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Best way to meet "the one"?
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Posted by: freebird

From reading the recent threads about how much more difficult it is to avoid "Party Girls" and "Green Card Girls" rather than simple scammers, I thought I might post a poll on the preffered methods for meeting ladies from Russia/FSU. Is it better to go over to meet only one girl, and risk disappointment if she is not the one? Or as some members have done, plan to meet several girls, and then decide which one has "chemisty"?

Posted by: GoingToRussia

I think it is more of opinion not "best way". There are many ways to meet a woman from the FSU and they are all successful. It just depends on how comfortable someone is with a certain way.

I myself always saw only 1 but that was after sending e-mails everyday for 3-4 months. I felt I knew the girl a little and we had a good chance of "making it work". I never had a back up plan because I knew, if I wanted too, I could find other women that would be interested in a free night out ... and who knows what could happen!

Posted by: freebird

Hey GTR, I was a little slow making the poll, you already posted by the time I finished making the poll!

I hope you'll vote too.

Posted by: freebird

Quote:

Originally Posted by GoingToRussia

I think it is more of opinion not "best way". There are many ways to meet a woman from the FSU and they are all successful. It just depends on how comfortable someone is with a certain way.

I myself always saw only 1 but that was after sending e-mails everyday for 3-4 months. I felt I knew the girl a little and we had a good chance of "making it work". I never had a back up plan because I knew, if I wanted too, I could find other women that would be interested in a free night out ... and who knows what could happen!

When I said "Back up plan" it does not always mean you have to write to anoother girl, it could be as simple as checking out some other profiles, and getting phone numbers for easy contact if needed. (because it could be more difficult to do this in another country) Some places it was easy to find computer access, others it was more tricky.

Posted by: GoingToRussia

Yes I voted.

Posted by: GentleGiant

Even arranging to meet several is no guarantee, I arranged to meet 6 in Russia last year and only one turned up. i do wish I had taken some agency details with me and popped in to see if I could find someone else to meet instead of kicking my heels in Moscow waiting for the one who did turn up.
Right now I have my main girl and a back up; unfortunately the back up is in a totally different country :-(; my same country back up went bunny boiler on me 10 days ago.

Posted by: Big wheel

I talk with a few lades and narrowed it down to one. And only flown to Ukn to meet one girl. I think most of us has been buried a few times and can spot the fakes. And this site really helps out.

Posted by: redhawk

i pretty much did the same as gtr,but i wrote to and talked with probably 15 different girls,but when i commited myself to one,i stopped looking around,here and on the internet,agreed to meet her,and went to see her only. i knew she was it.glad i did it that way. now waiting on first receipt notice of k-1 visa

Posted by: JamesB

I just wrote to one with no real back up and thankfully i was lucky.

Posted by: GoingToRussia

I think most people on this forum write to 1 but many different ways work. I also wrote to many before decided on 1 girl. My backup plan has always been, I'll find an agency in her city or a computer and see what is available ... or just go site seeing.

Posted by: Big wheel

When i went to go meet girl. We talk about the what, ifs she told if it don't work out she will still help me out in the city and do some site seeing. And I promise that i would behave myself.

Posted by: OzGuyLooking

As I haven't found the one yet I cannot say alot except for that it is an individual thing for everyone.

Without going into to much detail, my plan is to go to Russia (next June hopefully or if I can pull it off maybe even smack in the middle of their winter, eeeeeeck).

I will be visiting a few cities, Chelyabinsk being one of them, Moscow, St Petes, and Rostov-on-Don. I have been able to make friends with ladies and men in each of these cities so I am going to see my friends. No back up plan, no expectations, just friends meeting friends. Having said that I wouldn't be upset if something good happened.

I forgot to add that I am in a fortunate position that I can just use work and education as a reason to go to Russia so if by the off chance that life happens and I am left to my own devices I can still at least do something meaningful (that is the only backup idea I have).

Posted by: AkMike

I did it a bit different that the normal way. But it has worked quite well.
A buddy of mine was writing a woman from Ukraine, he was "crowing" about how wonderful she was. So after a couple of months of this I told him to see if she had an older friend (she was about 33)that would want to write to me.
I wote a general info type of introduction letter with a couple of pics and he forwarded it to her.Soon after that I got a letter with pictures from Tanya. I didn't want to travel halfway around the world on a blind date so I started writing another lady in a nearby town just in case things didn't go good.
But things went well and I cancelled out on the second lady. That's the best choice I ever made!
Much later I found out that Tanya really didn't write that first letter. She had told the lady that was doing the translation that she wasn't interested. But a mutual friend got some pictues and told the translator to reply anyway..
After I responded they convinced Tanya to write since I had taken the effort to respond.
After a couple of months my buddy and I went to meet the ladys. Long story short, his turned out to be a dud andmine was a keeper! So I kept her!

