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Help me to find a soul-mate for my mum
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Posted by: Annie

Hello everybody!

I'm here for an advice/help. The matter is that I'm helping my mum to find her soul-mate, her life-partner.In a little more than a year, I registered her profile at more than 15 agencies but I guess I was looking at the wrong places as none of those men seem to be serious. Most of them would start their messages with " I really liked your profile/picture, etc.Tell me more about yourself.", "You're so beautiful,let's chat", "Hello dear, how are you?" or just " Hello, if you wanna chat, my #...". And then if she would reply to some of them, they would dissapear. I don't know what to do, where to find a decent person. My mum is such a nice person, beautiful inside and outside and I wanted her to be happy!
I'll be happy to have any advises/suggestions/ideas.Or if you know the sites which are worth trying please let me know.

Anna

Posted by: AkMike

Are you sure that you're helping her? Or are you doing it for her? It's great that you're wanting her to be happy but maybe you're pushing her to fast? Seems to me like she'd be on here asking and not you if she wanted it.

Posted by: joelunchbox

All I can tell you is what I found in my fiance's profile. An honest paragraph about her. She didn't talk about her hobbies, she was covered up in her pictures, but she has always been open and honest with me from the time I read her profile all the way up to....now.
Unfortunately, everyone seems to have to wade through a bunch of people that want..................well, you know what they want. It isn't a long term loving relationship. Personally, I don't see a problem with her writing to some people who interest her. There is no law that says she has to wait for someone. Yes?
Good luck, even though it is the internet, the human element seems to bog things down.

Posted by: Annie

My mum is open and honest in her profile too. Sometimes it just seems that internet dating is not for her. But we're not giving up yet!
Thanks a lot for your replies!

Posted by: GentleGiant

Puzzled, where are you looking for a husband for her?? Are you Russian / Russian Ex- Pats??

You will have to give us a link to her profile somewhere; after all, WE are all serious about finding someone; and personally, I dont care what country she is in/from.

Posted by: Annie

We're from Kazakhstan, the country by Russia and which was used to be a part of former USSR. But I moved to Canada 2 years ago and my mum is still back in KZ. It doesn't really matter where her husband would be from, as long as he is a good guy!
I don't know how and where to post the link to her profile.I would though if I knew. Can you help me please GentleGiant?

Posted by: blucatz

You don't have to post her profile, just tell us what site she is listed on and under what name, we can find her ourselves, we are good at that....LOL

Posted by: Pin Boy

yes, a link would help. there may be some gentlemen here interested. could you at least provide your mom's age to see if that sparks any interest? good luck and welcome!

pin boy

Posted by: GentleGiant

Open two browser windows, one here and one on your mothers profile; copy and paste the text in the address bar on the profile page into the message box on this page.

eg

"http://www.russianmeetingplace.com/forums/showthread.php?t=18340#post138265"

That should do it.

What sites is she listed on? Bride.ru??

Be aware that most men cruising the dating sites are "Keyboard Romeos"; only 5% of men will visit a woman they have been writing to; somewhere like here has a far greater percentage.

Personally I have been out there twice and I am going again this summer.

Good luck!!

Posted by: Annie

Gentlemen thanks a lot for all your help!

Here are a couple links to her profiles: one is on RussianEuro.com and the other one is on Fiance.com.If you have any questions or need additional information please ask!

http://www.russianeuro.com/Member_Profile.cfm?ID=159147

http://www.fiance.com/agency.asp?main=page&id=86019

Posted by: GentleGiant

Too old for me, but she looks like a fine woman.

Thought on why men would write then not reply....

They may not realise where Kazakhstan is, look it up on a map and think "it's too far away".

They may have watched Borat and believe it is true to life.
(You don't REALLY have "The Running of the Jew" do you????)
(Only joking).

Posted by: Annie

Far away? But if they are looking for a wife from Eastern Europe/Russia it doesn't make a big difference if it's KZ or Russia!

But I think you're right about Borat: some people are ignorant enough to believe that what is shown in that movie is true to life even though the whole scenario does not have to do anything with KZ, and people who made the film didn't go further than Romania where the scenes were shot.

