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How often do you call your FSU women ?
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Posted by: royalpalace774

Hi Guys,
How often do you call your FSU women? I am asking this question because sometimes I feel that if I call every single day there is sometimes not much to say and it seems like we talk about the same old stuff like "How is the weather there, How is your mother? What did you do today, What's new?

I think it is nice to talk to a women who you might spend the rest of your life with , but at the same time it can sometimes get to where there is some silence on the phone.

I am wondering how much you call your women in the FSU or Ukraine or Russia.
I remember a few times calling my girl and we would have a bunch to talk about and then we would run out of things to say and I would just tell her that I will let her go and I will call her in a day or 2.

I guess maybe I posted this thread also because today I had a nice talk with my girl and after about 10 minutes I really didn't have much more to say. I talked about everything that I did today and what I was going to do tonight and even tomorrow. After that I just tried to think of things to keep the conversation going and my girl also mentioned that maybe I should call her every other day instead of every day because it might get to where we just repeat the same old stuff in our conversation. My girl also asked me how I felt about calling everyday or every few days.

I seem to agree. But then I get these thoughts through my head telling me that maybe they like when we call everyday. And maybe they don't like when we call everyday.

Just wanted to hear from some of you how many times a week you call your FSU women . This is obviously for the guys who are not married yet or before they were married.

Posted by: Chrismc

Well I'll tell you what we do each week,

1. We send each other at least 15 - 20 emails everyday
2. We spend at least an hour everyday on MSN to each other, evenings during the week, and maybe twice a day at weekends
3. We SMS each other at other times too.
4. We speak on the phone probably once or twice during the week and about 4 times at weekends.

However, we have a lot of planning to do at the moment for our wedding, but it has been like this from maybe the second week we started communicating with each other.

I agree at times it can mean going over old talks again, but we always find something to talk about and Irena loves to tease me and she has a great sense of humour, so we are never short of things to say, even if it is silly nonsense at times

Posted by: clark

I try to call everyday but it's not always possible. Sometimes I call twice a day. She encourages me to call as often as I am able. She will let me know in advance if she will not be available at one of my usual calling times. And seems very upset if she knows I tried to call and she wasn't there to receive it. Our conversations can range of 15 minutes to and hour or more. The average would be 45-55 minutes.

Sometimes the phone falls silent for a few seconds but not often. We seem to to a pretty good job of reading one another as to ending or continuing the conversation. She has a great sense of humor and we always have something funny going on between us. In all honesty we probably do more asking to repeat than we get actual conversation but that mostly is on the account of me, she has very good english but I have a pretty serious southern accent.

I usually keep the times I call relatively consistent but I skip days quite often. We usually send 5-6 emails a week which helps fill in the time when we haven't spoken

Posted by: goforit

With my ex-fiance we talked on the phone at least an hour everyday, and we had to work really hard not to talk longer and neglect some of our responsibilities. We also IM throughout the day. But we had lots in common, intellectually and otherwise, and were never at a loss for words, so I realize every relationship is not like this.

She once told me that going a day without talking to me was like trying to live without breathing.

Posted by: blucatz

Usually 2-3 times during the week, at least one long call on each of the weekend days with IM and web cam sessions thrown in on the weekends so we don't forget what each other looks like. But, just like GTR, I too seem to sometimes run out of things to say, but I still have not met my Lady in person yet, hopefully after the meeting that will change.

Posted by: redhawk

amazing! excellent post rp! i was just thinking of this recently.
my girl and i have talked on the phone and sms each other every day,except for 1 week she was in other country. since feb,2007!
certain subjects like politics, i try to avoid,and it is a challenge sometimes to come up with new material.
especially when we are waiting on approval of petition.("when? when?-ok,da,panyetno.... when? when i will be with you dorogoiiii..!)
she suggested a few times about maybe talking every other day,but when that happened,we were both miserable

she just bought a new laptop this week,and we are now discovering the joys of the webcam,but unfortunately not that kind of joy,she is very shy as always. a real lady in every sense of the word.

try this, get a pen and paper or card,and carry it with you throught the day,(shes always on your mind anyhow

-) write down events,or ideas to speak about with your woman,and reference it when speaking. it helps me sometimes.
RP,maybe you should make a poll??- HEY i just wrote my 100th post!!!

Posted by: royalpalace774

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Originally Posted by redhawk

amazing! excellent post rp! i was just thinking of this recently.
my girl and i have talked on the phone and sms each other every day,except for 1 week she was in other country. since feb,2007!
certain subjects like politics, i try to avoid,and it is a challenge sometimes to come up with new material.
especially when we are waiting on approval of petition.("when? when?-ok,da,panyetno.... when? when i will be with you dorogoiiii..!)
she suggested a few times about maybe talking every other day,but when that happened,we were both miserable

-) write down events,or ideas to speak about with your woman,and reference it when speaking. it helps me sometimes.
RP,maybe you should make a poll??- HEY i just wrote my 100th post!!!

