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How long will you search.
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Posted by: dagpop

I know most guys have been married or had girlfiends in their country and have had bad experiences or divorces. In search for mates, guys are looking in the FSU or other countries because they are not satisfired with women in their own country. How long will you seach in the other country? Will you search 1 yr, 5yrs, 10yrs, or until you find someone? Would you ever stop the seach and start looking in your country again? I was lucky in my seach because I found my wife right away and did not spend a lot of time looking.

Posted by: JohnnyLaRue

I never say never but I fed up and tired with women from my own country/countries (am a dual citizen). Been through a divorce with a Western woman. Dated 100's of western women and we just don't mesh well. Our values are too far apart. Their ideals are not ones I agree with. Most all of them are ignorant about anything outside their own microcosm.

I've dated foreign women and it seems we get along much better. In fact even as far as friends go I have 2 great loyal American friends. The rest are foreign.

So to answer the question I am laid back and feel whatever happens,happens. If someone wonderful comes along regardless of race or country I won't ignore them.

Posted by: sidney

To answer your question. For me it went in spurts. One trip to russia, met many was interested in one. Spent 10 days in moscow and 10 in st pete with her. Corresponded for some time with phone calls. Another visit with visa packet. Began filling out forms only to have her decide that she couldn't leave her beloved russia. Dated a dozen or more american women in the next months. Did 2 trips to Cali, colombia. Met one in colombia that seemed interesting but in the long run didn't work out. Just prior to my next trip to russia I get a phone call from the one from the first trip asking when I'm coming to russia. Told her I had tickets to moscow in 2 weeks. She said she had no money to come to moscow from st pete to meet with me. I had left her several hundred dollars for the visa process. She no longer had a job as a lawyer. Her sister had married and moved to america so now she was interested and I didn't bite. I'm not for wasting time with people that change their minds. Saw no future with any of them. Most AW didn't warrant a second date. Made plans for another trip to ukraine and russia. Met many again including my wife. Returned with visa info and 10 days together with wife knew this one was right. When you find the right one it is worth the trouble of weeding out scammers and GTG. In the years since I did my search they've only become more worse. It can be expensive, a real emotional roller coaster with many ups and downs. Troublesom discerning sincerety but in the end everything usually works out. I would have gladly spent much more in my seach and feel lucky to have found a gem that I have.
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Posted by: OzGuyLooking

Well to put it bluntly I have given up searching. Why? well I find the whole "searching" thing just isn't natural. What I haven't given up is just coming across someone. I will never discount anyone from my own country and I will never discount someone from another country. I'm at the stage where I feel if it will happen it will happen without me pushing it.

Since I have changed tack things are great, I have only had one argument with a prospective (total misunderstanding on both our parts) and at the end of it we recognise there is something developing. Before the argument we were just friends who chat online, now there is an understanding that we will see what develops.

One last thing, even though the "searching" things isn't for me I don't discount that it is the way to go for others. What I think needs to be pointed out is that if you are someone who gets "attached" to someone only to be disappointed when you find out your feelings are not reciprocated then maybe you should consider doing it another way cause there is only so much emotional ups and downs a person can take.

Posted by: Chillidog

I do not know if I will ever give up on finding a lifepartner. In the past have used the dating sites to find a American woman, went on many dates but for me (I will admit I am very choosy-but hey were talking a lifetime commitment) I never met an AW women that I wanted to see for a second date, for many reasons, and I am sure the majority felt the same for me. I have been searching now for 2 years for an FSU woman, I do not know if I would put any time table on results/giving up. I want to travel and see many other places in the world, so if I results do not happen, I may just change my approach and just travel alone, stop concentrating my travels on Russia/Ukraine and see other fantastic places in the world and maybe meet an incredible woman this way during these trips, but I do not think I will ever "just stop' the search for a lifepartner.