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Posted by: GoeastLJ

Back in June, I went to Ukraine to meet my first ever 'RW' and we had such a great time I thought I was in Love. We had another meeting planned for July, but my lady friend pulled out just 2 days before I was to depart. I was gutted and didn't take that trip and lost the ticket money. I spent quite some time licking my wounds for I was into this lady (pardon the pun) big time.

It seems like Lanas are full of surprises - she sends me an sms on Christmas Day wishing me good luck and all. My eyes nearly popped out and I had to keep checking the sms to make sure it was from her. And it was from her. Just today, she sends me another sms asking me if we could meet again! I am confused. I am about to visit another lady who I started communicating with after losing Lana. Help. The full story of my visit is here http://russianmeetingplace.com/foru...ead.php?t=10920

Posted by: I/O

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Originally Posted by GoeastLJ

Back in June, I went to Ukraine to meet my first ever 'RW' and we had such a great time I thought I was in Love. We had another meeting planned for July, but my lady friend pulled out just 2 days before I was to depart. I was gutted and didn't take that trip and lost the ticket money. I spent quite some time licking my wounds for I was into this lady (pardon the pun) big time.

It seems like Lanas are full of surprises - she sends me an sms on Christmas Day wishing me good luck and all. My eyes nearly popped out and I had to keep checking the sms to make sure it was from her. And it was from her. Just today, she sends me another sms asking me if we could meet again! I am confused. I am about to visit another lady who I started communicating with after losing Lana. Help. The full story of my visit is here http://russianmeetingplace.com/foru...ead.php?t=10920

Mate...!! I haven't had time to read the other thread, but my view has always been that if you want to see the future, first look at the history. If you have been jerked around once, you'll get jerked around again.

Maybe I have gotten too hard in my old age, but in such matters, they get one shot with me. Take steps...big long ones...!!! In the opposite direction..!!

Posted by: Chrismc

GoEast

I remember your original thread, I also seem to remember you saying she was under pressure from family, friends etc to finish it with you, I also remember you saying that really you had already made your decision on her back then?

You also stated you had your doubts and even if you continued it was going to take a lot of hard work!

You have to ask yourself, are things going to be different this time and if so why?

If you are convinced they will be better, then maybe you think about it long and hard, otherwise I would move on and visit the lady you are currently writing to. Things don't always work second time around and why would she be so sure her family/friends etc would still not be against your relationship now? and even if that was OK, what will make things work out this time when they didn't last time?

Just my tuppence worth!

Chris

Posted by: Big wheel

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Originally Posted by GoeastLJ

I would move on my friend. move on.

Posted by: cedarwind

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Originally Posted by GoeastLJ

MOVE ON,

I had a similar experience and now more than 1 year latter 2 of the EX"GF" still send me gifts or emails on my birthdays and holidays.....They do not write for 6 months but they do not wish to let you go as they are still shopping for a better deal and they do not want to lose you just in case.....Personally I am not into the games.

About the lost ticket….MMM glad to see that I am not the only one…..I bought a ticket for $1200 to see a girl but then her mother did not want us to meet so I went with my Plan B which made me buy a 2nd ticket from Moscow to Kiev …but that fell through also so I lost $2000...It hurts

Best of luck to you.

Posted by: Manchester

Why did she pull out 2 days before departure? Unless a family death or something of similar importance I would move on also - There are many women who dont play such games! - The sms is just keeping her options open to see how much of a sucker you are - sucker in courtship - sucker in marriage!

Find a nice Russian girl and forget Ukraine, pay the extra $100 for the visa and hit the Motherland, not the facsimile that is full of pro daters and Fat Yuri! Its not as hard as you think in Russia!

Posted by: cedarwind

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Originally Posted by Manchester

Find a nice Russian girl and forget Ukraine, pay the extra $100 for the visa and hit the Motherland, not the facsimile that is full of pro daters and Fat Yuri! Its not as hard as you think in Russia!

