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Posted by: EasyTarget

And now for the rest of the story....

Tells the tale planning my last trip to Russia.
http://russianmeetingplace.com/foru...ead.php?t=17095

The results of my trip. :-(
http://russianmeetingplace.com/foru...95&page=6&pp=15

To quote myself I wrote...
"Well this is the end of this chapter ~ and possibly the book."
But what I left off from the story was there was another chapter -- but I wasn't sure how things would turn out.

After meeting "A" or as I have nicked named her; "The Ice Princess" I was really leary of meeting another woman from the FSU. But as fate would have it, I met one more woman. "L"

And boy oh boy is she very unique. If I met her last year, my first reaction would have been, she isn't my type. But the more I get to know her, the more I am realizing she is my type. And maybe we are meant to be together. She is not like any other woman I have ever met. And I mean that in a good way.
We share a similar sense of humor, and get along fabulously most days. She keeps me on my toes, this is for sure. I have officially given up on trying to figure her out, and I just roll with the punches.

I met "L" while in Russia. And although I had seen her photo and knew what to expect, her jacket, hat, scarf, mittens, really hid the women underneath. We spent several days (8) together. And there were no real disagreements or hinderances. There were some minor cultural differences, but I think we got past them, with no one getting hurt.

We did the normal tourist things in Moscow. We visited many museums, walked many, many KM's. Took dozens and dozens of photos and enjoyed our time together.

Luckily I was able to visit "L" for a second time in April of this year. And currently planning a third trip this summer. In April we spent a few more days together, and the honeymoon phase was over. It was more real, we were both ourselves the good and the bad. Luckily a lot more good then bad.

The only true "bad" item between us was a huge misunderstanding on each other's parts. I made a quick joke that was in truly bad form. It just popped in my head and I really shouldn't have said it. She was offended. Don't blame her; but on the other hand, it was a little bit of learning experience on her side. She needed to learn a little about my sense of humor and Western humor in general.

Lately the only downfall in the relationship was the break in communication. The last few months it has been difficult to have regular communications; either calling her or via Skype. Honestly I questioned how things would turn out between us. Being so far from your S.O. can amplify any negative thoughts or feelings. The time that you are apart allows for ample time to dwell on the negatives.

Luckily the last week we seemed to have resolved the technical issues on the communication. And fingers crossed there won't be any breaks in communication.

I am taking a different approach this time. I am taking things considerably slower, not rushing, not getting on one knee after 3 days, etc. Just allowing things to progress naturally.

I am relating my situation because lately it seems like there has been quite a few meetings that have gone sour. Don't know the reason why, but hopefully this will help inspire a few members to stick with things and continue onwards.

Having a VLDR is not easy. Not easy at all, but the rewards are so great.

Best of Luck.

Posted by: EasyTarget

And just when I thought things couldn't get any stranger...

Last week when I was feeling particularly blue, the "Ice Princess" sent me an SMS. I was truly expecting never, ever to hear from her again. She wished me a belated Happy Birthday. Knock me over with a feather.

I took the time to email her back, thank her for her SMS. Her follow up email provided the answer to why she sent the SMS. She told me she was late in sending me a birthday wish since she had been on vacation in the mountains. And while on vacation she met a guy.
I then thought ahhhhh, OK now I know why she sent the SMS. She just wanted to gloat about meeting someone else. I told her good luck. And I am really expecting never to hear from her ever again.

Posted by: nocomfortzone

Hey, good to hear ET. I been wondering what happened with you especially as you had some really tough chapters happen in your international dating adventures and you were encouraging me I should keep in contact with a girl I know from Latvia even though I'm not really searching internationally, so to speak.

That "Ice Princess" sounds like a cold piece of work that likes to play emotional mind games.. better you not hear from her again.

Sounds like you come across someone that is enchanting you. Hopefully she is more than just that. Keep on keeping on dude...

Posted by: Chrismc

Good to hear things are looking up for you ET in the romance stakes, I hope it all works out like you want it too

Chris

Posted by: dagpop

ET, I hope it works out for you.

Posted by: Chillidog

ET,

your story, as far as failing with two previous women and now taking things much slower with the third, is very much like mine and how I feel and progressing in this for me in my third attempt. I also thought after attempt number two, that I would probably not do this again, but in reality that means I had given up on finding my lifepartner no matter where she lives. I am gald to read that like me you have also not given up, and even happier to see that you are further along in this process than I am and are feeling good about this lady and this relationship. I will follow your progress with great interest and hope that for both of us that the "3rd time is the charm"

Sounds great so far

, forget "ice princess" and concentrate on "L" but you already know this

Posted by: Justjohn

nice one ET best of luck
John

Posted by: EasyTarget

Chili: Actually I talked with numerous women by email, and honestly most of them I didn't click with. No particular reason but something wasn't there for me. Granted it would be different if I had met them, etc...

