can keep up with the younger ones.
I guess, it?s so. Personally I am a happy single.


Posted by: RickGI

Yes alot of men dating older women seek the mother type relationship or the security of them not leaving them. I know I am not interested in the "motherlyness" if you will permit me to invent my own words As far as the security standpoint, good point, I never really thought about that. I have never really feared a women leaving me but I appreciate the sincerity and striaght forwardness I find in older women, and in my small experience with RW I notice the same attributes that I find in older AW. This is not why I am looking at RW but just an observation with my limited experience so far.


Posted by: Alinka

Well then, wishing you many good experiences!!!






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Posted by: Pawel_PL.USA

I think that a woman that's a little older but knows how to cook, can carry intelligent, intellectual conversations and knows how to dress like a woman is far better than a younger gal wearing gym shoes, with spiked hair, sweatshirt& baggy jeans and having a hard time cooking meals that don't have the "microwaveable" label on them ... cause, let's face it, I can't survive on Polish sausage, tomato juice, pickles, pork pate and horseradish sauce forever.


Posted by: Alinka

Interestingly enough even one of the very young boys?first question is:"What do you cook?"

So now I know why they are interested in me and why, after having given my honest answer to that question, they turn away from me.

Gosh, alone for ever.
And thus free for ever of any woman-for-housewife-cooking looking man!!!!

From now on I will overcome loneliness so easily, sooooo easily!






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Posted by: RickGI

That's ok Alenika I can cook ......Well I can cook but the daughter says she can't wait till her mother teaches her how to cook, don't know what she is trying to tell me


Posted by: Alinka



Oh man, you are telling me that you are going out with an older Russian woman and her young daughter is giving you signals that she cant wait learning how to cook? Your story starts to be an interesting case...
Could it be that anyways you fell in love with the older lady because her young daughter is so chute?
And by the way: that young daughter is a clever one. She knows what counts!

Just kidding.




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So it is with the glories and tragedies of the world."
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Posted by: RickGI

No alinka my young daughter is the one who can't wait to cook. I am not currently dating just corresponding with a few


Posted by: chatter

I am new here and this is a very, very interesting thread.

I am 39 years old. I am negotiating a divorce right now that has been a long time coming. My soon to be ex-wife (STBX) struggles with homosexual issues to say it nicely. We have been married for 11.5 years and have 2 daughters that are both boy crazy and I hope it continues.........no offense to any homosexuals on here. To digress a moment, my STBX was sexually abused as a child and her parents died at ages 4 (mom) and 8 (dad) and she was raised by an abusive sister. And there is alot more to it that I won't go into, but I have compassion, in some strange way, for my STBX. We are trying to work it out amicably for our children..........and she is pushing that even more than I am. She wants to remain good friends while allowing me to find my own happiness that she has kept from me all these years because she cannot be a loving and supportive wife..........mainly due to her dislike of men to begin with. But strangely, she loves and adores me and is thankful I'm the father of her/our children. She is having a hard time letting me go because I have supported her through so many trials in her life and our marriage and she finally came to the realization that it's not fair to me (which it isn't).......but I was trying to do the right thing and be there for her and the kids. But now that we're at this point, I finally get to be "selfish" and think about myself and what I want.

I want a good, loving, caring, supportive wife who I can reciprocate all of that with. I love what Lena says about Russian women and what they want..........and I think I am that kind of man. I am 39 years old and I desire a wife much younger because I would still like to have more children. I love kids and I think the bond between a man and a wife is great even without children, but it's also enjoyable to have children together too.

Reading this board, I never dreamed it would even be possible to think about marrying a woman in her early to mid 20's.........but it makes sense actually. Plus, I'm a big kid at heart in a lot of ways, but also have my serious mature side, too.

I seriously wonderd if any women in their 20's would even consider a guy almost 40..........but this thread gives me hope. I set my sights to low........and now I'll consider women in Russia of multiple age groups.

And I am not on the rebound..............I am completely at peace with my divorce and wish my STBX the best and hope we can remain friends and be happy for whatever the future holds for us.

Just my two cents.


Posted by: Texas Proud

Quote:
Originally posted by Alinka
Interestingly enough even one of the very young boys?first question is:"What do you cook?"

So now I know why they are interested in me and why, after having given my honest answer to that question, they turn away from me.

Gosh, alone for ever.
And thus free for ever of any woman-for-housewife-cooking looking man!!!!

From now on I will overcome loneliness so easily, sooooo easily!






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Alinka... don't tell me you LIKE being alone? I was 'comfortable' being alone for a long time, but met someone when I was in the UK... she went back to New Zealand and me to Texas... now I am looking for someone to be a part of my life. I think it will be better overall, even though I am giving up some of my independence... but first, I have to find her!!

Is it that you were 'with someone' and it did not work out and now you are saying 'never again?'.


