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Have a dilemma, need some advice
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Posted by: Chillidog

A little background info 1st, I was writing 2 women that I had great interest in, but 1 of these woman is now no longer in the picture. Both of my previous trips I went and met just one woman each time. So my personal decision is this next trip I want to visit 2 different women that I have at least developed some sort of ’friendship’ with prior to travel. Ideally to spend 1 week with each on this trip.
I do have a profile on AnastasiaWeb (before anyone starts shouting and screaming, let me explain) I am now using Aweb as just a search base, they have a function that is somewhat similar to Elena’s Models EOI’s, and that is you mark a woman as a ’favorite’ and a short letter (free) is sent to the women (or hairy Boris) that states your interest in her. I did not think I would be doing this because I thought I already had 2 woman to visit, so I sent a few of these favorites to about 10 women and have had 2 of these women (or hairy Boris) write me back.
What I then did is did a google search of the women’s name (I only have first names) and her city and country to see MOSTLY if I could find this woman on a local agency and write her thru this agency instead of Aweb.
I did find one of these women had a profile on a local agency and have done some research on this agency (http://www.heart-desires.com, really could not find anything on them) they are listed here on RMP in the REVIEWS section about agencies, but there are no reviews for this agency. So I mostly only can go off of what is stated on their Web site. They offer 2 different ways to write a woman---Monthly unlimited emails, or pay per email ($3.50 per). They also state free exchange of all personal information, (postal address, personal emails, phone numbers) so it appears to be on the up-and-up. I will in a few months add a review of my personal experiences with them for all to read.
Since I did find this women’s local agency and I definity am going to start writing her thru this agency, I was curious to see what her (or hairy Boris) had to say in her letter to me on Aweb, and this is where my dilemma comes in and needing some advice and opinions.

In her letter she gives some information not on her profiles and possibly information that a Hairy Boris would not know, for example her daughter has a common name, but she writes of her affectionate name that she calls her daughter which in my experience has no correlation to the child’s given name. Also she writes a short sentence about her family, mentions she has a brother, gives her brother’s name and that he lives in a different city and also gives this cities name. Leads me to believe this letter was not written by a Hairy Boris, so now my dilemma is---------When I write this lady at her local agency, this will be the first letter she has received from me, do I?

1) mention the letter I received from her at Aweb?
2) when I ask in my letter about her family and wanting to know more, do I refer to her daughter by her ’nickname’ (her real name is listed on the local agency profile) and also ask about her brother that lives in a different city?
3) or keep my questions about family more generic?

My dilemma is like everyone here has mentioned you never do know with Aweb if the letters from the women are legit or written by hairy Boris, or if the letter is legit, was she shown my profile that I have on Aweb after I made her a ’favorite’ and her agency received notification, and that she approved of her ’intro’ letter to be sent to me.
Again I did not find anything about her local agency anywhere as a ’scam agency’ and from all I can see at this time is they appear to be good, my gut feeling is she saw my profile and approved her letter to be sent to me.

One other Question does anyone know of another way to check on women we have interest in? Because when I google search to find a particular woman or a local agency for her, I maybe get results on about 1 out of every 10 women. I would really like to find the other woman I wrote of in the beginning of this post, in case this woman who I did find ends up being a dead end.

Posted by: Chrismc

Chilli

Personally I would write and ask her to tell you more about her brother who lives in ??? and her daughter (use her affectionate name) BUT word it in a way that is not so direct, just in a matter of fact way.

If she asks how did you know about these things, just say we wrote via AW and assumed she knew it was the same person. She may or may not know you are the same man, but if worded correctly it could work to your advantage.

Also, do not put too much store in what she calls her daughter at the moment, they have many many affectonate names for each other and a hairy boris could quite easily have chosen some random name that he knows may well fit, he may also have thrown in a curve ball about a brother and another city just to make it look more legit.

I would guess this lady is legit though, so just be careful that you don;t go accusing her of things, as I said above, I would broach the subjects but in a way that was not too obvious a direct set of questions. The daughter is easy because you would want to know about her sibling anyway, the brother, you could always make up an excuse that you have heard quite a lot about the city he lives in and ask why he .lives there, things like that.

