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A special day, the end of an era.
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Posted by: vic2012

Today was a special day, the end of an era.

Victoria, Ilya and I had a bonfire in which ten years worth of my legal paperwork, files, general paperwork, and assorted accumulated rubbish went up in smoke. Victoria saw to it that, my rather fat file labelled ‘dates’ went west as well.

It was a bit naughty of me to let her know where it was and, not to let on that, I knew she had spent time looking through it. There were quite a few profiles in there of ‘top totty’ which I had never aspired to, let alone written to. But of course she didn’t know that. But if truth be known, I think she’s out of the top drawer, herself, anyway.

Today I got her and Ilya tickets to Ekaterinburg on the new Fly-bmi service from Heathrow. She is returning for the first time in six months, during the school half term, to pick up another couple of suitcases of clothes and belongings. We hope to complete the process this Summer, when we all go and Ilya will be staying on to spend a month with his relations.

Victoria seems very contented now and loves the rural, slow life here in East Anglia. She’s got her residency and work permit (called a National Insurance number here). She looking to take on some voluntary work and she already she is involved with the school and accompanies children on days out.

Strange but, whenever Ilya is being bad, mum says that he will have to go back to kindergarten in Omsk. I don’t know what goes on in these places, but it sure puts the willies up him and then he’s as good as gold! He loves going to school here and he’s made so many friends, in spite of his limited vocabulary.

I writing this, because I believe my time on RMP is drawing to a close.

I don’t know how many more times I can caution against Anastesiaweb or defend age difference (there’s 26 years between Victoria and me and we’re happy with it). On RMP it’s always been the blind leading the blind. At the end of the day, there is so much that’s down to luck with dating, especially long distance dating (as Steve will testify). It can be fraught with difficulty at every stage. You need a healthy bank balance, nerves of steel, a lot of time and in some cases, you’ll suffer dreadful heartache.

I saw a posting here on RMP today about a divorce, where the wife changed behaviour as soon as she arrived with the guy. Very sad. With me, it’s been the opposite. Things started so tentatively, but we’ve grown to love each other more and more and she’s always talking and making plans about the future.

I’ve been extremely lucky. My wife was in the first batch of profiles I responded to. I was able to visit six times over eighteen months. Being a UK citizen, the whole visa process took only a week from start to finish! That meant that, once we had made the final decision, I didn’t have to sit at home and bite my nails for months. It’s not down to wealth either. I rent my home and have to work hard for a living.

My family thinks she’s great. My mum calls her regularly and my eldest daughter, who is actually a year older than Victoria, calls her up and chats.

So what more could I want? Yes, I know it could all go tits up tomorrow. But I live for today, every day and I love every minute of it.
My special thanks go to Chris and Steve and to Connor (who slipped away from RMP a year ago), for all the good advice. It still may be the blind leading the blind, but I promise you that, you certainly feel better when guys on RMP are backing up your decisions.

I’ll still be looking in from time to time, but I’m sorry to say, without the Aussies and many of the Brits, RMP has looked a shadow of itself recently. I hope things look up. It needs a little new blood!

Finally, for what it’s worth, my advice:

Find an angle, so that you stand out from the crowd. Look for someone who’s profile gives you something to respond to. Tailor your reply to them, as they hate stock replies just as much as we hate their stock intros. Whatever company you use, try to get her details at the earliest opportunity and use IM translator or similar to write your own letters in Russian. Victoria used to laugh because the translation was so bad, but it all helped to get us closer. You can read the last few weeks of my quest at:
http://russianmeetingplace.com/foru...ead.php?t=15435
And, don’t try to arrange everything on your first visit. Return home and reflect first. Those extra visits could be your salvation later!

Nuff said!

Posted by: Pin Boy

congratulations vic and thanks for taking the time to write your insightful post. the pics are great and hope you do make good on that promise to check in again. well done!

pin boy

Posted by: GentleGiant

Well Done mate.

Wishing you all a long and happy future together.

Posted by: GoingToRussia

Well I hope it's, "see you later" and "not goodbye"! You've been an inspiration to us older guys. I wish you the best and many happy years of wedded bliss.

Take care and stop by when you get a chance.

Posted by: Ade

Take care Vic, don't be a stranger, and I hope the future continues to go well for you.

Ade

Posted by: AkMike

I hope that you continue to post and visit although I know what a PITA it an be with a family. Family first always.
Best of luck to you for the rest of always!