Posted by: don4

Check the age differance we now have one year together and it only gets better each day with our 40 year differance
passed our AOS yesterday and i still don't use Vigara.
After her meeting other young american men she is even more happy that she got a older more muture man. After the next two years we will see what happens then in the mean time i am enjoying all ayoung lady has to offer


Posted by: inlove

Don4,
Good attitude, man. Enjoy while it lasts.


Posted by: searcher

WOW, I never thought this thread would ever be this popular.

Interesting results!!!!!!!
Interesting comments!!!!!


Posted by: elvis1

Elena is 5 years younger than I am.

Andrew


Posted by: jpierce55

As I have not married or even engaged a woman from the Ukraine yet, it only counts so much. I will throw out at my age of 27 95% of the women who respond are 22, in fact it seems a waste of time to attempt to email any that are older.

Strangely only the more attractive ones respond, some of the less attractive women seem like my type and usually reject me.

And BTW I use Elena's Models.


Posted by: fly4fun

Advice sent to me for us "older" guys...

Ask your lady friend the name of Paul McCartney's first band.
If she answers "Wings", she's too young for you.... LOL

Be very afraid if she answers, "who's Paul McCartney?"

Bob


Posted by: searcher

Quote:
Originally posted by fly4fun
Advice sent to me for us "older" guys...

Ask your lady friend the name of Paul McCartney's first band.
If she answers "Wings", she's too young for you.... LOL

Be very afraid if she answers, "who's Paul McCartney?"

Bob


HEY!

Paul McCartney's new wife might NOT know who the Beatles or Wings are!


Posted by: dakotaridge

Quote:
Originally posted by Michael Blue
Well, Olya is 12 years younger than I am, but I did not set out to find someone this young. Truth be known, once she is here, I expect this to be difficult for some people in the US to swallow, until we are both a little older. I am told she likely had no major age preference, because this age gap is fairly common in Ukraine. She has never commented either way, but I will ask.


My Olya is 28 (in February); I'm 43 (44 in June). I posted how I found her somewhere around here ... the ages were irrelevant. I would have moved Heaven and Earth to be with her even if she was my age. Age was completely after the fact.


Posted by: RobOhioGuy

Quote:
Originally posted by fly4fun
Advice sent to me for us "older" guys...

Ask your lady friend the name of Paul McCartney's first band.
If she answers "Wings", she's too young for you.... LOL

Be very afraid if she answers, "who's Paul McCartney?"

Bob


Eric Clapton was 56 when he married Melia McEnery, 25 in 2002.

Today the couple have 2 children. As Ive said repeatedly, the age thing is a overblown myth.


Posted by: chatter

Yeah, look at Anna Nicole Smith. She married a guy in his 90's and they were happy as can be!

Okay, maybe that's not a good example.


Posted by: RobOhioGuy

Quote:
Originally posted by chatter
Yeah, look at Anna Nicole Smith. She married a guy in his 90's and they were happy as can be!

Okay, maybe that's not a good example.


Well, at least he was happy


Posted by: Pin Boy

do you really think if eric clapton wasn't eric clapton he'd be marrying a 26 year old??

btw...i'm amazed at the resilience of these rock stars who have ravaged their bodies with drugs and alcohol for years and look no worse for the wear - like eric clapton for example

of couse for every living, breathing eric clapton, there's five or six pushing up daisies


Posted by: Alinka

I agree.
Age expectations follow only set conventions of society.
There is no reason why people of hugely different age should not feel drawn to each other.
Sometimes such an age gap gives a balance and stability to a couple. I certainly do prefer men a lot older in age. There is more to talk about and they know what they are looking for in a woman and what they can appreciate about her.



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Posted by: RobOhioGuy

Quote:
Originally posted by Pin Boy
do you really think if eric clapton wasn't eric clapton he'd be marrying a 26 year old??

btw...i'm amazed at the resilience of these rock stars who have ravaged their bodies with drugs and alcohol for years and look no worse for the wear - like eric clapton for example

of couse for every living, breathing eric clapton, there's five or six pushing up daisies



Your point? So you seem to imply that money makes a better relationship? No amount of money is going to erase the 26 year age gap between Eric and his wife. No amount of money is going to make them happy as a couple. Clearly, they have been together now for a number of years, have 2 children and seem to be a reasonably happy couple. Thats what is important. The point is and was, age gaps are a largely over blown issue.


Posted by: Turboguy

Ah, Don, you make me feel better. Most places where I see age discussed and age differences talked about I seem to be the champ. You have me beat though. I am 63 and my fiancee is 28. So we have a 35 year differnce. There was another gal I was pretty interested in before I met my fiancee was 22 so that would have been a 40 year differnce and matched you exactly.

We seem to get along well and the age difference does not seem to bother either of us.

