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Flowers?
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Posted by: DaveGF

Quick question about giving flowers.

I will be meeting with a young woman (23) in Odessa this weekend, and I was just wondering if it is still expected that flowers are given at a first meeting. She's a very modern woman IMO, and so I'm not sure if woman like her in a city like Odessa still want/expect flowers from a man in a situation like this? Do they consider it old-fashioned, or would it be insulting if I didn't have flowers for her when we meet? I'm happy either way of course, I just don't want to make a silly mistake.

I've read that an odd number of flowers, usually roses (red?) are considered ideal. 7?

Small gift as well?

I think I have EVERYTHING else covered for my meeting (already had long correspondence over many months), and it's just this one subject I've left until the last minute to have cleared up for me.

Thanks.

Posted by: solstice

How about 1 Rose, sometimes the smallest things can often say the most.

Posted by: Chrismc

Welcome Dave,

I don't think you can go wrong with flowers, I have not met a FSU women or any women for that matter yet who doesn't like flowers as a gift. They are certainly not considered old fashioned and will usually earn you brownie points if you give them to your lady.

Just remember, odd numbers and no yellow ones just in case she is suspicious.

Chris

Posted by: Pin Boy

good luck. a single flower is just right. just wondering...how old are you?

pb

Posted by: DaveGF

Thanks for the advice.

I won't know until Friday, but I think we will be meeting for the first time in a live music club. If I was her, I would feel uncomfortable in that setting if a man walked up with a bunch of flowers. People staring.... One red rose does sound right.

Posted by: Seaview

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Originally Posted by DaveGF

Thanks for the advice.

I won't know until Friday, but I think we will be meeting for the first time in a live music club. If I was her, I would feel uncomfortable in that setting if a man walked up with a bunch of flowers. People staring.... One red rose does sound right.

One red rose is OK if you are a 19-year old student meeting his gf at a bus station.

In a music club for the first meeting I would advice several (7, 9, 11) roses or a bunch of other flowers. More than 11 is too many, less than 7 - mmm... Sometimes 5 is fine if they are properly decorated.

We never feel uncomfortable when a man gives us a beautiful bunch of flowers

Posted by: royalpalace774

Flowers are always liked by women. I don't know if I like walking into a loud music club and looking for her while everyone is watching as you meet for the very 1st time. I would personally like to meet 1st ans then go to the club.

Why can't she come to meet you at the airport or your place where you will stay and then you both go to the music club?

Who wants to scream into someone's ear when they meet for the 1st time?

Anyway, I wish you the best in your meeting. Just be yourself and keep your eyes and ears open to see what she does.

Maybe you will get lucky and this will be "THE ONE". It happens sometimes after 1 meeting. Some guys here have gone 6 times or more and still waiting to meet THE ONE.

Just remember that she must be good for you also. You are going very far to meet her and you have talked for a few months. Just go with the mindset that if she is not good for you you have seen a place of the world and learned a little and had some fun.

If she is good for you and she thinks you are good for her you are on your way to a happy future.

Just know that anything can happen. What I mean is that even though you spoke for so long and are going to see her it can turn out the total opposite of what you are expecting.

Go with a positive attitude and hopefully you both will have chemistry and she will see that you are serious.

I have learned one thing in my trips. These women need to know that you are totally 100% serious in this and you are not coming there for just a good time or sex.

These women know that there are many men that make these trips just for a wild time with some women.

BE a gentlemen. Open doors for her, take her hand to help her from a taxi when you get out of the car. They love this kind of treatment and they appreciate real compliments about them.

When you take her to eat even pull her seat out for her and let her sit 1st.

Or maybe she will tell you not to do these things. But it is probably a good idea to do them without her asking you to do them.

Just go with your gut instinct on how you think it's going. If it's your 1st time out you might be a little intimidated by being in a foreign country and not speaking the language. I was scared on my 1st time also. But now I know where all my favorite places are in the city center and I am totally OK walking alone or with someone there.

