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How soon did you support your padroga after first meeting
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Posted by: shaun1000

I guess the title says it all really would appreciate any advice and any comments on the best way to raise the subject of me starting to support her. For English lessons, internet,driving and living expenses.

In fact I think this is the only subjectmy lady and me haven`t talked about yet.

If thier is a thread on this subject already can someone redirect me.

thanks

Shaun

Posted by: AkMike

Shaun, I left money for english lessons stashed in a book on her shelf with a letter explaining myb desire to be able to understand her and it was an investment in our future. On the way to the airport I told her about the money and what my desire was concerning the money. It was easy to tell that she wanted to learn and oiur letters were much easier. She wouldn't take any money for food and such while I was there,,,,, She's pretty self sufficient. The rest is a very pleasant history! That was the best money I've ever spent.

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The bad part was that sheb was taught British english so the slang made it difficult when she got here. That wouldn't be a problem for you though..

Posted by: shaun1000

Thanks AkMike for your experience advice.

My lady already jokes about my accent LOL. She goes to English classes already perhaps I can suggest she goes more often with my help.

Posted by: AkMike

IMO that'd be a wonderful way to invest in your futures. If she's a possible scammer you'll soon know when her langage skills don't improve. Also.. Tatysik (my wife) went thru a couple of teachers before she found a good one. All teachers aren't created equally! Word of mouth recomendations are best!

Posted by: Ade

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Originally Posted by AkMike

SNIP
Edit..
The bad part was that sheb was taught British english so the slang made it difficult when she got here. That wouldn't be a problem for you though..

Hi,

Shouldn't that be she was taught proper English?

I remember a few years ago some friends went to Texas. They ended up in a Mexican bar, and after being asked where they were from (England!), one of the girls asked them to speak some 'Englander' to her.

They didn't laugh because all the men were big and tattoed...

Ade

Posted by: AkMike

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Originally Posted by Ade

Hi,

Shouldn't that be she was taught proper English?

Ade,
I really doubt that King George would be able to understand any spoken english today! Yet alone aussie...

Heaven forbid!
The langage has evolved to match the times.

Posted by: Cheburashka

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Originally Posted by Ade

That's just too funny! Yet another reason why some men from Texas prefer ladies from Russia. There is more to life than big hair, fake boobs, and empty heads.

Posted by: Zmejka

I'm sorry but my opinion is it's too early to starting to support anyone after only one meeting. Who is she to you? Still not a fiancee, just a date. The fact you travelled long to see her doesn't add much to it in my perspective. How many girlfriends of yours got support from you after the first meeting? Is it your natural gest of a generous soul? Men seem always to forget that it's mutual process - finding someone. If she's also serious in it she will gladly do everything necessary like learning Enlgish on her own, without hoping for help of visiting foreigners. Are you committed to each other? So there're no men visiting in between each supporting her. And when you're you can help her. But untill that time - i see no reason why you should do it. Let her chose you for who you are with her and not for how much she can allow with you.

Posted by: AkMike

I didn't support her in any way except for the english lessons. To me that was an investment just like playing the ponies or stock market,,, EXCEPT for much larger stakes.
Even now I'm sending money over there for english lessons for her best friend. She has enough for the basics of life but not extra for english lessons. She's a nurse and has been at that job in a hospital for awhile but times are tight in Ukraine.
I don't support the idea of paying their way after 1 or 2 meetings but in order for the language barrier to be bridged lessons have to be taught in order to get to know each other better. I did suppiort her over there after we were married but she didn't spend any of it . Sher made enought to get by until I had the visa paperwork ready to bring her to the US. Tatysik is a fairly independant woman and wants to contribute to our family. She has made great efforts to be able to do that. I do the same and appreciate it.

Posted by: cedarwind

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Originally Posted by Zmejka

I'm sorry but my opinion is it's too early to starting to support anyone after only one meeting. Who is she to you? Still not a fiancee, just a date. The fact you travelled long to see her doesn't add much to it in my perspective. How many girlfriends of yours got support from you after the first meeting? Is it your natural gest of a generous soul? Men seem always to forget that it's mutual process - finding someone. If she's also serious in it she will gladly do everything necessary like learning Enlgish on her own, without hoping for help of visiting foreigners. Are you committed to each other? So there're no men visiting in between each supporting her. And when you're you can help her. But untill that time - i see no reason why you should do it. Let her chose you for who you are with her and not for how much she can allow with you.

I would agree, if you send her support she may just keep the support and keep looking.

A friend of mines husband had this happen to him. He meet a women from Russia and started to support her ($500 a month) then 6 months latter he returned to get Engaged to only find out that she had been married for 4 months but did not tell him She did not see any problem with it as he was the one sending the money but did not ask for commitment first.

But I also think you need to take in to consideration if she is poor or has difficulties making ends meet, I personal would send some money but very little like maybe $50 every other month to help with internet. If this was the case.

Posted by: shaun1000

Some great advice there guys i will be taking it.Thanks a lot.

Posted by: AkMike

BTW Shaun, Pagroga should be pronounced and spelled a tad differently. The o should be a U sound. Pa-drUga according to my sweeetie.