I am glad to be wrapping this up. I have been making trips to Russia and other places in the FSU for 9 years. I think for a while I was afraid to settle with one because there were so many beautiful gals I was afraid I would miss a better one. I think when I turned 60 I started to think I had better get serious. The choices when I was a young dude of 54 were much better and it dawned on me that it was only going down hill from here on.


Posted by: inlove

Oh boy..





Posted by: RobOhioGuy

Quote:
Originally posted by inlove
Oh boy..





Oh come on InLove.... we ALL know real love is when your wife will wipe away the drool off your chin cause your too old and senile to do it yourself Just in his case, he will have a 25 year old doing it


Posted by: Turboguy

Heck they can do lots more than that. They can find whatever glass you left your teeth in for you. The can rub a little boot black on the three hairs you have left on your head. Russian gals do a lot of walking so they have strong legs and can push your wheel chair for hours without complaining.


Posted by: heatherlatyshev

I put:

She is older than I am.

Because I am 4 years older than Oleg.....and I love every minute of it. Not that a Russian man can be judged by age alone, he's proved more than once that his maturity is greater than that of American men, he even has my ex husband beat, and he was older than I was.


Posted by: peakman

22 years between us; I am older, but she is way smarter and prettier of course !


Posted by: Swanson

Well nothing in stone yet, I went to Odessa to meet a 25 year old (I'm 35) and ending up hitting it off with a 22 year old. we are emailing every day and phone calls are every 3 days. My friend who is 34 has just met an 18 year old here in Canada, and is getting heat from everyone including her parents. So my age difference I think isnt too bad (although i felt guilty at first).


Posted by: lindochka

I'm a good bit older; he's never cared about the difference in our ages and I'm now at the point where I don't much care either.

We each "did everything right" the first time (with our prior partners) and it didn't work out for either of us. He's persuaded me to go "unconventional" the second time around.


Posted by: Jill

Now here's an interesting trend that seems to be emerging...Do AW who marry FSU men tend to be older than their spouse? I am two years older than my husband, Heather is four years older, lindochka is also older....Interesting. I wonder why that is? Coincidence? Or maybe Americans in general tend to be more open to marrying someone younger? Or people in the FSU are more open to marrying someone older?


Posted by: lindochka

I don't know if an age difference of two to four years would be statistically significant (whether in the east or the west) even if it's the woman who is older, rather than the man. My guy's mother is two or three years older than his father, and last year his sister married a man three years her junior.

OTOH, the difference in our chronological ages (not to mention some other aspects of our relationship) is the stuff of movies and novels -- at least it is when it's the woman who's that much older.

From my perspective, he has a more mature attitude than many AM and FSU men of the same age. And cultural stereotypes aside, he's neither a spoiled mama's boy nor a drunken, wife-beating Neanderthal. (Okay, he does leave the toilet seat up, but I decided that in view of all his other good qualities -- he cooks, does dishes, washes his own socks, and even remembers to cap the toothpaste -- just making a point to look before sitting was not a bad tradeoff. )


Posted by: Jill

Quote:
I don't know if an age difference of two to four years would be statistically significant


I agree that the difference is not that significant. But it is an interesting contrast to the parallel AM-RW relationships where it seems common for the man to be 10-15 (or more) years older than his wife.


Posted by: lindochka

Quote:
Originally posted by Jill
I agree that the difference is not that significant. But it is an interesting contrast to the parallel AM-RW relationships where it seems common for the man to be 10-15 (or more) years older than his wife.


I wonder how much of that might be attributable to it being generally more common for RW to marry significantly older men. And I suppose it would make sense for an AM looking for a much younger wife to consider looking in a population where fewer eyebrows would be raised over the age difference.

In my own case, I wasn't even looking, let alone for someone younger. We were in the same place at the same time and we just happened.


Posted by: Jill

Quote:
I wonder how much of that might be attributable to it being generally more common for RW to marry significantly older men.


That has been the common assumption, although frankly I wonder how true it really is. I was actually watching a (Russian) show on TV the other night where they where discussing marriages with a significant (say, 20 or so years) age difference.

Most Russians they talked to (both men and women) said they found such relationships shocking and questioned their legitimacy (often with the assumption that the woman was after the man's money)....So public opinion expresed on this show seems not to support the idea that such unions are really more common or socially acceptable in Russia. Although who knows? I wonder if there are any reliable statistics?

My guess would be that such large age differences are much more common in AM-RW marriages than in RM-RW marriages.


Posted by: lindochka

There might be some reliable statistics somewhere -- if not, there's surely a doctoral dissertation in the making!

Among my married Eastern European relatives, the men of younger generations tend to be older than their wives, though only by the more usual couple of years. But in the senior generations, a difference of ten or more years (again, the man being older) isn't/wasn't unusual.

Perhaps changing times accounts for part of current attitudes about age difference among modern-day Russians, much as it does for Westerners?