Posted by: AkMike

I just had a look at her profile at russiaeuro and I think that if you/she would tell a bit more about her would help. Only 1 picture worked for me and it was hard to guess what she looks like with the sunglasses. Better pictures would help too.

Posted by: blucatz

I see one problem already, on the Russian Euro site she has listed under "Relocate" as a maybe, if I was looking at the profile, that would make me think twice about writing. First thing that went thru my mind was that she really wanted to stay where she was and was unsure of relocating.

Maybe she should try a different site, I have never heard of these two sites anyway so I would have not even looked there to begin with if I was looking for a lady of her age. She is a very pretty woman, too bad I am not about 10 years older.

Posted by: GentleGiant

"Far away" is relative, from Canada it probably seems the same distance; but I can reach Moscow in 4 hours, but planning a trip to Bishkek,Kyrgyzstan ( a similar distance to visiting Kazakhstan ), showed me it would take up to 26 hours depending on stop over times in Moscow etc.
When most people think of Russia, they think of western Russia; they forget it goes all the way until East starts to become West!!!

Posted by: Annie

thanks for all the advices & suggestions!

Gentle Giant: just for your knowledge - Kyrgyzstan and Kazakhstan are two different countries and located quite a ways from each other.If to get to Kyrgyzstan, you have to fly through Moscow, to get to Kazakhstan DIRECTLY you can fly from either Frankfurt, Amsterdam, London, Rome, etc..And I can assure you,that it takes the same amount of time to get to one of the cities in KZ as to get to one of the cities in Russia (particularly Moscow).
Just don't put two completely different countries at one level just because they sound kinda similar...Look at the map to see how tiny Kyrgyzstan is and maybe then you can have an idea about the difference between two countries in economics,transportation system,oil&gas resources,etc.

Posted by: Annie

You mentioned that those sites we use you've never heard of. Which ones would you recommend? Have you heard of EHarmony.com or B2.com?

Posted by: GentleGiant

Hi Anne, I DO know the difference, although i would not say they are a great distance from each other as they are neighbours!!

There are also direct flights to Bishkek, but the difference in travel time between the two countries is fairly minor compared to the overall flight-time; that is why I used my canceled plans to fly to Bishkek as an example.

Agreed, if you go through Moscow they have this irritating habit of inbound flights coming in after the outbound flight has gone; leaving you with a 20 hour wait!!!

Back on topic, I wish your mum good luck!!

Posted by: blucatz

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Originally Posted by Annie

You mentioned that those sites we use you've never heard of. Which ones would you recommend? Have you heard of EHarmony.com or B2.com?

EHarmony.com I have heard of, I don't think she could list on that one with an IP address out of the country. Besides, I tried EHarmony once, they suck...LOL, big waste of time. http://www.allsinglerussiangirls.com/ - http://www.elenasmodels.com/ - http://www.freepersonals.ru/ are the most popular sites that men visit that are looking for respectable ladies from the FSU. I would say that more than 50% of the men on this forum have used these sites to find their other half, including me.

Posted by: Annie

Blucatz, thanks a lot for the links!

Posted by: Testman

Yeah, good-looking. Just look at that drum tight skin! I would guess her age to be 37 or so, because of that. But I want to add that while she is attractive and in all likelihood, a great catch, many men may think she has western women mentality, just because of how she looks in the photo. Short hair, sunglasses, very California girl looking. I REALLY do not want you to think we are THAT picky, its just that the men who are looking for wives from the FSU, will often times look for the most extreme opposite of what western women look like, in hopes of possibly finding a woman who IS the extreme opposite. I'm not even saying this works for us, its just true that we tend to do this.

Posted by: blucatz

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Originally Posted by Annie

Blucatz, thanks a lot for the links!

You are more than welcome, I hope they help out your Mum.

Posted by: Buckeye5704

Hi Annie,

I'm a member at Fiance.com And guys, I can say that they are a very good site. I have been writing to several women so far and only one has caused me to suspect a scam.

Your mom is a very nice looking lady. Has she browsed the men's profiles and sent out any introductions? If I weren't already writing to a few ladies and beginning to get serious with one, I would send her an intro myself.

I wish her luck,
Tim

Posted by: Annie

Tim, Testman,

Thanks a lot guys!

I'll pass on your compliments to my mum and try to encourage her to keep looking!

Anna