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Apparently Daycare is better in Russia also
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Posted by: EZE

Only day 3 of our 2 year old daughter staying with a day care and the list of shortfalls of the American day care system is growing.

What!? They don't brush and fix up little girls hair after naptime!?

What!? They aren't smart enough to know why she has four sets of clothes (1 for indoor, 1 for outdoor, 2 backups for the others)!?

What!? They can't feed her healthy!? She is used to only good food and is starving when she comes home. (Next morning she makes cabbage soup and tells me to take it to the day care, Oi!)

Apparently in Russia the are 2 daycare providers for every 26 children and they can at least do these things. Here there are 2 for every 14 and they can't do these things. So yet one more thing where Russia is better.

Next little bump just hit. Never a dull moment.

Posted by: Chrismc

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Originally Posted by EZE

Only day 3 of our 2 year old daughter staying with a day care and the list of shortfalls of the American day care system is growing.

What!? They don't brush and fix up little girls hair after naptime!?

What!? They aren't smart enough to know why she has four sets of clothes (1 for indoor, 1 for outdoor, 2 backups for the others)!?

What!? They can't feed her healthy!? She is used to only good food and is starving when she comes home. (Next morning she makes cabbage soup and tells me to take it to the day care, Oi!)

Apparently in Russia the are 2 daycare providers for every 26 children and they can at least do these things. Here there are 2 for every 14 and they can't do these things. So yet one more thing where Russia is better.

Next little bump just hit. Never a dull moment.

Lifes never dull for you EZE is it

it must be really frustrating for her, knowing these things are not being done? she is not happy about these small things and yet I bet the service is so much better in most other areas of your/her life, if my experiences of some Ukrainian services are anything to go buy!!

Posted by: j_c

Sorry EZE not aware of your situation, but I take that your wife has just moved to be with you?

I know what your going through, my wife was just the same, on the bright side it only lasted about 12 months, funnily enough around the same time as when we returned back to Russia.

Its strange how you look back and always see the good, but not the bad things!

She definatley now appreciates the benefits of living in the west

Regards

JC

Posted by: Spakoyna

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Originally Posted by EZE

I asked my wife about this and indeed Russian Daycare is as your wife describes!

Posted by: Jill

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Originally Posted by EZE

Don't know about Russia, but daycare varies WIDELY in the US. My daughter is in daycare while I'm in class and the care is excellent. There are at least two (sometimes three) adults for the six kids in her group, they are dressed appropriately to play outside, they are dressed for naptime, they are dressed for indoor play, and are fed VERY healthy foods (although no cabbage soup

). If you are not satisfied with your daycare center, then switch! You daughter deserves the best care available, so sometimes you need to shop around. Also, have you thought about hiring a nanny instead of daycare? That way you and your wife would have more control about what goes on.

Posted by: JamesB

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Originally Posted by Spakoyna

I asked my wife about this and indeed Russian Daycare is as your wife describes!

I can relate to this.My wife liuda has been in London with me for 2 months and to be honest she does nothing but find fault.Everything id supposedly better in Russia.Its driving me mad but hey ho.

Posted by: Chrismc

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Originally Posted by JamesB

I can relate to this.My wife liuda has been in London with me for 2 months and to be honest she does nothing but find fault.Everything id supposedly better in Russia.Its driving me mad but hey ho.

James....give here a few more months to get used to things here then take her back to Russia for a while to see how life used to be for her, that will probably stop her!!

I think this is understandable after only being here for a short while, but I am sure eventually she will realise that life is better here for most things.

Chris

Posted by: NotDimaBilan

Most daycare in Russia is called time spent with babushka. Plus, daycare is brutial anywhere you go. Strange concept if you ask me.

Posted by: inlove

Find a better day care center.

Posted by: EZE

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Originally Posted by JamesB

I can relate to this.My wife liuda has been in London with me for 2 months and to be honest she does nothing but find fault.Everything id supposedly better in Russia.Its driving me mad but hey ho.

Yes, everything is better in Russia! That is why we looked for a Russian Spouse

Some things are, some things are not. It is very frustrating for them in a new country.... simple things are hard, hard things are simple, all the rules have changed. It takes some time of course to adjust. Our first year together I heard that things were better in Russia on a pretty regular basis. UNTIL she went back to visit after the first year.

After the third day she called and said she could never go back there to live. Even simple things were so much more difficult than here. She just really missed her family, but, other than that, she had a much better life in the west.

So when you hear, "It is much better in Russia" it is fair, in most cases, to translate it as "I was very familiar with how this should be done in Russia, and comfortable with it, and this is different here, and there are to many things that are different here for me to adjust to.... so this should be like it is in Russia so I am more comfortable with it!

In any case it is an interesting journey together. But the levels of understanding are kinda like peeling an onion.

My wife recently mentioned an interesting observation she had to me.

When she first came here, she thought the USA was full of handicapped people and we must be very unhealthy. She recently started a job working in the men's section of Macy's and had a blind man ask her to help him pick out a suit for a job interview. That is when she realized we are not more unhealthy in the USA, you just see more people with disabilities in public. In Russia, from the ones she knows, people with "problems" are pretty much forced to stay at home. Here they are out and about.

It seems I am rambling again.

But just a quick update on the child care (original topic). We found a place that appears to put a lot more effort into the personal attention than our original day care, as well as a better menu. But the education part was no where near as good. So our compromise is to stay where she is, but we feed her traditional Russian cabbage soup at both ends of her stay there, and we alternate lunch hours to visit her and wipe her nose/check to make sure her hair is still fabulous etc.

-eze

Posted by: Chrismc

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Originally Posted by EZE

When she first came here, she thought the USA was full of handicapped people and we must be very unhealthy. She recently started a job working in the men's section of Macy's and had a blind man ask her to help him pick out a suit for a job interview. That is when she realized we are not more unhealthy in the USA, you just see more people with disabilities in public. In Russia, from the ones she knows, people with "problems" are pretty much forced to stay at home. Here they are out and about.

-eze

Thats exactly what I was told also Eze, she was surprised by how a lot of handicapped people had wheelchairs and some older people had little electric buggies, made her laugh but she was very happy that these same people had a life, and also the fact that she saw many more older people out and about and doing things rather than sitting at home never going anywhere.

We passed a bus stop one day and there was a big queu of people in their 60's and 70's waiting to go on a trip and she could not believe it, she said in Ukraine these people just sit at home doing nothing.