Posted by: searcher

Back to the top of the list for the newbies!


Posted by: skinsfan

as for me, there is a 14 1/2 year difference.....,,we simply click, for us it works extremely well.


Posted by: mistermopar

Hi,
the lady that I am going to see and that I have been writing to for a year or so is about 2 years older than I am.

Randy


Posted by: Rvrwind

I'll probably get cruicified for this, but my wife is 17 years younger than me & we are celebrating our second anniversary in 8 days.
I think Fred can testify to the type of relationship we have, no problems & we still love each other very much.
She was over 30 when we met & I was just under 50, now we are a little older I at 52 & her at 35.


Posted by: jonathan4444

I am 37 and I met a couple of ladies, 19, 22, and 32. the 19 year old my mother would have slapped me, the 22 year old just wanted to party, the 32 year old was just right. a lot of guys say they don't go looking for younger women, I was, and fell for an older, not as old as me, woman. but if that doesn't work out, I still have my 19 year old kind of on the hook. god I'm evil.
Anyway, another possibility for the age difference is percieved age, russian men tend to age faster than us so we don't look as old. I had ladies telling me I was still a young man, as if.


Posted by: ConnerVT

Quote:
I think Fred can testify to the type of relationship we have, no problems & we still love each other very much.

I think your wife is a remarkable and wonderful woman. She lives with you!

But seriously, you can tell when two people have genuine caring feelings for each other, and truly enjoy each other's company. I have always sensed this when I spend time with the two of you...


Posted by: Rvrwind

Quote:


I think your wife is a remarkable and wonderful woman. She lives with you!

Well that pretty much says it all!!! ROTFLMFAO


Posted by: rams

I was just married Aug. 22. I'm 54, my wife is 37. Last time my wife talked to her mother about this subject, her mother said someone had asked her if the age difference bothered her daughter. My wife told her mother to tell them I was more "strong" than men her age. I'm not athlete, but I do stay in shape. Russian men are "out of shape", but then many american men are too, but few older russian men exercise daily, and I know this makes a big difference.
I think there needs to be compatability in some way, but some people die of old age at 50, others are still jogging at 90. You can't simply say people are not compatable because of a number. I do, however consider myself very lucky to have such a young, beautiful, and most important...an understanding wife.


Posted by: paul42q

Well, I might as well add my 2p worth to this. Me and M are 12 years apart, she's 25 and I'm 37, (although, in reallity there may be no "us" yet, as I fly out next week for a fortnight, no back up plan, just faith in fate!!, although we have spoken daily on the phone for 2 hours every day for the last 3 weeks now and seen multiple images of one another, so it'll either be fantastic, or the biggest come down of my life to date!!, I'm betting on the former, anyway I digress...)

My former partner who was a UK woman was 10 years younger and that seemed OK to me, although she did seem to be slightly bothered by it occasionally, (I don't know why she looked the same age as me anyway!) although age was nothing to do with our eventual break up, so I'm fine with 12 years. I'm in pretty good shape and told I only look early 30's so that's OK with me!

Anyway, (to be taken tongue in cheek please!) as a 37 year old male, in 20 years time, I'll be looking distinguished if I keep in shape, most woman (locally certainly, probably to a lesser degree with RW) my own age will look a right state by their late 50's, they just don't age as well as us men! At least this way I get to have a fit, attractive, young looking partner for at least the next 20+ years!!

Although, the chap on here with a 40 year difference!!!! wow, good luck to him, but I'd be concerned it might not be all about romantic love.... but each to their own.

Paul


Posted by: etcetera

I am thirty one and I was hoping to find someone as close to my age as possible. Late 20's. I certainly did not want someone in early 20's. Well, she is twenty seven. That means a 4 year difference.


Posted by: J60

i initially read this thread out of interest thinking it was out of date for a message, till i got to the end, and it aint so here goes,

i had seen the RU and FSU dating sites but for a number of reasons decided not to pursue the idea, some financial at the time 3yrs ago and also looking at most of the women on the site's i figured i'd be killed in the rush !!
when i was looking i would look at an age range of 5yrs to 15yrsmax younger than me

i started writing to a number of people in Ukraine on a penpal site and most of those stopped writing eventually, except for one, i went out to see her in january when things had started developing past the penpal stage i visited again and then went out in august to get married,

she and her daughter are due over here late november, i'm 60 she's 35
i'm a bit on the skinny side and don't drive because of an eye problem and walk a lot so apart from my eyes i'm pretty fit (for a geezer !!!) and most people take me for 10yrs younger,---- (i hope)

i was concerned about the age diffrence at the begining but i have been told in no uncertain terms in her words (i will be very angry if you mention it i am not young woman ) i have got used to the idea and it no longer bothers me,
but it might in twenty years time when i need one of those little blue pill's,

60yrs 35yrs + 13yr old rugrat,


Posted by: mgarner453

Well, I will add my thoughts in this as well. I am 48 and my special girl is 28. We have talked about the age difference indepth and she has assured me that this isn't a problem. I can also say that this isn't one for me either. I don't feel like I am approaching the top of the hill and I am sure that she will keep me busy...lol


Posted by: deccie

I am curious about the long term plans and discussions people have put in place around this issue. Even though no individual knows how long they will live, at least statistically relationships where the male is significantly older will mean that the male parter will most likely die first. I know this might be a hard topic to deal with but surely it's one that should be faced and discussed.