Posted by: Spakoyna

LOL! As some of you know I attended the socials before I met my wife. At the end of our 2nd week together on the tour I(we) were on I offered up the pics of the other women I had met. Looked like a paper shreader as she destroyed the pics!

Posted by: deccie

Your presence will be missed around here Vic.

Best wishes for your and your family's future.

Posted by: royalpalace774

GOOD LUCK VICK! Great photos. Your women is beautiful. You must wake up smiling! lol

Posted by: Chrismc

Goodluck Vic, it was great to meet you in person briefly last year and if you are ever up North give me a shout you are welcome anytiome, even more so when my UW gets here in June. Her and Victoria can have a natter, I am sure they will both like it.

Before you go forever, can you tell me how long it took for her to get her Nat Ins number

I hope its only Au revoir Vic

Chris

Posted by: Manchester

I second all the good wishes above Vic. If you do come up North can we tag along too?

You did well and she is indeed lovely as noted above.

Posted by: vic2012

Thanks everyone .

Ironically, my wife has asked me not to leave Ilya's and her photos behind. So with much deference to her, I have removed them. Seemed stupid just to leave mine. So that went as well.

If anyone wants to know anything and thinks that, I might have a clue (which I probably haven't). email me at
vicin2012@aol.com

Posted by: Longfellow

It's a sad farewell but I wish for great success and happiness to you and your beautiful family.

Posted by: bushman

Best wishes Vic you sound really happy and contented with life, what more can one want. I am hoping things are working out for me at the moment, I will open my own thread when I feel able.
Hope you hang around and we can read your advice from time to time.

Posted by: solstice

Vic ~ Every now and then you see something good in life happening. I think I've seen that take place as I read through your threads. You've certainly been an inspiration to those of us that are no longer spring chickens. I hope the sun continues to always shine through on you and your new family.

Posted by: Big wheel

Thanks vic for your posts and thoughts. Best of luck to your family. and I also hope its a see you latter and not goodbye

Posted by: redhawk

vic, good luck and thanks for all the great posts, im an emotionally soft kind of guy,and when i read all your posts,they were very helpful to me,helped me to continue on my search until i found my RW. i had tears of happiness in my eyes the day i read about your wedding and saw the fotos of yourself,your lovely wife and "vic jr."

(i think i was living vicariuosly thru you)
please continue to let us all know how you are doing,as for myself,im now waiting on my RW's approval for visa,and biting my nails. i also live in a small town,(in usa) near larger cities. our ages may be different, im 34,but we are very similar i think.
when my RW comes to me,in a few months,i will post fotos.hope you will see.
congrats mate,and thanks again.

Posted by: vic2012

Once again, thanks EVERYONE

I am amazed at your repsonse. Generally, when I added to a thread, that usually spelt it's deathnell. I didn't really think anyone cared what I said. Nice to know though. Especially what you wrote Redhawk. But sadly Bushman, you're getting your wish, I've written my musings on Russian dating

I also noted some favourable comments here, about us old un's. I'm sorry to say that, there has been a big down side in that department.....Fitness.

Dont get me wrong, I can hold my own in some important areas! But when it comes to playing football, running or strenuous jobs, my head is kidding me with this "yeah, look at this young adonis" crap, but my body is crying! There have been mornings when I can hardly move. Yes, I now run a half mile most mornings, but watchers would be hard put to call it a run. A shamble might be more apt.

So a word of caution. If you are going to start a second family and take on a younger partner. Be prepared for a 20 year losing battle, trying to look good! I just keep thinking, she's not with you, to see how good you look in a Zimmer frame! (See pic)

BTW, although my Missus was not too happy to have our son's pic left here. She is OK with our pics. so I've put them back.

Thanks again

Posted by: redhawk

vic,Great photos, you do NOT look your age,which,by the way isnt old! if aches and pains from exercise really bother you, or if running makes you hurt,stop running immediately! walk briskly instead.running especially with weight destroys your knees. see your doctor about testosterone therapy. no joke,it will heal you up straightaway.im 34 and ive had t-therapy for knee and shoulder injuries,from punching and running too much. sounds different,but they are both shock injuries to cartilage and bone.
it has helped me tremendously,now i only hurt if i do something absolutely stupid,like punch through plywood.(which was no problem at 23

)

Posted by: blucatz

Now what did that plywood ever do to you?....LOL