Posted by: GentleGiant

Chelyabinsk, I presume you know not to drink the water or eat local fish or produce???

It is supposedly the most radioactively contaminated place on the planet, and that includes Chernobyl. The Soviets were dumping raw nuclear waste into the lakes and rivers for years and it suffered three Chernobyl sized accidents in the 50's and 60's

Posted by: JamesB

oz mate.Novosibirsk was chocca with beautiful girls, well worth a vist.
Not that i noticed of course i was with liuda..lol

Posted by: OzGuyLooking

GG2, yes I know about Chel's nuclear history. It is a subject I haven't breached with my friends yet but the time is coming up really quickly when I will.

James, I have no friends in Nov' so it will most probably get the miss unless I someone else decides to show me it. Mate I understand what you mean about not noticing, your lady is certainly a real natural beauty.

Deccie, if you read this buddy. I dunno what has happened but I have lost your contact, just trying to fix the issue and see how to stop it happening again. Got some news for ya buddy

, I will give a bit of a sample here though for all. It was a friends birthday very recently and I sent this person a gift (or 3), I must say what an excellent move. Still no expectations but at least for one person I am the coolest thing since sliced bread

Posted by: GentleGiant

So you are aware of the cancer rate and the fact that many people living there die before they are 50 because of it.

I do not know if I could cope with the grief if I fell in love with someone from there and had to bury her only a few years later.

Posted by: OzGuyLooking

GG2, what is a bit more grief to someone who has known so much grief in the last 5 years? As I said it is something I plan to discuss with the friends in question. Maybe even this weekend if they can get away from work long enough during my wakeful hours.

It may just be me but I cannot work your reasoning out here, you seem to advocate not being friends with someone (and even go further to indicate you couldn't enter into a relationship with someone) knowing they could/would be sick. My thinking is that people who are/could be sick are just as worthy of someones care and concern (even at a deeper level as given in a relationship) as someone who is "fit-as-a-fiddle". You can't predict if or when someone will become seriously ill so why use that as something that dictates whether you are willing to enter into a relationship with someone who you consider has a beautiful soul.

Posted by: GentleGiant

Sorry OzGuy, I am not good at handling loss, I do not think I could cope knowing that her chances of living long enough to see any children grow up were so low.
If you can handle it, and from your reply there is something about your past I do not know ( thread??), then I would happily give you my blessing. I am not saying they are not worthy, just that I am not strong enough, I have no trouble with illness and dated a paraplegic many years ago, lovely woman; but death frightens me.

Posted by: OzGuyLooking

Sorry buddy if I come across as being harsh.

If you want a thread that points out alot why I reason the way I do look up one with RBS and me at it hammer and tongs. I explain much of myself in that thread. Apart from that having lost a few members of my extended family in the last 4 years and having a terminally ill father I just figure death isn't going to stop me anymore. I will enjoy the people who are close to me while I can and when they are gone I will look back with fond memories.

Death does not scare me at all as I grew up with death surrounding me (long story but the short of it is I grew up in a funeral parlour because my father was a funeral director and my bedroom was above the fridge). What does scare me is PAIN! But I am coming to terms with that to as I have felt and seen more than most people.

I hope to discuss Chel's nuclear aspect in the next few days with my friend. Here's hoping it all goes well.

Posted by: GentleGiant

Thanks Oz, and good luck.

Posted by: Texas Proud

I will say to some who are reading this thread.... there were some very lucky guys here who got one the first time they threw in their line....

I wrote to over 400 woman... at least an into letter... a good percent did not respond at all... most were a 'no go' after 4 to 10 emails.... (and I even had a 'coach' who was supposed to be making recommendations... but they got younger and younger on that... so I stopped that).... but, back to my tale... It can be hard to find even a few who you click with... and I mean really good... there were some who if I kidded myself were 'candidates' and if we met we 'might' have had some chemistry... but I was being very honest with myself and did not want to compromise... even with a beautiful lady....