Certainly since the person I am interested in is also 10 years younger than me it is one I would like to see addressed in some way. At the least it would probably mean trying to ensure enough financial resources are available in that eventuality.
It may be less of an issue if the Russian and Asian model of having several generations under the same roof vs the western tendency for old age homes...

Andrew


Posted by: J60

Hi deccie

Yes we have talked about the future and the problems that it could bring, especially the financial side, my wife is a strong woman and knows that she will need to be in a position to look after herself financially when they slide me under the auld sod, (but not for a long time yet i hope!!!)

She went to Kiev on friday (7th oct) to go before a group of her peers, to get her PHD in biochemistry, she has already passed the written part of her exam with top marks, so once she has been over here long enough to get her spoken english up to scratch she will do whatever is neccecery to get her qualifications recognised here in the UK,????

This should'nt be to much of a problem as most of the biochemistry text books in Ukraine are translated from western books mostly US/UK and as she said a biochemical reaction and the language she use's in her work, and names formulas etc are the same wherever you go, there are no problem's with diffrent methods and training because unlike most of the medical world it is a fairly? new science,

she has just finished three years original research into toxic hepatitis to get to this stage and all of it she has translated herself into english for her peer review,

John


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by J60
Hi deccie

Yes we have talked about the future and the problems that it could bring, especially the financial side, my wife is a strong woman and knows that she will need to be in a position to look after herself financially when they slide me under the auld sod, (but not for a long time yet i hope!!!)

She went to Kiev on friday (7th oct) to go before a group of her peers, to get her PHD in biochemistry, she has already passed the written part of her exam with top marks, so once she has been over here long enough to get her spoken english up to scratch she will do whatever is neccecery to get her qualifications recognised here in the UK,????

This should'nt be to much of a problem as most of the biochemistry text books in Ukraine are translated from western books mostly US/UK and as she said a biochemical reaction and the language she use's in her work, and names formulas etc are the same wherever you go, there are no problem's with diffrent methods and training because unlike most of the medical world it is a fairly? new science,

she has just finished three years original research into toxic hepatitis to get to this stage and all of it she has translated herself into english for her peer review,

John


Sounds like you have a Gem there John!!


Posted by: J60

Hi Chris,

Yes i think so, she's very strong mentally because of her life in Ukraine,
and I think she is a gem,

i'm sure all on this forum think the same about the lady in their life,
and i'm sure they are all right,

thats why we all went through this process to come out with someone worth treasuring and hopefully from what we experienced make us better people because of it,

John


Posted by: Chrismc

Well I don't doubt they are all right, my gem is coming to visit me end of the month, I just hope things work out as we anticipate.


Posted by: J60

Hi Chris,

I'm sure it will work out, and I hope Anya has a fantastic time while she's over here and can't wait to come back,

this time for good to marry you,


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by J60
Hi Chris,

I'm sure it will work out, and I hope Anya has a fantastic time while she's over here and can't wait to come back,

this time for good to marry you,


Thanks John,

I hope Anya does, but I don;t know any Anya so give her my best will you if you see her. Iryna on the other hand

Chris


Posted by: don4

UPDATE


Posted by: don4

UPDATE ONE AND A HALF YEAR


Posted by: don4

UPDATE ONE AND A HALF YEAR still going strong without Vigara love is even better now


Posted by: J60

Quote:
Originally Posted by Chrismc
Thanks John,

I hope Anya does, but I don;t know any Anya so give her my best will you if you see her. Iryna on the other hand

Chris



Yes i keep dropping this gooly don't I !!!!! mmmmm must remember to give myself a slap round the earole,

John


Posted by: skinsfan

HI chris...be sure to take a video when you introduce Iryna to Anya......it should be interesting, and a memory i am sure you both will cherish...hehehe !!!


Posted by: J60

Skin

If this all works out there's a good chance i will meet Iryna,
as chris does'nt live to far away, and if i make the mistake of calling her Anya someone else is likely to be hitting my earole,

John


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by skinsfan
HI chris...be sure to take a video when you introduce Iryna to Anya......it should be interesting, and a memory i am sure you both will cherish...hehehe !!!