With "L" I am really glad I have stuck with it. At first she was very guarded and only over a long time did she open up to me. Bit of challenge, I guess I liked it.

I truly have forgotten about the Ice Princess, she is a nice woman, but it would never go beyond friendship. I do wish her all the best in the future. And I do hope she really did meet her 1/2 half.

It has been a long journey and no one knows how things will turn out in the future but it certainly has been interesting.

Posted by: EasyTarget

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Originally Posted by EasyTarget

And just when I thought things couldn't get any stranger...

it gets even stranger..........

Yesterday Nadia contacted me. Knock me off my feet. She was upset about her niece. She helped raise her niece since her sister got divorced when her niece was about 3 or 4 years old. Her niece is about 17 years old, and last year started dating a guy, spending all her time with him, school work was suffering...and you can guess what happened. Nadia's niece is pregnant.

Nadia felt like her niece is ruining her life because she won't be going to university.

So I talked with her for a little while trying to make her realize that it doesn't matter if she is 10,000KM away or 1KM away; the same would have happened. It is her niece's decision and it is her responsibility. And if she wants to be a good aunt, she needs to help her out, as best as possible.

It was so odd to have Nadia contact me like that, but I am ok with it.

Posted by: Chillidog

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Originally Posted by EasyTarget

ET,
sorry for asking this question but I am not sure if I am up to speed yet.

Is Nadia your "A" aka "Ice Princes"?

Posted by: EasyTarget

No, Nadia was the couchsurfer from Russia.
Meeting Nadia: http://russianmeetingplace.com/foru...ead.php?t=14773
Getting Hooked: http://russianmeetingplace.com/foru...ead.php?t=14525
Getting Dumped: http://russianmeetingplace.com/foru...ead.php?t=15510

Wonderful person and wishing her all the best.

Posted by: Chrismc

Yes I remember the lovely Nadia, very very nice indeed

sorry it didn't work out for you ET.

Posted by: Raspberry

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Originally Posted by EasyTarget

Lately the only downfall in the relationship was the break in communication. The last few months it has been difficult to have regular communications; either calling her or via Skype. Honestly I questioned how things would turn out between us. Being so far from your S.O. can amplify any negative thoughts or feelings. The time that you are apart allows for ample time to dwell on the negatives.

Luckily the last week we seemed to have resolved the technical issues on the communication. And fingers crossed there won't be any breaks in communication.

It's not just the translation. There are some logic differences between Western and FSU people.

Posted by: EasyTarget

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Originally Posted by Raspberry

It's not just the translation. There are some logic differences between Western and FSU people.

I really think there is logic differences between men and women period. I am not sure I 100% believe in the psycho-babble men == mars, women == venus.

Although the more I learn about women the less I know about men.

Posted by: matt235

ET,

Hey I've heard of guys juggling girls before but this is just some kind of psychological stabbing, more of on the lines of a bad ex coming back to haunt you. Stick with "L" by all means and just wish the others well. Good luck!

Posted by: EasyTarget

So for some sort of amusement sake, Nadia sent me an email on Monday. She had gone to visit a friend in South Carolina. It is a couple that helped Nadia and her room mates when she first moved to the USA.

She went fishing on his boat, a group of 5 or 6 people, and she told me about her weekend. In the email she decided to include some photos from her fishing trip. Of course she is wearing her little black bikini that she bought when she was in Hawaii.

Somehow I think she is teasing me...but I am not so easily swayed...well not NOW anyways.

Posted by: EasyTarget

Quote:

Originally Posted by matt235

Hey I've heard of guys juggling girls before

Too bad I was never in the circus.

Quote:

Originally Posted by matt235

Stick with "L" by all means and just wish the others well. Good luck!

I am trying...I am trying.....but it is complicated. And the better question is will "L" stick with me?

Posted by: matt235

ET,

Head games played by RW's are the same as the one's that AW's play, just with a different twist. Looking at the physical side of things is great, but never as the only thing in a relationship that is designed to last for the long run. You and "L" seem to have something working, something past that initial phase. This is a good sign. Keep it up and good luck.

matt235

p.s. see if "L" a little black bikini...OK, that might be optional.

Posted by: EasyTarget

"L" doesn't have a black bikini...that I know of, but she does have a nice green one.

And she has a very nice room mate but her room mate only speaks Russian and Polish. So if you know some Russian and / or Polish...

Posted by: matt235

Green is good, green is very, very good! As for speaking Russian/Polish, I'm sure I would get in trouble for most of mine is sketchy at best. Then again, I have learned Spanish, some Persian and Romanian, and how to properly cuss in Japanese (as well as embarrass myself speaking Japanese in Rome) all because I was chasing someone of the female persuasion. So I don't see how this could be any different!