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Posted by: matt235

(Ladies and) Gentlemen,

OK, I realize that this is the "Russian Meeting Place", but I have some questions regarding the whole MOB industry/society. I hope that someone here might be able to help out.

I guess my main question is this:

What are the main differences between FSU ladies, Latinas (Latin ladies) and Asian ladies in regards to the MOB scope?

What I am looking for here is to see if anyone has ventured out to the other 2 "cultures". Over time, I have spoken/written to ladies from all three of the geographical areas and I have some opinions (maybe not popular, but opinions nonetheless) regarding each of these genres.

Before I spill my guts regarding the differences, I would like to see if I can get some feedback first.

As always, anyone's help and/or advise is more than welcome.

Cheers,

Posted by: freebird

Oh boy you might be stepping on some toes here...

I think that on average the asian women will be more home-oriented than FSU women, as in Asian culture the women is generally more submissive and has less oppertunity than in the FSU, where women generally had more employment equality and it was common for the woman to work. I don't know as much about Latinas, but I would be concerned that they are perhaps more serious about their religion {Catholic} that FSU women are about theirs, it could be a problem if you aren't catholic. Also it seems to me that the latina girls tend to be heavier than FSU girls. Just my observation, some of you may disagree.

Posted by: I/O

Matt: Somewhere way back when on one of the forums I commented on this subject. I have dated at least one or more of all three groups for an extended period of time at different stages before meeting my now wife.

From each of these groups come wonderful women who each have their own special and unique qualities. What is suited to each and every man is a very individual thing. I ended up marrying a Russian Woman but it could just has easily have been one of the other groups or a woman from near home as I was dating on the local scene also.

The differences I see most starkly are demonstrated only during and after the heat of an argument. IME the Asian woman will become silent and sulk. The Latin women will scream the house down and then sulk. The Russian Woman will stay right in your face until the death, never agree with you and come back at you later as if nothing had happened. IME sulking is not part of the RW I know.

All three have tempers which can flare with equal veracity. Any man who thinks he can go to any of these areas and find a servant home maker is in for a shock sooner or later.

I/O

Posted by: freebird

I/O was the asian girl that you dated living in Oz? I would think that a girl living in the west for a few years would have a different attitude than say a prospective "MOB" living in Thailand or Philippines etc. Also one living in the west would have a more "modern" view of a womens role in working vs. homemaker I would think.

Posted by: GentleGiant

As you know I have written to two different Chinese girls, both shared a very old fashioned sense or morality, The first would not accept that writing to more than one person at a time was right; she really liked me, but because I had told her I was writing to a few other women she picked someone else who DIDN'T tell her he was writing to other women; although I can guarantee he was.
The 2nd, Tina, has not even logged into her account on FRP since she started writing to me; I know I logged on and checked her out several times.
They both seem more prepared to meet and marry much older men that the average "Modern" Russian woman does; has anyone else noticed that "age awareness" has started to creep out of Moscow and St.Petersburg into the regional cities?? Women of 30-35 who used to give an age range of 40-50 are now saying 30-40. Some of them are even giving ages BELOW there own, something I have never seen before on a FSU dating site.

It is something I worry about, that Tina will accept me just to get out of China, or will not be willing to accept I see her as an equal, with an equal voice in our future relationship (if there is one).

Let the debate begin!!...............

Posted by: clark

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Originally Posted by matt235

(Ladies and) Gentlemen,

OK, I realize that this is the "Russian Meeting Place", but I have some questions regarding the whole MOB industry/society. I hope that someone here might be able to help out.

I guess my main question is this:

What are the main differences between FSU ladies, Latinas (Latin ladies) and Asian ladies in regards to the MOB scope?

What I am looking for here is to see if anyone has ventured out to the other 2 "cultures". Over time, I have spoken/written to ladies from all three of the geographical areas and I have some opinions (maybe not popular, but opinions nonetheless) regarding each of these genres.

Before I spill my guts regarding the differences, I would like to see if I can get some feedback first.

As always, anyone's help and/or advise is more than welcome.

Cheers,

Matt, it seems you've asked a question for which they'll be no one answer and it lends itself to the stereo-typical answers. Different cultures are going to produce a different "style" of lady. Just as they do men. I/O had some good generic answers but those are naturally based upon the specific women he dated. I too have dated both asian and hispanic ladies. They were American citizens but very distinctly as different from each other as they were different from your typical American lady.

I've said from the onset of this pursuit that this pursuit of a Russian lady found me. The thought of searching for a lady outside of my country never crossed my mind but I eagerly dated one or more from all three categories and other categories as well. They were all living in this country so it was not quite the same as picking the fruit directly from the tree. How much of a difference that makes, I do not know. They all had a wide range of differences other than the obvious culture based differences of food, religion and family unit that one might find among the same number of American women.

For the sake of advice or answering your question(s) there isn't much in the way of differences as there is the way you perceive them. Which the short answer is, go for the ones that attract you the most on both the physical and emotional scale. All others be dammed. In the end and up to this point for me, it is the Russian but there were some wonderful qualities I found in the others I wouldn't mind seeing in my Russian lady. But that will probably never happen and I like it that way.

Posted by: EasyTarget

Matt: Living in Hawaii with different large groups of Asian populations, Korean, Japanese, Filipino, Chinese, South East Asians, etc...

They all have different cultural backgrounds and have different viewpoints on life. I have personally noticed that Chinese and South East Asian groups tend to be more superstitious then other groups. For instance the Olympic games are starting on 8 Aug 2008. or 08.08.08 -- with the number 8 being lucky in Chinese culture.