GOOD LUCK! If there is anything you need to know even if you think it's a stupid question you should ask it and post it here.

There are many here who are doing exactly what you are doing, some for the 1st time and like me I am on my 4th trip and am about to meet women number 3.

There are some sayings on her at rmp.

1. Good time girl= A women who just wants gifts and expensive dinners and might even ask you for money.

2. Scammer= All she wants is your money and will make up every excuse in the book to make you think she is telling you the truth JUST TO GET YOUR CASH.

3. "THE ONE"= The women who really wants to know you and enjoys your company and can see a future with you because you both have a great connection. Money is not what's important to her when you meet. It is your heart & character that she wants to see. She trusts you and is willing to give herself to you 100% and start a family and spend the rest of her life with you as man & wife. She will take care of you like no other women you will ever meet and she expects you to love her & appreciate her and respect her and be a great father to her children. IF YOU HAVE #3 YOU WILL LIVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AS A HAPPY MAN!

I might have left some things out but I know the guys will fill you in about the rest. And who knows they also might disagree with somethings that I have even said.

Posted by: DaveGF

Seaview,

Now I'm leaning towards what you said, and giving her 5 or 7 red roses. :-)

royalpalace774,

Thanks for all the advice, and to be honest, I've given heavy thought to every point you made over a long period of time, and agree with all of it. There will be no surprises for me, and I know I won't be manipulated into giving my money away. :-)

As for our first meeting, I'll be talking to her on the phone tomorrow and then again Friday when I arrive, so I'll find out then where our first meeting will be exactly. I *think* a live music club is where we will spend our first night out together, but where we actually meet for the first time, I'm not sure yet.

As for my original question, I just wasn't sure if a woman in Odessa has the same expectations as a woman from another city/region of the FSU might have when it comes to something somewhat traditional like receiving flowers.

This girl seems to have a heart of gold and a very clever mind, along with supermodel looks, :-) and we've had an incredible correspondence, but still she and I both know that anything can happen when we finally meet in person. Could be fantastic, or it could fizzle. :-)

Posted by: royalpalace774

Quote:

Originally Posted by DaveGF

Seaview,

Now I'm leaning towards what you said, and giving her 5 or 7 red roses. :-)

royalpalace774,

Thanks for all the advice, and to be honest, I've given heavy thought to every point you made over a long period of time, and agree with all of it. There will be no surprises for me, and I know I won't be manipulated into giving my money away. :-)

As for our first meeting, I'll be talking to her on the phone tomorrow and then again Friday when I arrive, so I'll find out then where our first meeting will be exactly. I *think* a live music club is where we will spend our first night out together, but where we actually meet for the first time, I'm not sure yet.

As for my original question, I just wasn't sure if a woman in Odessa has the same expectations as a woman from another city/region of the FSU might have when it comes to something somewhat traditional like receiving flowers.

This girl seems to have a heart of gold and a very clever mind, along with supermodel looks, :-) and we've had an incredible correspondence, but still she and I both know that anything can happen when we finally meet in person. Could be fantastic, or it could fizzle. :-)

It's good that you are aware of all of the things I mentioned. I also want you to know that my 1st trip last October of 2007 was with a girl I spoke to for 5 months straight everyday and she seemed like a doll on the phone and when I met her she was beautiful.

I should have gotten rid of her on my 2nd day I was with her but I didn't because I was a little uncomfortable being in a strange land. She was a good time girl and even had no problem asking me for money. I didn't give her the cash but she asked for it and had great excuses for needing it. She even told her agency I took drugs. I took vitamins everyday. Thats what she saw me take. She was a real doozy.

Anyway, I'm just trying to let you know that even if you think she is the greatest right now on the phone, she can turn out to be the complete opposite when you meet her.

Hopefully she is wonderful. But be aware that anything can happen. Don't count your chickens before they hatch is what I am saying.

You will see when you are with her. That's the real deal. FACE TO FACE!

I hope it goes well. Just don't count the chickens yet! Go with a positive attitude and hopefully she is all that you could have dreamed of!