A bit of inventive writing is required here I think until you know for sure on way or the other.

Just my 2 Kopecs

Chris

Posted by: Spakoyna

I personally don't see what the big deal is! Why not just come out and tell her it is better for you to write to her through her local agency?

Just write her and make the title I wrote to you on AW. Then explain it to her. If she is legit and wrote you the letter you will find out very quickly.

Posted by: GoingToRussia

You could also go to www.freepersonals.ru and do a search on her age, city, and country ... maybe a few other parameters. At www.elenasmodels.com you can do the same thing.

Posted by: Chillidog

Thanks Chrismc, for your input, I appreciate it

Spakoyna, I have never written her yet. All I did was mark her as a 'favorite' on AWeb, so I was just looking for opinions. I am going to write her but want to see how others might perceive her letter from AWeb, because she may not even be aware of her letter being sent to me at Aweb. Whether I should in my first letter to her put any credence into this letter I recieved at Aweb, or just on my first letter to her on the local agency site, write more of a generic letter to her. If she is not aware of this letter (her intro letter sent to me on Aweb) she may wonder 'how I know an affectionate name she calls her daughter' and also how 'I know she has a brother and that he also lives in a different city' from her.

there is no big deal just I have never written any letters to her previously. I just do not want to start off on the wrong foot. To me this is a grey area, not really sure which approach to take.

Posted by: Chrismc

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Originally Posted by Chillidog

Thanks Chrismc, for your input, I appreciate it

Spakoyna, I have never written her yet. All I did was mark her as a 'favorite' on AWeb, so I was just looking for opinions. I am going to write her but want to see how others might perceive her letter from AWeb, because she may not even be aware of her letter being sent to me at Aweb. Whether I should in my first letter to her put any credence into this letter I recieved at Aweb, or just on my first letter to her on the local agency site, write more of a generic letter to her. If she is not aware of this letter (her intro letter sent to me on Aweb) she may wonder 'how I know an affectionate name she calls her daughter' and also how 'I know she has a brother and that he also lives in a different city' from her.

there is no big deal just I have never written any letters to her previously. I just do not want to start off on the wrong foot. To me this is a grey area, not really sure which approach to take.

I would still do as I said above, you can also add that you liked her letter you received through AW, see what response you get to that?

Posted by: Spakoyna

Well! In that case I would just header the letter response to your email on AW! I am sure things will sort themselves out if she is interested!

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Originally Posted by Chillidog

Posted by: Buckeye5704

I'd do what Spakoyna said Chilli.

I was writing to a nice girl from Kharkov when I first started this. She went to another agency with their own site and we said goodbye because I didn't want to spend whatever the cost of a "Credit" was for each letter to her. Well, lo and behold a new profile popped up at fiance and I sent off a welcome letter, she responded, etc. It turns out that the agency never gave her any of her letters and even set up a meeting for her with someone she had never heard of. Hmm, sounds familiar... Anyway she wasn't happy about it and left them in a huff.

Granted, we had already been in contact and she remembered me, but it's not all that far from where you are here. In fact she asked me to tell her about myself again as she didn't save any of her letters from before. Just send her a letter and explain that you favorited her at AW. Ask if she got any notification from AW, etc. your girl should understand.

Tim

> > > Ukraine

Posted by: Chillidog

Thanks for all of the help, Chrismc, Spakoyna & Tim

I just finished writing my letter to this lady, and took all of your advice to heart, basicly towards the end of my letter, thanked her for attention (letter) at AWeb, that I felt it was better to communicate with her thru her local agency, asked about her daughter, but did not refer to her by her 'nickname' (first letter to her thought it might be a little soon for this) and asked for more news about her family and brother. So now it is just wait and see on how things progress.
again thank you all for your input, it was greatly appreciated.

