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Posted by: onlie7

One of the greatest things about online dating is that participants get to specify the exact type of person they are looking for. This can be done by joining a dating online service, or posting a personal profile.

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

Posted by: Ellen

Dear Wizard of dating business!

What should I do and HOW can I find reputable dating agencies if ALL friends, neigbors and co-workers think that I'm out of my mind looking for husband abroad ? And those who tried online dating scare me now with horrible stories. And I poor thing feel myself save at no one forum.

Thank ahead for your answer

Lenochka

Posted by: Rockyof Florida

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Originally Posted by onlie7

One of the greatest things about online dating is that participants get to specify the exact type of person they are looking for. This can be done by joining a dating online service, or posting a personal profile.

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

That would be nice asking friends,neighbors or co-workers if I were looking for someone in my country. But when I tell them I am looking for someone from the FSU, they think I am crazy. From most of who I told, only one was supportive. All of the rest were negative. So I don't discuss it with anyone.
Rocky

Posted by: GoingToRussia

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Originally Posted by Ellen

Dear Wizard of dating business!

What should I do and HOW can I find reputable dating agencies if ALL friends, neigbors and co-workers think that I'm out of my mind looking for husband abroad ? And those who tried online dating scare me now with horrible stories. And I poor thing feel myself save at no one forum.

Thank ahead for your answer

Lenochka

Ignore the "noise" and strive to reach your goal. I think everyone on this site who is married or has a visa must deal with negativity. If it calls for losing friends then so be it. They weren't friends if they do not support you. As far as family, they want to protect you or do not want you to leave and possibly live in a different country. Tell them if they love you, they must support you and be happy for you because you have a desire for this.

It is part of the process with a foreign relationship and normal. Sometimes you must have thick skin.

Best wishes and good luck to you.

Posted by: Ellen

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Originally Posted by GoingToRussia

So you advice me to drop-forget-ignore anything and everybody if they don;t share optmism about such odd goal wich reaching has such slim chance for sucsees?
As for family then what do you think about my abilities to support old parents if "suddenly" I would sucssess in this business and move abroad? Should I gain a thick skin about this issue as well ( because I do know for sure that no few 100$ banknotes would solve problems my parents would get in future due to aging ?)

Posted by: ham

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well, i was a member in 1997-8 of the FIRST dating site using this method of comparing lists of rated preferences by the dozens. They'd send you two "matches" every week ( a main & a fall-back one ). I made a point of writing each & every one of these and did FOR TWO YEARS. I HAD NO CORRESPONDENCE GOING!
I remember a girl ( 22yo at the time ) turned my message down all hot & bothered wondering how could i have written to her, since i was 26 and WAAAY TOO OLD for her!
What a bunch of phoneys.

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As for family then what do you think about my abilities to support old parents if "suddenly" I would sucssess in this business and move abroad? Should I gain a thick skin about this issue as well ( because I do know for sure that no few 100$ banknotes would solve problems my parents would get in future due to aging ?)

IF a woman is honest, she will be upfront in her needs or wishes. She will make it clear beyond any doubt that she needs-wants-expects-desires to support her aging parents to the farthest extent.
After all, we all have our needs and not everyone may be a good match.
She should be prepared to negative attitudes and to see many (supposedly) good prospects going away...it's part of life.
The world owes nothing to you or anybody.
While "meeting half way" is a nice concept, most times it just won't happen.

Posted by: GoingToRussia

Your question was about getting support from friends and family ... not about taking care of aging parents. They are 2 separate and different issues. You need to tell your future spouse that you have aging parents and they need to be taken care of. If he can't do it in his country, then he must live in your country. He may have the same issues with his parents. You may not be compatible because of this. Compromise is a part of marriage. If you can't compromise ... don't marry.

Good luck.

Posted by: Ellen

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Originally Posted by GoingToRussia

Your question was about getting support from friends and family ... not about taking care of aging parents. They are 2 separate and different issues. You need to tell your future spouse that you have aging parents and they need to be taken care of. If he can't do it in his country, then he must live in your country. He may have the same issues with his parents. You may not be compatible because of this. Compromise is a part of marriage. If you can't compromise ... don't marry.

Good luck.

counting on support of family I can;t not to think at the SAME time about what would I do with them later. I think I need to decide this issue for myself BEFORE I would start a searching for any spouse

Wonder who of you did discuss that issue at early starge of relatioaship - such reasonings like parents should be ( or better must) glad for you and that they are too proud to get any help from you don't pass for me.

( from what I saw girls in this bisiness put aside that isue for "better times" which never come for thier parents because this problem has almost zero % of good for each sides solution )

Any way point was actually not about parents issue itself but that there are SOOOO many unsolved in principle matter isues in this busines and a chance to get a "reward" for all future losts is soooo slim that I would never bother myself with such searchings - îâ÷èíêà âûäåëêè íå ñòîèò ( well may be I'm too pessimistic or not enough desperated or I would have another attitude to that)

all wrote above is IMHO

Posted by: nocomfortzone

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Originally Posted by Ellen

Wow! You are pessimistic but you need to think about all the people that are important in your life and how they can fit in the future you vision for yourself. If you can't see a possibility you'll be happy with, don't go down that path until you can which seems like the smart part about your thinking as you are not.

I had my adventure of testing out the online dating thing in 2006 but i was certainly not thinking of meeting a women overseas. However that is what happened and once i realised we started liking each other i had to give some thought to the potential of creating a life with someone from overseas so it is not something to go into lightly as a lot of factors have to be taken into account such as the family connections of the person leaving their birthland.
Personally i just thought if i was willing to create a lifetime relationship with her then her family connections would be just as important to me for her own happiness otherwise i cannot understand anyone's thinking that was to go down such a path in life with an international relationship

Posted by: ham

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well, yes.
BOTH PARTIES SHOULD BE VERY BOLD & UPFRONT IN THEIR NEEDS.
Not the time to "sugar coat" it, but to tell it bluntly the way it is.
Personally, i am profoundly convinced in-laws are deal breakers & i want no deal breaker in my life messing with it.
I know countless people whose relationships failed with the help of in-laws.

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Any way point was actually not about parents issue itself but that there are SOOOO many unsolved in principle matter isues in this busines and a chance to get a "reward" for all future losts is soooo slim that I would never bother myself with such searchings - îâ÷èíêà âûäåëêè íå ñòîèò ( well may be I'm too pessimistic or not enough desperated or I would have another attitude to that)

Not necessarily.
Just be honest.
If i love anal sex, country music and congolese indigenous food of a compulsive love, and cannot do without them, i'd BETTER be upfront about it.
Forget "best self" and accomodating approaches: you can't discipline the influence of a third party in your life as if it were the volume of a TV.
Of course i notice i tend to loose points RAPIDLY when i tell FSUWs i do not intend to support/get involved with extended families.
Their reaction doesn't offend me; it just probably means they're not interested in me as a person than in the meeting of THEIR commodious, self-serving goals: fair enough.