I see a threesome brewing here How do I ask Anya ,....I mean Iryna though


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by J60
Skin

If this all works out there's a good chance i will meet Iryna,
as chris does'nt live to far away, and if i make the mistake of calling her Anya someone else is likely to be hitting my earole,

John


John

If I make the mistake of calling Iryna, Anya whilst whispering sweet nothings in her ear, can I come and stay with you

Chris


Posted by: J60

Hi Chris

That depends on whether your coming to get away from Iryna's wrath or give me a thump round the lugole,

I think you may have to show her my posts on the forum when she arrives, and prepare the excuses first, hehehe

but if the worst comes to the worst you could always use my son's room while he's at UNI, or sleep with the dog,

John


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by J60
Hi Chris

That depends on whether your coming to get away from Iryna's wrath or give me a thump round the lugole,

John


I'll get back to you on that one if it happens.


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by Chrismc
John

If I make the mistake of calling Iryna, Anya whilst whispering sweet nothings in her ear, can I come and stay with you

Chris


All went well John....no mistakes :-) thank goodness didn't fancy sleeping with your dog!!


Posted by: J60

He He He no fat old basset hounds don't make the best sleeping partners,
but i'm glad it all went well for you both,

Natty has her date for her last exam 20th dec, so i'm booking the tickets next week for sometime during the first couple of weeks in Jan, so she can have this chrstmas with her family,

painting nearly all done now just the gloss in the living room and some odds and ends of furniture to get, plus finishing laying the carpets when the guy gets here,


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by J60
He He He no fat old basset hounds don't make the best sleeping partners,
but i'm glad it all went well for you both,

Natty has her date for her last exam 20th dec, so i'm booking the tickets next week for sometime during the first couple of weeks in Jan, so she can have this chrstmas with her family,

painting nearly all done now just the gloss in the living room and some odds and ends of furniture to get, plus finishing laying the carpets when the guy gets here,


Good news John.....I bet you can't wait to see her again. I hope that painting is up to scratch you know you old chippies are not the best painters, good at wood butchering though hey!!


Posted by: J60

Yes not to long now untill they come over here finally,
not bad at wood butchering, just a bit out of practice, was'nt to bad with a paint brush either, but not with this one coat or solo, damn stuff goes on like gas tar, i've three paneled doors to rub down and do again, but i'm using valspar this time,


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by J60
Yes not to long now untill they come over here finally,
not bad at wood butchering, just a bit out of practice, was'nt to bad with a paint brush either, but not with this one coat or solo, damn stuff goes on like gas tar, i've three paneled doors to rub down and do again, but i'm using valspar this time,


Might be easier and quicker to replace the doors and stain them Sorry!!!


Posted by: J60

Yes and my second names rothschild, lol


Posted by: Chrismc

Quote:
Originally Posted by J60
Yes and my second names rothschild, lol


Is that Mr John Fruit Pudding Rothschild then


Posted by: J60

there's no answer to that you daft devil, lol

of course i could get new doors, stain them, varnish them, rub them down to get rid of the raised grain, and then give them another coat of varnish, which is only twice the work, not counting the cost of the doors plus fitting them, o sorry i forgot,
fill the grain first so that is only two and a half times the work,

Sheesh what school did'nt you go to,


Posted by: Chrismc

Well if you want to split hairs he he OK Point made


Posted by: J60

I'd thought you might suggest that all in one ronseal stain and varnish,

Indoor creosote, LoL

biggest problem because of my peepers is lining out, makes the big one look like railway track !!!!!!!!!


Posted by: Chrismc

Good luck with it then John now Natty is not coming before Xmas you have a bit more lead in time


Posted by: J60

yes plenty of time to get rolls of masking tape to go round everything to straighten it out,


Posted by: zaniac

The lady I've just met in Ukraine - Natasha - is only 5 days older than me

I put down that we are of the same age.


Posted by: J60

FIVE DAYS DIFFRENCE, and you put down the same OH you fibber,


Posted by: clever1

Quote:
Originally Posted by zaniac
The lady I've just met in Ukraine - Natasha - is only 5 days older than me

I put down that we are of the same age.


You never said you were into older women Zan. hehehe



John


Posted by: zaniac

Quote:
Originally Posted by clever1
You never said you were into older women Zan. hehehe



John


I never was until I met her


Posted by: Hostile_hostage

My 'girlfriend' is 32 and i shall turn 44 at the end of this month.


Posted by: mistermopar

Well my new friend,also named Elena....I thought if I found another girl with the same name as the last it would be less confusing for my mother.
Any ways she is 41 and I am 37,so that would make her 4 years older,just incase you are not into math.

Randy


Posted by: cedarwind

I have found this thread very interesting.

One of the reason I started looking for a Russian wife was that they would except the age difference. I am not that old just 32 but as I was using the American personnel sites all the women that interested me were like 24-27. They ALL told me I was to old they would only date a guy 1-2 years older than them. After many 100’s of emails it leave a sour taste in your month. I have many friends over seas and from South America and I believe this “ same age syndrome” is a north American thing.

