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Posted by: MNRagdoll

I would appreciate some information.

I am American woman, and my husband, from Kazan, Russia, passed away last July. His birthday will be this Sunday. Is there any tradition about honoring one that has passed when their birthday arrives?
Thanks,
anna

Posted by: AkMike

First off let me express my sorrow for your loss. It must have been terrible for you. Are you getting over it some? Did you have children?
My wife is from Ukraine and I will ask her when she gets back tonight. But from what I've seen people are people everywhere. Take some time off to rethink the good times that you had in honor of his birthday. He's never totally gone as long as he's remembered.

Posted by: lester

My condolences for your loss.
My own experience of honouring the deceased, was to place 4 yellow flowers, some sweets and a few biscuits on the gravestone.

There is a day annually, when all the family visit the graveyard, eat a picnic and honour their dead.

Mikes wife will elaborate on this.

Posted by: MNRagdoll

Thanks to all who have replied.

My husband and I were married 13 years. We have one daughter, 11 years old, Tatiana. His death was tragic and sudden.

I have not buried him. He was cremated, so he is here with us. I will now go to the market and buy roses and lay next to his urn. I will go to Russian bar tonight, listen to Russian music, and have shot of vodka in his memory. I miss him terribly, and I miss his voice, the Russian cullture. He used to tell me that I am "so much like Russian woman"...;-)

The upcoming holidays will be difficult, but I keep in prayer to my Lord and ask for strength.

Spaciba balshoi,
anna

Posted by: sidney

My ukrainian wife says to just visit the cemetary with flowers and vodka.
We also lost a son in Oct. I'll have to elaborate when I've more time.
We also feel for your loss.
Sid

Posted by: AkMike

I'm sorry to learn of your loss also Sidney...
It always seems to be more of a tragedy when a child is lost. My Grandmother outlived 2 of her children and she always said that it's not right to last longer than your children.

Anna, remember the good times with him and think of the gift of Tetiana that he shared with you. He won't be forgotten thru her.

Posted by: AkMike

Anna,
My wife, Tetiana, siad that you should have a 'memorial dinner' on his birthday with close friends and family. The toast to the departed should be a shot of vodka and do not clink the glasses. Just hold them in the air in a toast. She said that during the dinner, set a place for him with a picture of him, a shot of vodka the glass covered with a slice of bread to show he is still with you.
She was a tamada in Ukraine and is very knowledgeable with things like this.
My sozhaleem o vashey potere. Primite nashe sochuvstvie.
Mike and Tanya

Posted by: AkMike

How did yesterday go for you and your's? Hopefully it'll get a bit easier with time.

How did you happen to meet him? Were you in Russia? It's not too common for a AW to meet and marry a RM. LOL It seems like it's mostly AM-RW.

Posted by: MNRagdoll

AKMike...

Yesterday was a quiet day...just remained in thought and sadness. But this year is a year of firsts...and hopefully next will be somewhat easier.

We met in Winter Haven, FL in 1994. He was a circus performer and had just arrived here to perform in a circus at Cypress Gardens in FL. We met and got married six months later. He was truly my soulmate...very loving relationship...I loved how he treated me. As a matter of fact, Iliya and I were interview in a book by Lynn Visson.."The Challenge of Russian-American Marriages". It was published, I believe, back in 1999. Lynn is a translator for the UN and at the time I had subscribed to Russian Life magazine and had wrote a letter to the editor about an article by her. She ended up finding us and interviewed us for the book. I guess that was my 15 minutes of fame....haha..my husband was in the Moscow State Circus for over 20 years and in the Russian world record book for fastest sketch artist. He was eccentric, unique, comic performer. He had the best job...to make people laugh every day. What a blessing.

Oh my...I've rambled on! But thanks for your thoughts. I miss him and I am so blessed to have our daughter, Tatiana. She IS her fathers daughter as far as looks, talent, etc.

Have a Happy Christmas and New Year to you and yours.
anna

Posted by: AkMike

Have you and both your daughters ever been to Russia to visit the in-laws?
That might be a way to celebrate next year and possibly find out more backround of Tetiana's ancestory. Finding her 'roots' kind of.
I'm sure that his parents would be receptive to meeting the 'grandkids'.
Are you in the Minn-St.Paul area? I have some friends in Shakopee.

Posted by: joelunchbox

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Originally Posted by AkMike

Anna,
My wife, Tetiana, siad that you should have a 'memorial dinner' on his birthday with close friends and family. The toast to the departed should be a shot of vodka and do not clink the glasses. Just hold them in the air in a toast. She said that during the dinner, set a place for him with a picture of him, a shot of vodka the glass covered with a slice of bread to show he is still with you.
She was a tamada in Ukraine and is very knowledgeable with things like this.
My sozhaleem o vashey potere. Primite nashe sochuvstvie.
Mike and Tanya

About two weeks ago Lola said it was her father's birthday and they were having friends over. At first I thought I had misheard her, but now that I think about it--I think it is possibly the nicest way to remember a loved one. Here is something we will definitely hold onto when she comes here.

I am saddened by your loss.

Posted by: MNRagdoll

Hello all...

Y'all going to think this is a bit odd...but I want to get a tattoo in memory of my husband. I want the inscription in Russian...something like "In Loving Memory". Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks so much...
anna

Posted by: AkMike

In cyrilic lettering?
I'll ask tonight when my lady returns.

Posted by: MNRagdoll

Yes...cyrillic I want something in his memory...I'm not sure how it would be worded in Russian language.

Posted by: AkMike

It will be like ЛЮБЛЮ. ПОМНЮ = I LOVE AND REMEMBER YOU
or НА ПАМЯТЬ О МОЕЙ ЛЮБВИ = I remember my love

My wife Tanya wrote this for you and it's not exact but it says exactly what you want. Pretty much your choice because they both are different ways to say the same thing. It'll give you a choice for space constraints. Tanya said she likes the first one better.

Posted by: MNRagdoll

Thank you so much!
anna

Posted by: AkMike

You are certainly welcome. We hope that yopu don't dwell too much on the past. There is a whole worlds worth of future to enjoy! Best wishes!