Very interesting guys. Some of you talk a few times a day to your women and some of you talk every couple of days. I guess there is no rule here for this. I thought about it when I made this thread and what I don't want to happen between me & my possible future wife is that I don't want her to feel like we are getting stale in our conversations.

And also if I call every single day I don't want to run out of things to talk about that I talked about yesterday or the day before to her. I have an exciting job and I work with some cool people in my business and I sometimes talk to her about that stuff.

I think it is also good to let your women miss talking to you if a few days go by. Maybe she will not take you for granted. Maybe it's good to let her wonder what you are up to when you don't talk for a day or two.

When I spoke to my girl today she mentioned that maybe it's a good idea to let a day or 2 go by and then talk so we have more to say to each other. I seem to agree. The best part of our conversation today was when she said to me that she misses me being with her. Also within 3 minutes of us talking her mom said hello to me.

I also have to say that I liked that she just came out and said that she missed me without me saying anything 1st to her.

I wonder how much influence a mother has on her daughter if she likes the guy she is dating. I know that here in the U.S. A girl couldn't give a damm if her mom or dad liked a guy she was dating. But I wonder if that holds true in the FSU as well. Any opinions on that guys?

Posted by: redhawk

are u joking? if youre in with the mat,(mom)or papa, or family,usually youre in with the girl. russian families remind me very much of traditional catholic mexican families. they are the same in many ways. the mexican dad rules with an iron hand though.

Posted by: Chrismc

Yes win the mother and you will usually win the daughter, not here or the US of course, but over in the FSU it still holds.

Posted by: deccie

When I was back in Australia and I was calling via Skype we normally spoke via phone twice a day every day for about 2 hours or so.

We both went through withdrawal when I got to the Middle East though because I didn't have a home phone for 7 months let alone internet services and calling from both cell phone and home phone is expensive to Russia anyway - like 1 Euro per minute expensive! I still managed to rack up a several hundred Euro bill at one point though!

So now we rely on sms and email a great deal more than before. However that is just a function of where I am and the services available.

I am hoping to have some 3G internet services at home sometime in the next few months and hopefully Skype will be workable on that.

Posted by: royalpalace774

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Originally Posted by Chrismc

Yes win the mother and you will usually win the daughter, not here or the US of course, but over in the FSU it still holds.

I am 100% sure that her mom adores me. Every time I call her, her mom says hello to me within the first 3 minutes. When we were together 2 weeks ago I had my girl and her mom at my apartment for a long time and showed her mom photos from my computer of my life back in the U.S. and with my friends . I also showed the mom photos of my family. My grandparents were Russian & I showed her photos that were when my grandparents were in Russia with Russian writing on the back of the photos.

Even though her mom did not speak English I know that we had a great time together. We laughed all day. And I took us to a great restaurant that had great food that my girl picked for us to go.

Posted by: GoingToRussia

I must be a lucky guy. I talk everyday with her son and with her for 1.5 to 2 hours. We try not to talk past 1AM her time but sometimes we do. She doesn't want to say goodbye and thinks of something else to say or ask. We never have a boring time or "dead air".

Posted by: WhittierRWBound

I speak with Elena for about 45 minutes during the week. I spend about 1 1/2 hrs last weekend. I started talking on the phone with her last Firday.

Posted by: AkMike

Good for you! Can you understand her well? LOL, we just giggled alot during our first calls.

Posted by: WhittierRWBound

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Originally Posted by AkMike

Good for you! Can you understand her well? LOL, we just giggled alot during our first calls.

She speaks very well..I think of myself very lucky!! And I love the sound of her voice and her laughter..She laughs at my Russian and I feel great!!!

Posted by: AkMike

Believe it or not it CAN get better too! Just take your time and make sure...

Posted by: Legal

My husband Legal called me 4 times in day: in morning to wake me up, twice when I was at work to say me something nice, and before I went to bed to say me good night. We were talking about everything. He knew all my phone numbers: home number, office number and mobile. I gave him phone numbers of my mother and my best girlfriends.

Sometimes we had very funny situations. When my boss(director) was on annual leave (I was deputy director of the State institution of Department of Culture) I was the fist person to do his work and most of my working day I spent in his office. So I gave Legal the phone number of boss' office. When my boss returned to his duty I had not a chance to notify Legal fast that now I was in my office at that day. Legal called on the boss' phone number...

My boss called me and told "Your American man called and was trying to ask me something in English. I don't know English I just could understand "Olga" I answered him in German nicht nicht. Don't leave your office, wait for his phone call" Right after the boss' phone call I got a phone call from Legal and we were laughing.

Olga (Legal's wife)

Posted by: Zmejka

I remember talking with my friend once a week - before and after our meeting. We're both not into telephone conversations, we preffered to spend hours in chat. That worked good for us