My current and most serious GF, Olesya is 9 ½ years younger than me. At first I was a little worried to the age difference as she was a few years younger than what I was looking for but then she reminded me that on her profile she was willing to go up to 43 years old, and thus she said that I was just right still full of fun but also serious. It is still unbelievable to me that we are so similar in personality and taste. I just hope that it hold true when we meet in person in the spring.

My past “GF:“ who is still a good friend and still looking for her man was 4 years younger than me. Our birthdays are even the same day thus we thought it best to remain friends as each year we would remember each other any ways.!


Posted by: yodaamnot

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Originally Posted by cedarwind
It is still unbelievable to me that we are so similar in personality and taste. I just hope that it hold true when we meet in person in the spring.


All the best and let us know what happens in spring.


Posted by: jeffs

My GF is 6 years younger than I am. My ex wife was 18 years older... age really is relative (I'm 31).


Posted by: heychuck

Quote:
Originally Posted by cedarwind
I have found this thread very interesting.

One of the reason I started looking for a Russian wife was that they would except the age difference. I am not that old just 32 but as I was using the American personnel sites all the women that interested me were like 24-27. They ALL told me I was to old they would only date a guy 1-2 years older than them. After many 100’s of emails it leave a sour taste in your month. I have many friends over seas and from South America and I believe this “ same age syndrome” is a north American thing.

My current and most serious GF, Olesya is 9 ½ years younger than me. At first I was a little worried to the age difference as she was a few years younger than what I was looking for but then she reminded me that on her profile she was willing to go up to 43 years old, and thus she said that I was just right still full of fun but also serious. It is still unbelievable to me that we are so similar in personality and taste. I just hope that it hold true when we meet in person in the spring.

My past “GF:“ who is still a good friend and still looking for her man was 4 years younger than me. Our birthdays are even the same day thus we thought it best to remain friends as each year we would remember each other any ways.!


I do not disagree with you nand what you are saying here. But in my personal opinion, the same age thing is not just a north american thing. You will find on average marriages within Russia occur mostly between couples of 'similar' age.

However, I do see how they can be more 'accepting' of age differences. They also seem to (and this is only my observations) become more open to age difference as they get older. This is in contrast to north americans (again this is just my experience!) that would not even consider relations with anyone not about 3 years +/- there age. Sure when they get into their thirties they open up more, but it is still disappointing the close mindedness you can run into. They don't talk about age difference in tabloids and gossip as much in Russia as they do here.

Having said that, the difference in age between me and my fiance is 3 years.


Posted by: bingism

All I can say is that my parents have 6-years between them, my brother and his wife have 2, my serious exes we 1) the same age, 2) 1 year older, and 3) 6 years younger. M is a whopping 8-months older.... bottom line is it doesn't make much difference if you're happy, but if the age difference is such that there are wildly different expectations, it will become a problem! After all, you can't party all your life and eventually you have to grow up (or down) and face the ageing music... Bing


Posted by: broncosfan

I am 30, she is 26


Posted by: AMELIASIMON

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Originally Posted by searcher
I wanted to poll the posters here to see what the most common age difference was between men and the lady/ladies they are involved with.

Please take the poll, thanks!!!

I am a female but my husband of 25 years is 7 years younger.


Posted by: searcher

Quote:
Originally Posted by AMELIASIMON
I am a female but my husband of 25 years is 7 years younger.


Hi!

Thanks for the reply. It was not intended to exclude women but I want seperate data.

It seems that most men seeking women from the former Soviet Union are seeking younger wives. I just wondered what the percentages are.

We have a lot of western women on this forum that are married to men in the former Soviet Union. I know it won't be as big of a poll but it would be interesting to see the results of such a poll... I just wonder if I can get them all to logon to the forum and take the poll.

I know many of the read the forum regularly but haven't posted for a while.

Ladies, are you willing to take a poll????


Posted by: mistermopar

Hey searcher,the lady that I am currently writing,phoning,is 4 years older than me.I am 37,she is 41.

Randy


Posted by: searcher

LOL Well Randy, good luck... I hope something works out for you. It good to see you are cheerful!

Hey ladies, try my new poll! It can be found here:
A poll for Western women married to men from the former Soviet Union (FSU Men).


Posted by: JamesB

I am 45 and my wife to be is 22.I am pretty fit and look younger and told her i was too old.She wont hear a word about it.We are in love and she has no issues.We wed in prague in may.