I did narrow it down to two... and visited the first because I had a longer connection with her and we seemed more compatible... but when I went we were not... the following year, visit the other.... going great... then a second visit with her son along... not so good... almost broke up... but came to my senses.... and in less than a month...

On my first trip, I had a backup plan... it was only a couple of local agencies to go check out if it did not work... but I had asked her to show me around and we could have a good time even if we did not work out... so that is what we did... asked the same question to the second lady... well, we did connect and... backup plan never needed... and to tell the truth, I don't think I would have used it anyhow...

Posted by: Moe123

What do you think of these Golden Rules?

- Ask questions until reaching a common interest.
- Don't mention, in other words never talk about money, sex, disease, politics,
or old girlfriends.
- Go easy on work, sport and jokes.
- Act, feel, and be confident in yourself.
- See to the way you dress, the way you eat and drink, the way you smell,
the way you touch, and the way you speak.
- Learn how to listen to her.
- Don't compare her with others.
- Make her think you are there for her, and that she is in control.
- Be cool and persistent.
- Show her that you are interested in her.

Michael

Posted by: blucatz

Quote:

Originally Posted by Moe123

What do you think of these Golden Rules?

- Ask questions until reaching a common interest.
- Don't mention, in other words never talk about money, sex, disease, politics,
or old girlfriends.
- Go easy on work, sport and jokes.
- Act, feel, and be confident in yourself.
- See to the way you dress, the way you eat and drink, the way you smell,
the way you touch, and the way you speak.
- Learn how to listen to her.
- Don't compare her with others.
- Make her think you are there for her, and that she is in control.
- Be cool and persistent.
- Show her that you are interested in her.

Michael

I agree with almost all of this, except the dress part. Seems like everyone on here is obcessed with thier RW dressing them. My Lady said I dressed fine, she had no problem with it. She only had a problem with my watch, so she bought me one that she liked. Now, I am no suit and tie, hell, Im not even a sport coat type of guy. Jeans, shorts, casual shirts, T-Shirts and sneakers are for me.

Posted by: Moe123

blucatz

Rules are made to be broken. Even golden rules. There are occasions in life when we may slip up. But it's better to do it when we quickly become aware of it. At least that way we can still be in control of ourselves. And it's only human to give free reign to our instincts (gut feelings).

Michael

Posted by: matt235

Quote:

Originally Posted by OzGuyLooking

Sorry buddy if I come across as being harsh.

If you want a thread that points out alot why I reason the way I do look up one with RBS and me at it hammer and tongs. I explain much of myself in that thread. Apart from that having lost a few members of my extended family in the last 4 years and having a terminally ill father I just figure death isn't going to stop me anymore. I will enjoy the people who are close to me while I can and when they are gone I will look back with fond memories.

Death does not scare me at all as I grew up with death surrounding me (long story but the short of it is I grew up in a funeral parlour because my father was a funeral director and my bedroom was above the fridge). What does scare me is PAIN! But I am coming to terms with that to as I have felt and seen more than most people.

I hope to discuss Chel's nuclear aspect in the next few days with my friend. Here's hoping it all goes well.

Oz,

Hey, I know you don't know me (newbie kind of guy), but if you need any help on the nuke stuff at Chel, give me a yell. I spent 13 years of my life as a reactor operator in both military installations as well as commercial ones. I've got a pretty good handle on some of the terms and their implications. If you got it covered, cool. If you want a little help along the way, I'm here.

matt235

Posted by: freebird

Matt, OzGuy had a bit of a conflict with another member and has not been around for awhile. Sorry to say but it's happened too often lately....

It would be nice if everyone could just chill out a bit.

Posted by: matt235

yeah, I kind of figured that since I haven't seen his name popping up lately. too bad.

Posted by: freebird

Quote:

Originally Posted by Texas Proud

I will say to some who are reading this thread.... there were some very lucky guys here who got one the first time they threw in their line....

Agreed TP, it kinda makes one look at it in a more realistic way if you have to work at it.

The best reply to those who can say "If I go for 3 weeks and it doesn't click -I'll just have a holiday"

I don't know about you, but to go over there for 3 weeks & spend $6,000 - $8,000 -- I can't do that more than about 3 times a year. If I can only see one girl per trip it would take 3 - 4 years to meet my top 10!

If I spend the time and money to go, I want to make it worthwhile