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Posted by: youlek

how do you think if it is possible to find your soul mate in whom you'll adore everything?

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Posted by: blucatz

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Originally Posted by youlek

how do you think if it is possible to find your soul mate in whom you'll adore everything?

If I didn't think it was possible, then I guess I would be wasting my time.

Posted by: youlek

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Originally Posted by blucatz

If I didn't think it was possible, then I guess I would be wasting my time.

I didnt think it was possible

and didnt search ... he appeared himself.
my previous bf ... I didnt like a lot in him
the present one is perfect

Posted by: sidney

I'm happy for you and do wish you the best. We all are or were looking for our soulmate.
Sid

Posted by: nocomfortzone

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Originally Posted by youlek

I didnt think it was possible

and didnt search ... he appeared himself.
my previous bf ... I didnt like a lot in him
the present one is perfect

hmmm, interesting... so you stayed with someone you did not like much which I can never understand in any couples (i'd prefer to be single than be in a crappy relationship )and now you say the present one is perfect.

Well I suspect it is still quite early days in this relationship for you and him. Generally we all feel that way about a partner (them essentially being perfect) from the first 6 , and even up to 18 months.

No one is perfect but we can still adore another person for the fullness of them with strengths and weaknesses all part of the package.

In essence I say yes to your poll but I tend to think they are many ideal partners for anyone but opportunity to cross pathes at different parts of our life and being awake enough to them to act on that opportunity is another thing in itself.

Anything can happen and probably will.... as can be seen by you not even actively looking and someone ideal for right now in your life has crossed your path

enjoy sharing this journey with your present soulmate

Posted by: youlek

the present combined everything what I like in men ... plus he is perfect in my eyes

Posted by: Testman

It is possible, however, I do know that most people do not find this soul mate and only end up keeping themselves single and lonely for sometimes even decades because of this search for the perfect mate. This is incredibly common in the USA., especially at the hands of women. And then what is so odd, is that eventually the women will "settle" for a good guy, only to forever blame men for men not producing a soul-mate for her. She will then spend the rest of her life taking it out on the man she "settled" for. So I actually have a different belief system. Instead of dropping anyone and everyone on the first date, who doesn't match the perfect requirements, I believe men and women are both equipped to improve upon themselves, up to a point anyway. And a combination of this, combined with a reasonable expectation, will allow happiness to be found between the man and woman. So instead of looking for this "soul mate", I think it is more reasonable to look for someone who is simply good enough, and then, at least hopefully, that person will do what ever they can to make the other happy. I think this absolutely is possible to perceive what the other person wants in a mate, and to become , mostly that person.

But then again, I have seen so many American men try their best to be what his wife wants, and she still divorces him, so maybe my theory is flawed. . .

Posted by: youlek

some russian women prefer to marry rubbish not to stay single

Posted by: nocomfortzone

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Originally Posted by Testman

But then again, I have seen so many American men try their best to be what his wife wants, and she still divorces him, so maybe my theory is flawed. . .

Well your present theory does not seem a bad one, however the way you write "American men try to be what his wife wants" is the part I feel is flawed for real happy relationships and does not suprise me that would eventually end in divorce or two very comprimsed people in a mediocre relationship.

I've said it on here before but most people don't like it. Comprising in relationships on your own values is what I feel is a slow death to healthy relationships and the divorce statistics don't surpise me because most couples actually work with that flawed theory.

I think any time anyone tries to be what another wants it just does not sound right. Be yourself is the best theory and create a relationship with a woman that likes you for who you are and instead *both* actively do their best to create a relationship they are both happy with as partners.

Only each person can really make themselves happy but two happy people merging their lives together can be something more than 1 + 1 to share experiences as partners.

Posted by: nocomfortzone

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Originally Posted by youlek

some russian women prefer to marry rubbish not to stay single

I guess that is right there. It seems most russian women are conditioned to want to get married by a certain age that they will just do this even if they have not found a guy they real are very happy with.

Posted by: nocomfortzone

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Originally Posted by youlek

the present combined everything what I like in men ... plus he is perfect in my eyes

Last night was so weird night for me. I was browsing on here and replied to your poll and remember saying "anything happen and probably will " and then that is exactly how my night turned out so like a self fulfilling prophecy.

I caught up with some girl last night on webcam that I never thought I would see again and she thought I would not remember her. She just about perfect in my eyes...lol... only problem is she is overseas and I don't really want to be doing this international dating thing. As i said...anything can happen and probably wil... arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Posted by: clark

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Originally Posted by youlek

how do you think if it is possible to find your soul mate in whom you'll adore everything?

Unequivocally no. But that much pressure shouldn't be put on someone so close to your perceieved perfection. But finding the one as close as it gets is quite miraculous.

Posted by: redhawk

i think that anything is possible.,i also beleive that due to the nature of most of our searches for international love,for whatever reason,makes us more optimists than pessimists. remember that even the principle law of bouyancy would not have been discovered by ancient man(and woman id gather) had not many ships or lotkas been sunk first.

i once had "the perfect girl",and I screwed it up as a horny 23 year old,(a mexican by the way)only to later marry a village idiot,my fault also, i settled ,i wanted children,ect.and i can understand why russian women and other women do this. spent 7 years trying to make up what i did wrong before to other woman,(i still was not over the first girl)with this woman.which in turn,screwed up herself as a horny 28 year old woman with 2 children.

but alas,i found ANOTHER "perfect woman",in moscow. i can tell you that honestly,i have never loved ANYONE so much in my life.
the first day i was with her,i forgot every other woman or heartbreak i ever had.
i cant explain that,it just is. i dream about her,as a matter of fact, i heard her voice in a dream before we ever met. cant explain that either.
i know by my feelings how she is feeling,and so on. besides having a temper,she is perfect.
but no one is perfect,however that doesnt mean they are not your "soul mate"

Posted by: mistermopar

I think its possible,and there is more than one soul mate for each person.
I found mine,but I was not hers,so I am looking again.

Randy

Posted by: Buckeye5704

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Only each person can really make themselves happy

BINGO!!

I am responsible for MY happiness, not my (as yet unknown) mate's. And she must bear the responsibility for her's. I divorced my wife of 9 years for many different reasons, but one of them is that she kept trying to make me responsible for making her happy. It does not work!

If two people who are happy (content) within themselves meet and have enough common ground there can be a very happy relationship. BUT, even that is not a guarrantee. Both must work everyday at being the best partner they can be. Of course some days the work is more fun than others.

My .02 cents worth. Kicking the soapbox back into the middle of the room now.

Cheers,
Tim

Posted by: mistermopar

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Originally Posted by Buckeye5704

My .02 cents worth. Kicking the soapbox back into the middle of the room now.

Cheers,
Tim

Brought tears to my eyes Tim.....

Randy