Posted by: Colochef

I am 39 and she is 32. It seems to be a nice difference. From what I have read and seen 5 years or a little more is considered perfectly normal


Posted by: RBS

Yo yoodamnoot

Actually, objective research shows the probability of a marriage failing rises exponentially when you get past the 8 year age gap. You as an older male must be nicely buffed and rich to sustain the interest of a younger woman. There are many reasons for this and most of them rooted in biology. If you can sustain a physique into your senescent years and have good income this is a sign you have superior genetic potential and this can even excite a younger woman. But if you are an average Joe and thinking you can get some fertile woman on the cheap just because she comes from Russia and is poor relative to you you are in for a surprise. Nature will not be thwarted. Look at yourself and if you figure there is a 3 point of more difference between the two of you on a ten point scale then jump ship. And why don't you go for a lady older than you? There is much wisdom to be had in answering that question.

Gib


Posted by: Turboguy

First off Gib, no one is good at evaluating themselves. Everyone thinks they are a 10.

Second thing, go on any dating site and check out the older gals. these gals look great at 25 but don't age that well. I won't say you can't find an attractive older gal. There are a few. Heck find yourself a nice one about 20-30 years younger and by the time they turn into a babuska your eyesight is so bad you won't know it.

Seriously Gib, There is a lot of logic in what you say but there are still guys going to hunt for younger gals and there are younger gals that are interested in them so the world is not going to change and the old farts who want a young gal are just going to go right on trying. I don't think most of them think of it as getting a woman on the cheap. You never get a woman on the cheap. The world is not going to change. The Russain gals are getting more descriminating on age. If that ever dries up they will just move their searches to the Philippines or South America.


Posted by: vic2012

Thank goodness for JamesB (23 years difference)

I've been looking back through this thread and suddenly felt very old. There's 24 years between my fiance and me.

I dont think actual difference in years has anything to do with it. Some men look like 50 when they are 40 and others look like 40 when they are 50. My fiance thinks that, for mid-fifties, I am very young for my age (bless her). But I am "fit", slim and I dont have a white hair (well not on my head anyway). When she first responded to me, I was all ego. But I have grown to love her as an equal in all things and feel totally at ease with our age gap.
See for yourselves: http://www.russianmeetingplace.com/...23&page=3&pp=15

We've had to discuss of few things to do with age. She's the same age as my daughter and she will still be in her 40's when this old fart hits 70 (thanks turboguy), but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it, assuming I make it.

Has anyone worked out, who on this site has the biggest age gap between them and their partner?


Posted by: vic2012

I think it may be Don4 at 40years. And no Viagra

I feel like a spring chicken again!


Posted by: RBS

Turboguy,
Yeah, lots is possible. I am just talking about what is probable. Do you know the Russians have a term for dweed lose western men who go over flashing the bucks in search of action? They calll them srany karol. **** kings. They are despised and used. I really want to see men here have a great relationship but I want to inject some realism. I recently posted to some chap who was planning the baptism of his son. He had not even met the Russian woman and was hallucinating on this front. I want here and now to lay down the gauntlet. Does anyone have any knowledge of a marriage between Russian and western with a 15+ age difference that is working? Davia!

Gib


Posted by: yodaamnot

Quote:
Originally Posted by vic2012
I think it may be Don4 at 40years. And no Viagra

I feel like a spring chicken again!


That's the spirit!!!


Posted by: yodaamnot

Quote:
Originally Posted by RBS
Yo yoodamnoot

.... And why don't you go for a lady older than you? There is much wisdom to be had in answering that question.

Gib


Hi Gib,

My ex was actually 6 years older than me. Unfortunately it didn't work out.


Posted by: Turboguy

Your welcome Vic. She is a doll by the way and you two make a nice couple. Just remember if you still have your eyesight when she starts to turn into a babuska, give up carrots. It might help the eyes to go if you do that.

I think I saw someone with a 40 year age difference somewhere in this thread or here someplace. My former fiancee who was here last year for 89 days was 34 years younger than me. It didn't work out but the age difference didn't have anything to do with it. If I end up with who I hope I will and think I will, the difference will be exactly the same. Well, technically 4 months more. I am off to Russia tommorrow with high hopes.


Posted by: RBS

Quote:
Originally Posted by Turboguy
Your welcome Vic. She is a doll by the way and you two make a nice couple. Just remember if you still have your eyesight when she starts to turn into a babuska, give up carrots. It might help the eyes to go if you do that.

I think I saw someone with a 40 year age difference somewhere in this thread or here someplace. My former fiancee who was here last year for 89 days was 34 years younger than me. It didn't work out but the age difference didn't have anything to do with it. If I end up with who I hope I will and think I will, the difference will be exactly the same. Well, technically 4 months more. I am off to Russia tommorrow with high hopes.



Another one bites the dust.


Posted by: Turboguy

What ever you say Gib. I am sure you are well aware that you have all the answers.

By the way that was Don with the 40 year difference and they are doing great. As for me, My gal says she likes the age difference and would not care if I was 100, so we will see.


Posted by: RBS

Quote:
Originally Posted by Turboguy
What ever you say Gib. I am sure you are well aware that you have all the answers.

By the way