Posted by: Chillidog

well I sent my letter to this 'Sumy' women and recieved her reply on 4/10 all was positive, she enjoyed my letter and the 2 photos I sent along with it (before anyone puts in a wise crack about my pictures I did of course send pictures of 'Brad Pitt'

)
I have written the agency a couple of times asking questions, and recieved quick responses, they are very helpful, and my early take on the agency is they are legit.
Their website does not have a place to check your mail, instead when a girl responds to your letter it is sent to your personal email and attached with her letter is a copy of the letter you sent, so it is easy to see if she answered your questions and such.
Also it does not appear that they have a 'gentlemen's cataloge' on their Web site, they may keep pictures and men's profiles in a folder in their office for woman to view (I have not asked about this) so it appears that no other women are aware of you, other than those you write (you do not get unsolicited emails from other women--at least I have not so far)
It is in the very early stages with the woman, the agency appears legit, so I am hopeful of where this will lead.

Posted by: Buckeye5704

Hey, its great to see that "Brad" got a positive response. Seriously though, the worse that can happen is she isn't interested. As long as you're up front with her there shouldn't be a problem IMO. Glad she's writing to you Bob.

41 DAYS!!

Posted by: Raspberry

Chilidog, is she actually from Sumy, or an outlying town?

Posted by: goforit

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Originally Posted by Chillidog

My dilemma is like everyone here has mentioned you never do know with Aweb if the letters from the women are legit or written by hairy Boris, or if the letter is legit, was she shown my profile that I have on Aweb after I made her a ’favorite’ and her agency received notification, and that she approved of her ’intro’ letter to be sent to me.

Chilli,

End the suspense and just call her

Posted by: Chillidog

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Originally Posted by goforit

Chilli,

End the suspense and just call her

goforit,

sorry for the late response, and thanks for the advice.

I do communicate with this woman now outside of Aweb, where we can exchange personal info freely, things have progressed nicely, but just recently
underwent some major surgery on my knee, that is making me take a step back and has put some personal issues to the front, such as recovery and due to the extent of my injury will I be able to even work in my profession in the future.

Posted by: Chillidog

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Originally Posted by Raspberry

Chilidog, is she actually from Sumy, or an outlying town?

yes, she lives in the town of Sumy, as she states a short walk to the shoping-city center, her deffinition and ours to what a 'short walk' is, could be totally different?

Posted by: Chrismc

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Originally Posted by Chillidog

yes, she lives in the town of Sumy, as she states a short walk to the shoping-city center, her deffinition and ours to what a 'short walk' is, could be totally different?

You are right there Bob, a short walk to my wife is miles, more like a route march for me

Posted by: goforit

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Originally Posted by Chillidog

No problem. I was just pointing at the AW is one of the few sites that you can call someone you are interested in immediately, and thereby avoid all the problems that people seem to have with them.

Posted by: Chillidog

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Originally Posted by goforit

No problem. I was just pointing at the AW is one of the few sites that you can call someone you are interested in immediately, and thereby avoid all the problems that people seem to have with them.

Yes, good advice for all, and like you stated (in a different thread) and I agree with you, it is best to avoid AW completely

thanks

Posted by: Chillidog

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Originally Posted by goforit

No problem. I was just pointing at the AW is one of the few sites that you can call someone you are interested in immediately, and thereby avoid all the problems that people seem to have with them.

and this is the difficult thing when a person travels over there to meet the woman, you want to look good and dress sharp, but sometimes them damn nice dress shoes just can't handle their 'short' walks and kill the feet. I thought I was much better prepared on my second trip, but it still was not until a day or two after I returned home that I once again had feeling in my feet other than complete pain

Posted by: Pin Boy

break those dress shoes in first before you go traipsing all over the FSU - i too learned the hard way

Posted by: Raspberry

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Originally Posted by Pin Boy

break those dress shoes in first before you go traipsing all over the FSU - i too learned the hard way

I had not worn my dress shoes in quite a while. The felt comfortable, but they were the only shoes I had when in Sumy, due to the lost bags situation. However, the soles gave out from all that walking......

So, not only have shoes that are broken in, also make sure they are in good shape. Really should have gotten them re-soled before my trip, but had too much on my mind.