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Posted by: em23

hello i have not posted in a while. ill give a quick rundown of my experiences in the search for a bride.

im 34, widowed with no children. i started looking and writing ladies around early 2005. i went to the ukraine in september of 2006 to meet a lady i had corresponded for 6 months, only to find out that the agency i was writing to was (according to her) exxagerating and falsifying letters on both our behalfs. we couldnt stand each other and 24 hours after i arrived in kiev, our meeting ended. the mistake i did was to put all my eggs in one basket and concentrate on her. luckily i had another backup agency and a list of additional ladies that i was interested in and the trip wasnt so bad after all. the ladies were very pleasant and even if i didnt find the one for me, i knew i would return.

so far i have narrowed the search to 2 ladies in kharkov. however they are with different agencies. they both seem very nice and genuine and i have had numerous video conferences with them. they both know what i look like and what i do for a living. however they do NOT know of each other.

i guess the biggest resistance of this trip is coming from my family and friends. im getting an earful from them as to how "ridiculous and dangerous" this is. considering what happened to me in the last trip, it's tough to defend what im about to do again. there are times when i remember the bad experience i had in kiev (only at first) but i also remember the sweet ladies that i met afterwards. i fell in love with the ukraine and i always find it hard to explain to my family about my wishes to find a ukrainian bride.

i have written these ladies for about 4 to 6 months and im just hoping that they wait for me cause ill be there soon.

Posted by: Chrismc

EM

Three years ago I went to Kharkov also to meet one lady, it was a disaster, she was nothing like she promoted herself to be, however, I did have a back up plan and met a lovely lady while I was there and she ended up coming to visit me in the UK a number of times, we split up very amicably because we were not suited to each other for a long time commitment, (my story is on here - and there is more about my original trip to Kharkov onhere too) we still remain friends though.

I have since returned to Russia etc and I am currently involved with a lady from Russia who just happens to live in Scotland. We met for the fourth time this weekend.

Don't let the naysayers put you off, there are thousands of good ladies over in the FSU and some maybe a little nearer to home than you would imagine.

It is your life, don't let anyone try and run it for you and that includes family and friends.

Chris

Posted by: EasyTarget

EM:
I really wouldn't allow one bad apple (or agency) spoil your thoughts about meeting someone. Also your family and friends don't want to see you get hurt, if you find the right woman I am sure they will support you.

When do you plan on going back? Soon I hope.

Posted by: Ronin_FM3

Well, people are convinced I am a raving lunatic for my involvement with this. But they're not too surprised; I tend to get involved up to my eyeballs in things. It seems that I can't do things "half-way".

I, too, fell in love with Ukraine. I'll be in Odessa for the first 2 weeks of July. I can't believe that I have been to Ukraine and Russia several times already and speak Russian...I never dreamed that I'd be doing anything like this. I never expected Ukraine itself to have such a dramatic effect upon me. There's just no explaining it to people.

Posted by: sidney

Ronin you're in a good area to practice your russian with the community north of Phili.
Sid

Posted by: GoingToRussia

Ten year ago, would anyone think they would be looking for a wife in the FSU? Not me but it is one of the best things I ever did. I am like you em23, I am determined to have a FSU woman as my bride!

Good luck and happy landings!

Posted by: Ronin_FM3

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Originally Posted by sidney

Ronin you're in a good area to practice your russian with the community north of Phili.
Sid

Yes, there is a sizable Russian and Ukrainian population in my neighborhood. I actually work across the river in NJ, so I don't get to spend as much time in my own neighborhood as I'd like.

It is actually quite fun to surprise people with my Russian language. I just don't have the "air" of a Russian person, I could not be passed off as a Russian. So, it always comes as a great surprise to people when I begin to speak Russian. It is a relatively unusual thing for someone other than a Russian to speak the language. In schools, kids learn Spanish, French, German, Italian, etc. But Russian is unheard of (strange expression, "unheard of"...bad English, actually!).

Often, people ask me if perhaps I am from Poland! My accent sounds Polish! I can't hear it, I have no idea how my accented Russian actually sounds, but I suppose it sounds Polish!

I was asked this in Kiev a couple of times also.

I had a sad experience once, although it turned out OK. An older Russian woman, apparently suffering from a bit of senility, wandered out of her home and got lost. She didn't know where she lived exactly, couldn't remember. But, I came across her as 2 policemen were trying to talk to her. She was obviously lost and frightened a bit, and they couldn't understand a word (if she knew any English, she had forgotten it). So I was able to help, and I found that she had her phone number written on a piece of paper which she kept with her (fortunately).

Having obviously lived through the Soviet era, she was quite scared of the police, and upset that she couldn't understand what they were saying. She was afraid that she was in trouble.

So, it was a cool thing to be able to help out.

Posted by: em23

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Originally Posted by EasyTarget

EM:
I really wouldn't allow one bad apple (or agency) spoil your thoughts about meeting someone. Also your family and friends don't want to see you get hurt, if you find the right woman I am sure they will support you.

When do you plan on going back? Soon I hope.

hopefully late july or august