MMM interesting comment all the RW I know in the US, my translator, and most of the Married AM / RW / UW tell me to stick to Ukrainian women just not from Kiev. Why do you think such?

Posted by: markgm

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Originally Posted by Manchester

Why did she pull out 2 days before departure? Unless a family death or something of similar importance I would move on also - There are many women who dont play such games! - The sms is just keeping her options open to see how much of a sucker you are - sucker in courtship - sucker in marriage!

Find a nice Russian girl and forget Ukraine, pay the extra $100 for the visa and hit the Motherland, not the facsimile that is full of pro daters and Fat Yuri! Its not as hard as you think in Russia!

Carefull what you post my wife and daughter are Ukrainian and Russia its self has just as many pro daters and fat yuris and boris's.

Goeast I remember your first posts as well move on mate.

Posted by: bingism

GoEast.... I would move on! Anyone who pulls out of an expensive and eagerly awaited trip two days before (unless for real reasons) is somneone that I would want to steer well clear of. She knew that you would had paid out a lot of cash (in relative terms to her at least) and that you were really looking forward to the trip. Personally, I believe that this is someone who has little respect for other people since she hasn't even given you a good explanation as to what happened. The festive season makes lonely people feel lonelier and hence the SMS she sent you... sorry!

Posted by: GoeastLJ

Thank you very much, guys. I appreciate your opinions very much. In a democratic world, I should move on! And I will move on because I think my emotions have moved on as well. If it had been earlier, I would probably have wanted to give it another go. When I queried the agency at that time, they told me she was communicating with other guys as well.

And yes, this was going to be our second meeting and we were going to stay in an apartment. It was her 34th Birthday the same week and I had bought her some presents; expensive perfumes, a nice designer watch (because I knew she needed a good watch), a nice handbag (we had spent our last night in Yalta trying to repair the zip on the one she had).

It is very rare to hear what you want to hear.

St Petersburg, here I come (19th Jan).

Posted by: Manchester

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Originally Posted by MarkGM

Carefull what you post my wife and daughter are Ukrainian.

My comment was in no way to insult any Ukranian women who are married or involved with readers/members. My view is explained below and I am still looking for the tongue in cheek smiley.

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Originally Posted by cedarwind

MMM interesting comment all the RW I know in the US, my translator, and most of the Married AM / RW / UW tell me to stick to Ukrainian women just not from Kiev. Why do you think such?

I think Ukraine is a pond that is overfished, it is the easy route as no visa is required, hence most people go there. There is only a finite number of women who when presented with such a choice of foreign men are often happy to play games with them as like buses, there will be another along in a minute.

I beleive that if you are searching, it is good advice to go the extra distance, and get a visa and get into Russia itself. Only my opinion, not intended to start a Russia/Ukraine debate on this thread.

Posted by: markgm

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Originally Posted by Manchester

My comment was in no way to insult any Ukranian women who are married or involved with readers/members. My view is explained below and I am still looking for the tongue in cheek smiley.

I think Ukraine is a pond that is overfished, it is the easy route as no visa is required, hence most people go there. There is only a finite number of women who when presented with such a choice of foreign men are often happy to play games with them as like buses, there will be another along in a minute.

I beleive that if you are searching, it is good advice to go the extra distance, and get a visa and get into Russia itself. Only my opinion, not intended to start a Russia/Ukraine debate on this thread.

Sorry that was my dry sense of Humor coming out. Being an Australian we still need visas to go there it is only people from USA/UK that no longer need visas to go there due to the investments USA/UK companies have been putting into Ukraine.

The large cities in Ukraine yes they have been overfished but there are many more smaller cities, towns and villages where you find very good genuine women.

Posted by: Seaview

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Originally Posted by cedarwind

MMM interesting comment all the RW I know in the US, my translator, and most of the Married AM / RW / UW tell me to stick to Ukrainian women just not from Kiev. Why do you think such?

Because economic situation and incomes in Ukrania are much lower than in Russia. As a result, Ukranian ladies are much more often interested in leaving the country and finding a well-off guy.