BUT...women are women and you may find the most attractive woman in the world and the two of you are perfect for each other, and oh by the way she just happens to be from China, Russia, Canada, USA, Oz, etc....

Posted by: I/O

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Originally Posted by freebird

I/O was the asian girl that you dated living in Oz?

No. None of the ladies I mentioned were living in Australia. I lived and worked in Thailand for several months at one time. I spent several months in Latin America and the FSU has been a series of shorter visits.

I/O

Posted by: JohnnyLaRue

I lived in Japan for quite a while and had numerous dates and 3 relationships there. I am not stereotyping here and when I say Japanese women I do not mean ALL of them.

- When faced with choosing you or her family you will ALWAYS lose. I.E: Her grandparents hated me because I was white. I understand their logic since they lived near Hiroshima during WW2. But her grandparents said to break it off with me and she did.

- Japanese women are passive aggressive.

- Japanese do not open up all that much and talk about problems.

- Japanese women don't drink often and when they do they can not hold their liquor.

- Once again a cultural aspect but public displays of affection are not well received.

- Left my wallet in her house as we were leaving so I went back inside to get it and took one shoe off and hopped a mere 5 feet to get the wallet and hop back out the door. She freaked out and was very upset. Yes I know the whole cultural aspect of it but I did not think it would result in her refusing to speak to me for the whole drive.

- They are concerned about how others see them. Only good example I have is having the trash out the same time the rest of the neighborhood does. She got very upset when I would not have the trash out at the same time everyone else did. My view was it's trash and putting it out an hour early is no big deal. Though that is a cultural thing. As the saying goes "deru kui wa utareru" (the nail is hammered back down).

- They do not tolerate lateness and for me being 5 minutes late to meet friends is not a huge deal. Yet being 5 minutes late to meet her friends for dinner resulted in huge drama and her apologizing all night long. Another example is when I was dating another woman and was 15 minutes late due to me getting on the wrong train. (damn that kanji). Despite texting her about it (it's common to text as opposed to call in Japan) she was in a foul mood the rest of the night.

- The ones who are heavily into anime, video games...etc I would avoid since those activities come first. Stay away from the cosplay women as well.

- Having sex (even more than once) with a Japanese women does not equal an relationship.

- Speaking of sex Japanese women have some odd fetishes! You have to be open minded. One I dated for a while would get turned on by plucking my ear hair and considered that her foreplay.

- They won't scam you for money but there are the ones that just want free english lessons. You can spot those types fairly easy though.

- The women I dated would rather make me tea and home remedies than allow me to see a doctor. Also when they are very sick they do not want to be told their ailment. One women I was dating her mother had cancer and the doctor told the family and the family would not tell her mother (as per her wishes). I was beside myself and felt the mother should know so we argued over this often.

- As mentioned before age means nothing over there. I was shocked at the amount of old businessmen with some young 20 year old on their arm. I think it is mostly it's due to the mindset that one can be old physically but have a young soul. That and reincarnation is a belief over there.

- If you plan a serious relationship with one make sure they visit your home country. The one I was in a long term relationship with was polite and quiet when I lived in Japan and when she came back with me (her vacation) in my home country she was loud, rude, would curse at employees, ..etc. I think the Japanese culture kept her inline when she was in Japan for fear of being an outcast and society looking down upon her. We ended up mutually breaking it off.

- I don't want to paint a bad picture and there are lots of positive aspects of dating a Japanese woman (active, kind hearted, great sense of humor, respectful towards others, inquisitive, not materialistic).

Posted by: j_c

Johnny

I get the impression that they are a lot more moody and find it hard to let an issue drop?

As for plucking the ear hair thing, thats just plain weird!!

JC

Posted by: freebird

Wow! I would never last a week with a Japanese girl...

Posted by: JohnnyLaRue

jc - Moody perhaps but I think they keep it bottled up until it spills over. At least that is my theory since reasonable people do not get upset over small things. But at least with RW they don't hide their feelings and let you know how they feel. For me it is a welcome change of pace.

Oh and the ear thing was probably #4 on the list of weird fetishes I encountered.

Posted by: EasyTarget

Dying to know what was #1 - #3

Posted by: freebird

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Originally Posted by EasyTarget

Dying to know what was #1 - #3

Do we dare ask?

Posted by: JohnnyLaRue

I forgot to add that JW like lots of personal space even when talking. Many times I was told I was too close by JW. Even though it is what people from America would consider normal. RW I have noticed like to be close and it took a while to get used to with the one I am seeing. I don't mind it at all but after going from one extreme to the other....

Oh #1 to 3 ??

#3 was the one who had the armpit fetish which was too weird for me. I mean I don't feel comfortable having my armpits sniffed all the time! When I woke up, after I showered, watching TV...etc. Needless to say this relationship lasted under 2 weeks.

#2 was really into the whole Soapland thing. It got to the point were I refused to bathe with her around.

#1 umm nobody wants to hear it. *flashbacks of me running out of her house* *nightmares* *shudders*

Then again there was a used womens panties vending machine en route to work. One of the girls I dated made me go with her to the laundromat because old men would steal her panties en route there. She claimed one old man opened up the washing machine and stole them right in front of her.

I dated a girl who dressed up like a Pokemon character and hung out in Harijuku (Tokyo district) on the weekend. She claimed she worked on the weekend and I guess it's better to find out she was lying and doing that then cheating on you.

Posted by: clark

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Originally Posted by JohnnyLaRue

I forgot to add that JW like lots of personal space even when talking. Many times I was told I was too close by JW. Even though it is what people from America would consider normal. RW I have noticed like to be close and it took a while to get used to with the one I am seeing. I don't mind it at all but after going from one extreme to the other....

Oh #1 to 3 ??

Too Funny!